I am currently in a relationship which started out as a friendship. The man I am in this relationship with is in a (long distance) relationship with someone else - they see each other every weekend. However, now our feelings toward one another has grown to more than friendship. We have not been intimate (kissing, sex, etc.). We spend a lot to time together usually IM and talking on the phone with each other from 10pm to 2-3 am in the morning (3-4 times a week). We have a great relationship! And we see each other at least once a week. When we have discussed our feelings for one another and admitted that to one another that our feelings are deeper we have desire toward one another, my male friend thinks we can continue with our "friendship" as long as we maintain our boundaries. He says he can control himself and if I can keep my feelings in check we can still be "friends" and still hang out as we do.
2007-03-28 06:26:01 · 9 answers · asked by black widow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like the chemistry has taken over the friendship; which is a great thing! It would be noble if you can keep your feelings in check, personally, when I fall for someone; it's all or nothing =) I would have a more serious talk and let him know how you feel and how important he is to you at this point and that it will be hard to keep your feelings in check. Best Wishes!
2007-03-28 07:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by suzlaa1971 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it sounds like the guy is saying he likes you but wants to continue with his long distance "girlfriend" IF you continue to hang out together knowing that your feelings are growing stronger and you want a relationship more then just friends, you are setting yourself up for a fall. Unless he breaks it off with the other lady then he can't be completely yours, and if you think that if you keep hanging around he will eventually choose you, I am afraid in real life it doesn't usually work out that way. It happened to me with an ex, and I ended up hurt pretty badly. SO be careful, people can't just keep thier feelings "in check".
Good Luck!
2007-03-28 06:33:25 · answer #2 · answered by michy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, why are you willing to settle for second best so quickly? He's just using you as a "spare". He knows that if he gets in a bind with the "other one" he can come running to you. You don't need to "hang out" with this guy. Ask him if he has any single friends he can fix you up with that are not involved elsewhere. In other words, dump him as a possible friend or lover. He's using you and playing you bigtime. For all you know he's married. Wake up!!!! Godloveya.
2007-03-28 06:41:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes u could hangout and stuff but try to find someone else cuz he just wants friendship not and relatinship...
2007-03-28 06:35:44 · answer #4 · answered by D CHEEZE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sooner or later something may happen. But if he just wants to stay friends for now keep it that way.
2007-03-28 06:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by Babe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u won't be able to check ur feelings. so u shouldn't hang around. be straight-forward in this case. again if you think u can control urself, then u can hang around.
2007-03-28 06:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by tasbirahmed_buet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT HANG AROUND. I THINK HES STRINGING YOU ON. IT NOT FAIR TO YOU THAT HE HAS CONFESSED THESE FEELINGS AND DOESNT DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT. I MEAN HE HAS A GIRL SO YOU GET A BOY. DONT STICK AROUND FOR SOMEONE THAT HAS SOMEONE ALREADY.
2007-03-28 06:33:48 · answer #7 · answered by masterdloski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
out of sight out of mind--if you are with him all the time you won't be able to meet someone who is willing to give their whole self to you.
2007-03-28 06:30:50 · answer #8 · answered by I'm so cool 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on, you deserve someone for yourself alone
2007-03-28 06:29:42 · answer #9 · answered by Kevo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋