they have been together for 2 yrs now and they have an11 month and she is preg again and he told my husband that he dont want to marry he in july should we tell he cos he keeps leading her on
2007-03-28 06:53:23 · 30 answers · asked by STEPHEN W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You say nothing. Stay out of it.
2007-03-28 06:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Keep out of it. If this mate has thought it thru well enough to confide in your husband, he knows what he`s doing alright. Anyway, everyone goes thru that period of "cold feet" before marriage. At least he`s giving it some thought and not just jumping in. I don`t think this mate needs you or your husband to talk for him - just leave them alone and let them work it out. What if you did say something and this couple are still married in 50 years time ? Feel a bit stupid then wouldn`t you ? By the way having a child or being pregnant are not good enough reasons to get married. He might be having second thoughts about the wedding - and he might not - either way it doesn`t make him a bad father - and that`s the really important issue here.
2007-03-28 09:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by yahoobloo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it just me? I can't fathom your question out. You are called Stephen so it has got to be presumed you are male. You say "My mate told my husband that he did not want to marry his girlfriend". Unless it is a gay partnership I don't understand. However, the person you refer to sounds a real loser but I do have to say I think you had better say nothing. Thing is he could deny saying this and you would be the ones in wrong according to his girlfriend. I also admire you trying to help but unless it is a case of the wedding all arranged for a July date and you have definite proof he isn't actually going to turn up better say nothing.
2007-03-28 09:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, That is awful why hasn't he been honest with his girlfriend, does he want to stay with her, but not be married or just not to be with her at all. If he is a really good friend i would ask him what he intends to do. As it's not fair to keep leading his girlfriend on. He wants her for the s** obviously they wouldn't have one child and another on the way if he didn't. So it's about time he was man enough to admit the truth. I feel sorry for his girlfriend and children, but i also feel sorry for you because he has put you in an arkward position. Good Luck in whatever you decide to do,
2007-03-28 07:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I understand you right then your roommate's boyfriend, the father of her two children, doesn't want to marry her after 2 years of being together.
What a loser. Another deadbeat dad in this world. This is exactly why people who aren't married should not have children. Why do these kids deserve to grow up without their father? What give this guy the right to have kids and leave them?
And people wonder why this country if f****d up!
2007-03-28 06:59:19 · answer #5 · answered by Rick 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the saying "dont shoot the messanger"?, this is their problem and you should leave it down to him to tell her, you could open a whole can of worms if you speak up and you'll get no thanks just cold shoulders!
If i were in your shoes i would say nothing, it's down to him to be the big person and be honest with her!
2007-03-29 10:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have it out with the boyfriend! She is your mate and tell him that if he doesn't want to marry her then he should tell her. It's only fair.
I would not tell her though because it's got to come from him not you.
2007-03-29 04:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by laplandfan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say something then you are "the friend that ruined everything", even tho he is a jerk and you just happened to of found out. If you don't say anything thing then you are a "bad" friend. It was pretty shitty for 1)that guy to say that and 2)drag you both into it! I would stay out of it, let them figure it out, and just be there when he finally ups and leaves.
2007-03-28 07:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it's between the two of them. If she hasn't figured out yet that he doesn't want to marry her, you telling her will not make a difference. She is delusional, and needs to see it for herself.
2007-03-28 07:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That guy has some nerve. Is he a man or a child . They both need some professional help and when that is done then they could come to a solution. So my answer is that i don't think that it's your place to tell her in fact he should be a man and express him feelings.
2007-03-28 07:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by Alicia S 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would not tell her but you could maybe talk to him about what's going on.Don't get too involved.
Just mention that he really should tell her himself that he doesn't want to get married and to stop telling you guys.He needs to be fair and up front with her.
I don't understand why people are so thoughtless and uncaring toward one another.
2007-03-28 07:05:26 · answer #11 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋