why does my boyfriend constantly think i am or would cheat?Everytime i gotta run to the store or to the gas station anything he thinks there is some kind of hidden agenda behind it.When i feel like dressing up nicer than i normally would he thinks there is a reason for it.He is always askin me if im sure i love him,if i care about him and all that.I mean i can understand him askin because he likes to be reassured but not 10 times a day.I just wanna know if anyone maybe might know why he does this.
2007-03-28 07:01:51 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i ask him if he wants out of this relationship everytime he asks.i thought maybe he was just looking for an excuse out and didnt wanna be the bad person.He was cheated on with his ex and that probably alot of his problem
2007-03-28 07:12:13 · update #1
Because he's insecure, and he probably will never change. Dump him.
2007-03-28 07:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. He's insecure. If he's young (under 20) then most likely he's insecure AND immature.
I've noticed that a lot of people who cheat are more often than not wondering about there "significant" other's actions. They tend to visualize the other person behaving the exact way that they do/did. So watch yourself there. If he's wondering what you are up to all the time then maybe you should check out what he's up to when you aren't around.
2007-03-28 14:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by Will H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone accuses the other of cheating 9 out of 10 times their doing the cheating and its guilt. If their not cheating this is the first steps of controlling you, where you go, when you go, what you wear etc. When men control women they usually think the women has bowed down and the beatings will begin. These men have issues that you cant fix.
2007-03-28 14:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's insecure. It may stem from being cheated on in the past, or just that there's something inside him that causes him to think he's not worthy of you and that you'll eventually move on to someone 'better'.
Suggest he get some counseling. Constantly having to reassure someone you aren't a cheater is exhausting and frustrating. Nobody likes to be accused of doing something ugly that they didn't do.
If there's no trust in your relationship...there's not much of a relationship. Fix the trust issue (the two of you) or you may want to consider moving on.
2007-03-28 14:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I feel that men or women who do this to their spouses is that they are in some way insecure about themselves. Or sometimes it can also be the they were in a past relationship where someone cheated on them, and probably hurt them pretty bad. Hope this is helpful.
2007-03-28 14:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by tene samoa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds really insecure. I think you should sit him down and let him know that you do truly madly deeply love him and he has nothing to worry about. Instead he should feel rewarded for having a great girl like you who loves him.
Or maybe he is cheating on you and is only accusing you so that he will not look like the guilty one.
2007-03-28 14:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Viaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he's been hurt in the past. And you're probably a very attractive woman. He's very insecure and doesn't want to lose you. He needs some kind of professional help. Because it seems no matter how much you try to reassure him, he can't validate himself. Good luck.
2007-03-28 14:10:27 · answer #7 · answered by badkittie2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has been cheated on before. But that isn't your fault, he is probably just insecure. If you want it to work out just talk to him about it. That is a minor fault, I mean honestly does it hurt you that bad to reassure him, sure it can get annoying. Tell him that it bothers you, but be nice about it. If you like him you can work it out.
2007-03-28 14:10:27 · answer #8 · answered by Russell W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a major problem which will only get worse with time. His insecurity will some day grow into anger. He needs help and you need some space. Lay down some ground rules before it is to late.
2007-03-28 14:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is insecurities,
I use to be like this, i cant stand women because it seems all they do is cheat or use the guy for something...
Find yourself a Christian guy, Some of em are really cool id say.
2007-03-28 14:25:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
insecurity is a relationship killer. He needs to stop it, hit him with logic- why am i with you if I am going to cheat on you. Its insulting that he thinks your so loose that you would try to mess around with others. He needs to hear this and if he still acts this way then you need to go bye bye. He obviously has personal issues with himself that need to be discussed and maybe he just needs brutal honesty.
Hey buddy I am with you no one else and if you think I am going to cheat on you , then your calling me a slut and thats not fair considering I only have eyes for one man and thats you, so grow up!
2007-03-28 14:11:08 · answer #11 · answered by chemreaction 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋