My new b/f has a much younger, more attractive ex but yet he is with me who is more tired out looking... I can't stop thinking that he'd rather be with someone younger.
She has long flowing hair and mine is short I can't stop comparing her youth and beauty to my flaws...
How can I gain more confidence
2007-03-28 05:54:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe he's matured some and now he's looking for a good, solid mature woman. If he's smart, he's looking for the beauty of the heart and soul. You don't have to have long, flowing hair, gorgeous eyes and a killer figure to be a cool, special person. Hopefully, your boyfriend has seen the cool, special you that he couldn't find in Miss Supermodel.
2007-03-28 06:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by Raingirl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is sa personal issue but the thing is you have to remeber that he IS with you. Concentate on that.If he wanted to be with someone elsee then he would be. If you think your flso called dflaws are an issue , then dont dwell on how they can work against you but instead turn yourself into a prject. Meaning to say that is you think that hte short hair is an issue..then maybe change the style to give you a younger look. There are many attractive females with short hair. As for the tired look , you may only think the look is tired because you are stressing yourself with something that is not really an issue. Just revitalize yourself since you seem to have the problem and he doesnt. Good luck to you and again just remeber He comes home to you so you are doing something right.
2007-03-28 13:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's not all about looks. What it is about is security. We all want to feel secure, and a lot of us don't. The problem with having a super model for a gf is that she draws a lot of attention from other guys, which equates to competition... competition violates security. My guess would be that he feels safe with you. You are right to be concerned about getting hurt. I suggest that you never fully submit to him. Keep stringing him along and he won't be able to move past you. like a "carrot on a stick". From what you've said, it seems like you have a prize you don't feel worthy of. That usually is the case if someone feels that way. Eventually he will figure that out too. You need to focus on the time that the two of you do have together, and not the time you might have. I think that finding a life partner is a "carrot on a stick" for most people, myself included. Don't focus on the carrot, pay attention to the candy bar in your hand.
2007-03-28 13:13:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well here's the thing. There are some guys who don't JUST go by looks. Looks do play a part but it only goes so far. What you need to understand is that he likes the way you look and probably LOVES the kind of person you are as a whole. It's not just about looking good, it's about how you can make each other feel. if he feels good around you, he's gonna want to be with you. That's probably what's happening right now. Your insecurities are just what they are - YOUR insecurities. Think about it this way and give yourself confidence.. It isn't just how you look but its WHO YOU ARE. Being insecure about it is only going to drive a wedge ebtween you two which really isn't supposed to be there riht now.
2007-03-28 13:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by Nikhil M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hey if you boyfreind wanted to be with someone who was much younger, more attractive, had longer hair than you he could be.
But he isn't -he has chosen to be with you. He obviously likes something about you. Why not ask him what it is about you that he likes? I used to love playing that game with my partner when we first met. Telling him what I liked best about him and then asking him what he liked best about me - be warned though, he always said odd things like 'your ears'! Funy man.
I'm guessing your guy's not ugly so would he date an ugly woman? No way. So you can be assured that you are gorgeous. And I bet he really appreciates that you are not a silly, self centered little girl who only cares about what shelooks like too.
2007-03-28 14:25:32 · answer #5 · answered by Leapling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no woman in the world, no matter how beautiful, that there isn't some man somewhere who is tired of her crap. (It is the same for men.) There's no way to tell WHY he's with you from the information you gave, but he sees something worth pursuing. Why ask why. Keep doing what works, which is what you've been doing, and confidence will come with time.
2007-03-28 13:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by Nels N 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My boyfiend is a lot younger than i am and he prefers me to all the younger girls he has been with i think its the experiance and i dont just mean in bed...i have taught him things about life and introduced him to people he did not know existed and he says he loves my personality,when he tells you he prefers you listen to him and believe him you actually find yourself feeling very flattered if you put trust in yourself...
2007-03-28 13:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by emmamo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just remember that he is with you and not her for a reason. Although she may be younger and have long hair, you are beautiful also. He is with you for a reason. Continually tell yourself that and your confidence will grow. Good luck =]
2007-03-28 13:08:55 · answer #8 · answered by *apes* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop thinking of your bf as being so shallow. Maybe he's looking for a heart and soul, rather than a younger girl with long hair.
2007-03-28 12:58:21 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
The person inside is way more important than the person outside.
His ex might be physically attractive but a total phsyco inside...
And, why don't you ask him?
2007-03-28 13:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by BigMac2xk 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋