Is he a waste of my time, or not?

Question

Okay, I'm seeing a guy that we've only been on one date and that was 3 weeks ago, but he says he is still wanting to see me again. He works out of town, and so he stays with a friend during the week until his job is done there, which ends in two weeks, and he wants to go out then. He calls every once and a while, but now I don't know that I want to even waste my time with him. I mean he can't be that into me if it's taken this long, and the fact I haven't seen him I am really losing interest. Should I even bother going out with him if he even calls? What do you guys think?

P.S. For the pervert sending the same answer for every question, no I don't want to thier pants down and stick it to em. If your gonna be distrubing on here at least come up with a diffrent answer for each, or do you have limited brain flow activity? :)

Answer 1

hey.. i see your problem.. but let love flow.. of course dont waste your time.. but date other guys.. dont get involved just date.. dont sleep around either.. "just" date.. i mean you should give the guy a chance.. just because this is a hard time for him to have a relationship you shouldnt denie him the chance.. give him one or two date when he can you will be better to understand his feelings for you when you get more time to be with eachother, dont you think..? and if some other guy comes around and ask you out.. if you dont have plans.. go for it.. let love just happen instead of working for it or looking for it... thats when the real love hits you and stick for ever.. good luck

Answer 2

Okay, first off, with only 1 date under your belt, you aren't really "Seeing" anybody! What do you talk about when he calls? Does he ask about you, how are you, what have you been up to, seen any good movies, etc? It sounds to me like you are losing interest fast. If you like the guy, give him a chance when he gets back, and see if anything develops. After you go out on a couple of more dates, and he still doesn't make your heart do flip-flops, just politely tell him that you don't think you should see each other any more. If he asks why, simply explain to him that he just isn't the guy you are interested in having a long-term relationship with! Then move on and look for greener pastures! Good luck!

Answer 3

I work out of town a lot and I am away from home for days to months at a time and sometimes it's very difficult to call my wife from some of the places. It really puts a strain on a relationship. She knew what it was all about when she started going out with me but it's still hard.

It seems you are early on in your involvement and that you are already feeling the dissatisfaction that comes with that lifestyle so I would suggest you move on to someone that can be there for you. You're already losing interest? Well, imagine that happening repeatedly. Someone will come along that can give you the attention you want.

Answer 4

Ignore the perv. This site does attract the immature.

I think you knew the answer to your question before you wrote it. I don't know that his reaction has anything to do with his interest in you. It's hard to sustain contact when everyone is out of site, out of mind. That's one reason that long distant things are so hard to maintain. Why don't you just date around until he gets back to town and then try another date to see where you want that to go? I know that is playing the ends against the middle, but that way you can satisfy the time interval that is obviously nagging you. You only had one date! How can you know anything from that? I hope this helps...

Answer 5

I'm sure that you're far more better than having to wait on this guy. It seems like he's setting the pace and that should be your role as a woman. I wouldn't rule out being friends, but romantically it seems a little challenged. I think perhaps the next time he calls, it could be wise to deny... since you should probably be busy living your life that will not be put on pause the moment he decides to waltz back into your life. Suggest a neutral activity at a later date... if he declines, he's really not worth it if he's not into being on just friendly terms. Take your time with anything involving a guy... rushing into things gets messy and is over as quick as they begin.

Answer 6

okay girl i know they say that long distance relationship do not work but i know it does. my bf is a soldier and at times i don't hear from him. when i do, i treasure it because it is very hectic 4 him to get a call. at the same time you have to believe that the relationship can work in order 4 it to proceed. you could start dating guys but don't completely 4get about him. i'm not saying that you should be hung up on him because you have to consider the fact that he hardly calls, but have a open mind about it because chances are it just might work between u two.....good luck!

Answer 7

Honey, dont waste your time. Is obvious his too cought up with his work. You need some one that shows alot more interest in you. Think of it this way, "there's a 1,000 men for every woman in this world" !! Don't wait for him go out and have fun, see other people.

Answer 8

are you wanting a serious relationship. If so, you need to find out how much he means to you. If your just wanting someone to go out with, let him pay. At least one more date to make sure that's what you want. Hope this helps.

Answer 9

Its time you gave him up. If he was really interested in you, he would be a borderline pain in the butt about staying in contact with you. If a guy really likes a girl alot, she is all he can think about and her voice is what makes him wake in the mornings.

Answer 10

Keep your options open...when dating you shouldn't just concentrate on one guy especially if he is taking this long...
If you feel like hanging out with him when he calls then okay...if not then don't go out with him...

Don't just stick to one guy when dating...that is why its called dating...multitask until you find the one you really like...

Good luck! =)