I am a stay at home mom and I watch 2 other children a boy who is 17months and a girl who is 15 months. My son from day 1 has been with me when i would nanny and as of oct last yr i started to stay home. so this is not a new thing for him he has always had to share me but im wondering if its something else. My son in the past 3 months has started to blatenly not listen to what i say. he will hit the other kids or if i ask him to do or not to do something he will hit what ever is closest to him. I treat all the kids equally and when the 2 leave at the end of the day my son gets ALL my attention since his dad works all the time. Im just wondering what is the best way i can handel this. my patience is runnig thin and i feel horrible raiseing my voice all the time.
2007-03-28 06:35:11 · 15 answers · asked by aydenzmom05 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I've been having the same trouble w/my almost 18mo old. I'm starting to wonder if its because he gets too much of my attention. I'm a stay-at-home mom and he won't let me get anything done because he thinks its all about him. Well, up until this last week it has been all about him. I've started gently steering him away from me when I'm trying to work and I say, "No, Mommy's working, you'll have to wait a minute." I think its starting to work because he now knows I'm not going to entertain him 24/7. He will now say,"In a minute" and go to play by himself until I'm finished. Then I give him an hour of my undivided attention and then start the process all over again. Your son may need you to pay him a little less attention for him to realize that you're not another playmate or just one of the other kids...you're MOM and that carries at least some authority.
2007-03-28 06:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by mamasonny 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know you hear from some moms that their children never went through the terrible twos or never had an attitude because guess what, it can be controlled. Do you discipline your little boy other than yelling at him? I know that yelling doesn't work first hand because...well my little girl cant speak english so how is she going to know what I'm saying. I'm a firm believer in spanking- say what you will about child abuse or whatever CPS has come up with- but my kids will never disrespect me and I will always be in control. It has been done for years- parents raising kids that are well behaved, and parents raising kids that aren't. I don't care how many thumbs down I'm going to get for admitting to spanking- see me when your kids are throwing temper tantrums for not getting what they want in the candy isle while mine is being well mannered.
2007-03-30 23:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It cant possibly be the other children. People have multiple children of there own all the time, and there kids dont act like this. I have 18 month old twins, and a 5 month old, and the twins are just fine. They have always shared the attention. When he doesnt listen, I would honestly give him a swat. My kids are so well behaved and listen and so smart, they KNOW when they are doing something wrong. That is why they look at me when doing it, to see what I am going to say. When they know what they are doing, and that it is wrong, you have to do something other they yell. You need to either show him you are mommy and give him a swat, or try a time out in his bed. Something, but yelling wont get you anywhere. Good luck!
2007-03-28 13:57:48 · answer #3 · answered by Bl3ss3dw1thL1f3 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
It's developmentaly approprite for him to test boundries. He wants to know what the rules are and he finds that out by trying everything out, including hitting or screaming to get what he wants. Time out is good if he's angry and you explain to him that you can't "hear" him when he screams or when he's not being respectful, but using it as a punishment only affirms that the biggest or toughest person wins the arguement. The most important thing to remember is to always respect his feelings but never, ever, ever give in to bullying. Use phrases like, "I'm sorry that makes you angry, I understand that you want a cookie, but you can't have one now." and when he throws a fit (which he definitly will at first) stand firm. Children learn through consistancy. The rules today have to be the rules tomorrow and always. Good luck!
2007-03-28 15:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by anjazarovitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just a stage. He will eventually outgrow it. Every child goes through this, and you are not alone.I'm going through it with my 16 month old right now. When she hits (which is very often) I firmly grasp her hand and say no! Then I remove her from the situation (whatever or whoever she hit) Once I get her interested in something new, her mood changes back into my fun-loving little girl...at least for a few minutes.
2007-03-28 14:36:35 · answer #5 · answered by bellehay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah the beauty of "The Terrors of the Twos" i watch my neice and nephew everyday and my neice will b 2 in early april and she just stated acting up. im not quite sure how to handle it my self because she can gt so mean. she is just now starting to hit and really scream her lungs out and i hope this wont last long. my sis said you should try to ignore it pretend that everyone is doing ok they are learning that they cant get what the want all the time anymore so they are just confuse and frusterated so the dont know whaty to do cept to get someones attention if he does somethinghe was not suppose to do ex saying no or hitting you should put them in time out we just send them to the corner but becareful if he is wearing underwear cuz he learning to potty train you must take him to the potty or put a diaper on him because he will revenge by peeing on the floor if he's sent to the corner or such (my nephew does that its annoying lol) i hope this help only ignore when he's fine he's jus screaming cuz he wants something
2007-03-28 14:54:45 · answer #6 · answered by superstar112087 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is entering the "Terrible Twos". When he hits sternly tell him "NO" and put him in time out away from the other kids for 2 minutes. When he hits the other kids make a fuss over them after you remove him so he knows that what he did was wrong and he will not get attention from you for bad behavior.
2007-03-28 13:40:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel... my son is 21 months old, and he is the same way- when he doesn't get his way, he throws himself on the floor, or hits and throws, or bangs his head on things! All of my friends who have kids told me to expect this.. so I'm hoping to get through this phase as soon as possible! My best friend swears upon the naughty or time-out chair! Hang in there!
2007-03-28 21:07:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jacki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has a lot to do with his age. He hasn't been taught another way to express his anger. I had to teach my kids what was OK to do while angry. I told them they could stomp their foot or punch a pillow or go to their rooms and scream into a pillow. But they are NEVER allowed to hit me or anyone else. Time out for every time he does this. If he mouths back the minutes start over. My youngest (of 5) was so bad we used a "stranger" for time out. We were in a hospital for my sons surgery when she refused to "share me" with her brother. An orderly came by and the nurse told him to take my daughter and hold her til she quit her tempertantrum. She took 15 minutes of passing her back to him until she "got it". Every time she'd begin her tantrum again we'd pass her to him. "the stranger"...she NEVER threw another tantrum like those again! Wow! Thanks to that nurse!
2007-03-28 13:48:17 · answer #9 · answered by HeavenlyAngel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my son is now 4 and he is out of control since he is 3 the best thing to do is time out or no tv or toy that day
2007-03-28 13:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by tuyen p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋