A mother who has a full working day, earns good money and can provide the child with everything, or a father who doesn't work but stays at home with the child all day?
2007-03-28 06:13:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have to say that mothers will ALMOST always get the child as long as she can't be proven to be unfit. The mother has a 99% chance.
2007-03-28 06:23:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Generally the courts will look at several factors one of which being that the child 's welfare .
That includes many things including finance's quality of care , health care and being in an environment that he or she is used to .
If the child's father has been the care giver that will be considered even though normally its the mother who provides this.
It sounds to me like there is a battle brewing .. before you get into an all out fight .. stop and consider this .. Don't use the child to to get back at a spouse or partner , the child's well being is the first consideration ,if the 2 parents can decide on or work out a plan by which they can both be involved with the up bringing of this child then that is the best solution. Remember the child knows 2 parents and loves both the same.
Again don't let the differences you have had with that partner to interfere with whats most important .. The child.
If things procced to the court level then again the judge will look at many things after all he is impartial and his only concern is the well being of that little human .
So it either boils down to who has the best lawyer or who can tell the best lie's .
there is nothing wrong with equill custody .
You can buy your child everything but that still does not make you a mother .. and of course that works both ways ..
This is not pick on mother day so dont take my comments that way .. what I am thinking about is the child ..
2007-03-28 06:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by myopinionforwhatitsworth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which ever parent has the most secure loving home. Providing "everything" isn't the only thing that is looked at. Each country has different laws. Yes, the Mother usually does but these days the Father's also have a good shot at it. The Judge will look at both parties, maybe have someone make home visit to each parent and in some cases speak with the child. A parent should always put the child first and consider how they feel, choosing is not good for the child. No negative comments to the child about the other parent as this is like a knife in the child's heart. They love both of you completely and always
2007-03-28 06:26:42 · answer #3 · answered by lucyshines49 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who ever the court decides can take better care of the child. Its not all about money. The child has feelings and needs beyond what the mother's pay check can provide. The court will look at the backgrounds of both parents and take the suggestion by the child's advocate. Does a child deserve to be paced in day care all day? Would hebe better off with day care over being at home with a neglectful father? These are questions that will be asked.
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2007-03-28 06:19:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the state, but probably the father. Most states lean towards the parent who provides most of the actual care. Some states still have statutes that favor the mother, but these are being phased out.
EDIT: I know it seems like the mothers usually get custody, but that is because it's the mothers who usually provide most of the actual care.
You did not mention, though, whether the mother and father are married. If they were never married to each other, then the mother has automatic legal custody of the child. Thas can be changed, but it is not likely.
2007-03-28 08:02:58 · answer #5 · answered by Milana P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever is financially stable, works, and can provide the child with full support usually gets custody. They look at all of those things to figure out who the child would be better of with.
2007-03-28 06:19:22 · answer #6 · answered by stoney7786 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless one of the parents are unfit, the courts usually grant both parents with joint custody. Depending on how good the lawyers are will depend on how the time is split. Some children go back and forth month to month or week to week. Others will live with one parent during the week and spend the weekends at the other parents house. Judges usually don't like to grant full custody of a child to one parent.
2007-03-28 07:22:24 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sound like two sucky options. a mom too focused of working and money to see that a kid going through a divorce needs her to back off a little and spend some time with him rather than being stuck in day care all day. then you got some guy who doesn't see the value in the man working and earning for his family. what a role model. poor kid. good luck with that. hope you get him in therapy. by the way, there is more to raising a kid than who has more money
2007-03-28 06:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
the courts don't just look at whos making the $$ yes that has to play into the factor but what the child is doing now who the child is currently living with/spending most timewith the the childs current chedual is stuff like that play into it.
2007-03-28 06:18:59 · answer #9 · answered by nicole b 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Regardless of the situation, the mother will usually get full custody.
2007-03-28 06:26:15 · answer #10 · answered by Summer I 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋