I have been seeing a guy I met online for two years now. He's great and very dedicated to me. I feel that I can trust him to be faithful and we both enjoy our time together, even though we don't get to see each other often (we're 800 miles away). The only thing I don't like about him is his sense of humor and his temper. But both of those are not out of control. I am also seeing a guy locally. We have the same sense of humor and he is also dedicated to me and we enjoy our time together. However, I do not feel comfortable being intimate with the local guy because my online relationship has been going on longer. I know I am going to have to make a choice because I haven't been completely honest about the relationships with either one. But I am single, and not committed to either. But I think it's time to get committed. What should I do?
2007-03-28 06:41:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guy in your area.
Time is not a reason to choose one person over another. You don't like his sense of humor or his temper - two big minuses against the long distance guy and he's 800 miles away to boot!
The guy in your area is close, same sense of humor, you obviously have a connection, and he's dedicated to you. Sounds perfect!
The only thing holding you back is that you haven't told the online guy that you want to break up. So, shoot him an email telling him you would rather be friends only and leave it at that. There is no reason to feel guilty. After that, no reason to be uncomfortable being intimate with the local guy.
Good luck, hope things work out!
2007-03-28 06:51:51 · answer #1 · answered by TMemories 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance relationship for 2 years, that makes no sence to me. If I was really interested in online guy, I would've moved or had him move like a year ago. If the guy has issues with temper and/or inappropriate sence of humour while it's a long-distance thing, chances are it will only get worse if you two lived together. So I think you should end that relationship, not because you want the local guy instead, but because it doesn't seem like a relationship that's going anywhere. Once the online relationship is over, then make a decision about the local guy, or you may decide that he's not what you're looking for either. I just hate when people get in these situations and they think their only options are guy #1 or guy #2.
2007-03-28 13:51:35 · answer #2 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were really ready to 'commit' to one of them, you would know which one you liked better by now. Obviously distance, sense of humor and temper are big issues to deal with. You can't change a persons sense of humor, and if he's got a temper, that won't likely change either.
I think you should break it off with the long distance cyber dork- bc he's probably married or a 12 yr old boy...and keep dating around until you find someone that leaves no doubt in your mind. It will happen eventually.
2007-03-28 13:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow , do u need to make a desicion soon! the longer you drag it out the harder it will be on you and one or both of the guys , first of all you should have been honest with both of those guys, remember karma is a *****!!your not being at all fair ot either of those guys , you have to make a descion, sit alone and think about it , who do you think you would be able to have around all your life, who do u have more fun with without worrying your head off, you have to go into your heart and find yourself to make this desicion , now ,just think of these questions, with the guy thats 800 miles, how old is he , is he old enough to move out here with you i know if you really love each other it has to be hard for you , but then again if you really loved him you wouldnt be going out with a guy locally either so , ... but i know it has to be hard because i went through the same thing except i wasn't a hoe about it i didnt mess around with another guy.
2007-03-28 13:59:05 · answer #4 · answered by faygo_foamy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the time being, my advice would be to stick with the guy thats in your area. Some questions you should ask yourself are... even though you dont like his humor or temper, are there a lot of good qualities that stick out? which do you like more? do both of them treat you right? have you and the guy that lives 800 miles away ever actually gotten a chance to hang out in person? because things def. change from the internet and phone to person-to-person. Just follow your heart and it'll lead you in the right direction. good luck =]
2007-03-28 13:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Local guy.
2007-03-28 13:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by searching_please 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋