My mom and my dad broke up a couple months ago and now they are telling me I have to choose who I will live with. I don't think either of them like me very much or understand me. I also get the feeling they both want me to choose the other parent so they can live free-er lives. My dad would let me have more freedom, but he drinks a lot and has lots of his friends over... My mom works a lot so we would always have money to eat, but I would be alone alot in the house with her creepy boyfriend. I don't really want either. Freedom? Stability? Creepy? Drunken? What should I do?
2007-03-28 05:48:56 · 8 answers · asked by deardiary24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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Hook a *** up!
2007-03-28 16:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh you poor thing. Do you have anyone stable in your family? A grandparent or aunt/uncle that will take you in. Perhaps an older sibling. You need stability and parents. Sounds like you would be parenting them.
You have a hard decision. Sounds like you could be in danger at either place. Do you go to church? Maybe you could discuss this with your youth minister. How old are you?
Sweetie this is going to be a hard time in your life. You need to find people who love you and you can count on. My mom worked a lot and was never home. Seemed like a lot of fun at the time. Party Central at my house- but looking back- I was sad and lonely and really needed a mom who was there. I gained no direction and it is so important to get good guidance. It really does help you later on in life.
You need a stable environment. this decision is going to be a hard one unless one of your parents decides to step up to the plate and really being a parent to you. Perhaps have a meeting with both of them and see what their intentions as a parent are going to be. Your dad could very well calm down and stop partying so much if he had full custody of you. talk to them both.
I will be praying for you.
2007-03-28 12:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by momof2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Is moving out on your own an option? Even if it is an albeit EARLY option.
Also how about grandparents? Aunts? Uncles?
I'm sure that it may seem as if neither of your parents "like" you, but I'm sure they both love you. Your dad's residence doesn't sound good at all, though the alternative with the creepy boyfriend at your mom's doesn't either. Have you spoken with her *since her place seems the "safest"*
Good luck with your choice. I would strongly recommend talking with a family member, or a school counselor, or clergy member you trust. Get some insight, and advice to your situation specifically.
Good Luck.
2007-03-28 12:55:20 · answer #3 · answered by moonshadow418 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very unfair for a parent to put their child in this position but in all honesty I don't think you should live with someone that you consider a drunk. When I divorced my children's Father my daughter was 12, he too was a drunk and I worked all the time. We had joint custody with me having physical custody. My daughter felt sorry for her Dad and thought if she were to go stay with him he might not drink as much so I let her go. The first night there she called me at 2:00 AM upset because he wasn't home yet so I went and got her. She went back after school that day only to call me again the next night. This went on for two weeks (along with the fact that she had to order pizza in every night for her dinner) before she gave up and decided it was time for her to come back to my place. Just something for you to think about.
It's a hard decision and good luck trying to figure it out. I think I'd make my parents make the call if you can't, but you need to consider what's best for you.
2007-03-28 12:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who would you feel safer with? you have to be secure with who you live with. It sounds like both house holds are unstable. Your mom needs to have the boyfriend move out. Her responsibility is to you until you turn 18. You should not be a burden to either parent they made you out of love and that is how they should treat you.
2007-03-28 13:03:19 · answer #5 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation kid! I feel for u. u seem smart and able to think things through. Don't allow yourself to be abused. A boyfriend who is always in the home part scares me.
2007-03-28 12:54:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mother because she could get marred with her boy friend get a new family.
2007-03-28 12:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not sure, but i wish you the best of luck
2007-03-28 13:24:47 · answer #8 · answered by oh_its_jono 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋