Everytime me and girlfriend get into argument, she is always comparing me to her ex. Then she says that she just might as well be with him. Also, she is always talking about him. Is trying to make me jealous or does she really want to be with him?
2007-03-28 06:46:44 · 11 answers · asked by Anthony T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like she still has feelings for him and yes...wants to be with him. I've been there and done that (compared a guy to the x...etc) and I realized that I wanted to be with him because I still had feelings for him. Get rid of her! At this point she's just using you cuz her ex won't give her what she wants and you are (giving her what she wants...a relationship.)
2007-03-28 06:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by batchick5 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is holding you to her "great expectations" of what a boyfriend should be. You are not him and never will be. Do not try to fit into any of these ideas she holds. Depending on how long you guys have been dating, I would say she is infatuated with the ex still. This is not healthy for a relationship and will not subside unless you give her the boot. Though that sounds extreme, she sounds like she needs a swift kick to make her realize one of two things: Either she loves you or him. You dont want her anyway if all you will be doing is walking in someone elses shadow. There are millions of people out there, dont let one try to carbon copy you!
2007-03-28 13:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Angie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to assume that you are both young-ish, because this is a classic dating no-no that more experienced couples probably don't grapple with.
Does she really want to be with him? Probably not. But if she really equates you two that closely, maybe she doesn't want to be with you either.
Is she trying to make you jealous? Maybe not strictly jealous, but she's certainly trying to hurt your feelings and belittle you.
Next time she says that she may as well be with her ex, agree with her and tell her to go for it.
You are your own person and don't deserve to be constantly compared (unfavorably or not) to anyone else.
2007-03-28 14:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by Sonny K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She realley wants to be with her ex. She herself probably is not aware of it. Tell her "yes, she should be with her ex because it is plain to you she is still in love with him as she keeps trying to change you into him. and she tells you all the time she "might just as well be with him" The might just as well is hidding the I want to be with him
2007-03-28 14:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you listen all these rubbish arguments, it shows your not a friend to her just you are a time pass person. Don't waste your time and money on her.
2007-03-28 13:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by y?why? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to stop thinking about him and see what the issues is between you two. Her issue could be not having him
2007-03-28 13:56:04 · answer #6 · answered by unverified 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can't always bring someone else into the picture.
2007-03-28 13:53:35 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get her feelings straight...probably ya'll should take a break!!
good luck!!
2007-03-28 13:53:39 · answer #8 · answered by J[o]a[N]n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats harsh, sorry. If she always talks about him that can't be good.
2007-03-28 13:52:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Test her. Kick her to the curb and see if she goes to him.
2007-03-28 13:54:13 · answer #10 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋