2007-03-28 05:49:30 · 18 answers · asked by indngirl31 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow revolou is just going around saying that to everyone.
I hate to say this though...it could work out. But I just broke up with my bf who was nine years younger than myself. And I loved him so much. But he just was NOT ready for the type of relationship I was. I didnt want marriage yet, but it was all he could think about, and it scared him. He convinced himself it was what I wanted.
We basically grew apart. I know I still love him, but I had to let him go. He wasn't happy. He wanted to go out and party, but he didnt want to involve me it seemed. So I had enough and left.
I think communication is KEY with these types of relationships. I think you need to be VERY understanding and not try to make your boyfriend into something he is not.
Try to remember when you were his age and try to think like he does...
It could work. But the chances are slim, Im sorry to say.
2007-03-28 05:59:15 · answer #1 · answered by nkbapbt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my ex for approx. 6 years. We started dating, he was 19 and I was 26. I thought he was an old sole. We were together 5 years, got married and divorced a year later. Come to find out that he was too young and didn't want to be married anymore. Not saying the same will happen with you but do you want to take that chance and waste your time. You're 35, I was a lot younger at the time but now I look back at those wasted years. I wanted a family and I felt that he robbed me of the 6 years saying he wanted the same things and now there is nothing. You might love him and he love you but it's a gamble, your time is short if you are looking to have a family. Good Luck
2007-03-28 13:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by Unknown, CA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. That's a pretty big gap, you know. But, if you really, REALLY love each other then it'll last a lifetime. But only if you really do love each other a lot. You know what they say: "Love conquers all". But I have to admit that an age gap like yours can sometimes put a bit of a strain on relationships. Tread carefully, that's all.
2007-03-28 12:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by Raingirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were 20 and he 35, the marriage would have a
lot better chance...
2007-03-28 12:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geesh! A 20 year old is damn near a baby to me. I ahve nothing against a 15 year gap if one was 30 and the other 45 but a 20 year old is tooo young.
2007-03-28 12:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that you have been slung all the "do the math" answers. True love has no barriers. Its the test of time, and the trails of your life that will answer that question for you. Above all is trust, communication, and I personally feel a outward expression of love. "Public Display" Nothing wrong with holding hands or a sweet kiss in front of God and everybody. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-28 13:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by John K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on if he is willing to grow into the relationship. At 20, guys are still a bit immature in certain ways. I fyou are willing to overlook these factors of immaturity, I say go for it.
I see nothing wrong with two people loving what they have.
I say if you keep these things in mind and are open to eachother's insecurities and are willing to work issues out....yes I see a good future.
2007-03-28 12:56:45 · answer #7 · answered by tito_swave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe he loves the idea of being with an older woman and you love the idea of being with a younger man. however, i don't think it can work, not because of the age difference, but because you are in completely different stages of life, you shouldn't have much in common with a 20 year old and if you do,it means you're trying to hold on to your youth. if you were say, 45 and he was 30, or anything older than that, i'd say it could work, as it stands now, i don't think it'll work. sorry!!!
2007-03-28 12:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by prettyme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it makes u feel better i`ll tell that in my country there is a famous
couple (Irinel Columbeanu and Monica Columbeanu he is somewhere around 50 and he's ''wife'' is NEARLY 20) so...don't worry.And i think that the real love can't be stopped by a little age difference.
2007-03-28 13:16:13 · answer #9 · answered by [4sins]ScoobySergiu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me personally I love older women they know how to put it on Im 26 and my fiance is 33 And i love our relationship, you just have to be able to keep him on his feet, become youthful again, show what an older woman can do that a younger one cant and on top of all if he loves you then you guys love will always be perpetual,
FYI: And when you guys make love Drop it like it HOOOOOOOOOOOOOOT and turn that boy out like no younger woman can do cuz older women are experienced and know what a man wants
2007-03-28 13:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋