My mom and my dad broke up a couple months ago and now they are telling me I have to choose who I will live with. I don't think either of them like me very much or understand me. I also get the feeling they both want me to choose the other parent so they can live free-er lives. My dad would let me have more freedom, but he drinks a lot and has lots of his friends over... My mom works a lot so we would always have money to eat, but I would be alone alot in the house with her creepy boyfriend. I don't really want either. Freedom? Stability? Creepy? Drunken? What should I do?
2007-03-28 05:48:06 · 9 answers · asked by deardiary24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There is really no other family for me to live with... I do not care what school I go to. A change might actually be good.
2007-03-28 05:57:29 · update #1
I would tell each of them that your are staying with the other one and sleep in the bus depot. You want freedom and to meet some people, that is the way.
I would almost always live with dad... Dad's are just more protective. Sometimes moms who have new boyfriends will side with the new lover rather than the kid, and if there ends up being a problem. If the mom feels like needs a new man, than she might be afraid to disappoint him by standing up to him about you. Plus if you already think he is creepy, forget it.
addt info... Will you have to change schools either way? Sometimes that is a big factor for kids too.
Good Luck kid.
2007-03-28 05:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might contact your local social services office and let them know what your situation is and see if a foster home is available. Failing that, you would at least have a counselor (social services worker) to talk to about the situation and that person can help you make a decision and monitor the home life until you are 18 and/or out of the home.
You are in a very tough situation as both of your parents seem to have some problems that prohibit them from being the best parent that they can be. Is there any way you can share with your mom that you don't feel comfortable being alone with her boyfriend? I would kinda lean toward her home only because it sounds like your father has many male friends that abuse alcohol and a young girl in an environment like that would not be a good idea.
Good luck. Seriously find social services and get some help with your situation. You are not alone - there are many before you that have been faced with this type of situation and there will be many after you. Help is available - reach out and grab it.
2007-03-28 12:57:42 · answer #2 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, no matter what you think, your parents love you. They might be going through this hard time and just distancing theirselves, but that doesn't mean you aren't loved! Choosing a parent is difficult since you don't want to insult the other one. Yeah, your mom works a lot, and that is difficult, but it depends if you like the boyfriend and is he a safe person that you can be around? Having a dad that drinks is also not such a great situation, but you also have to consider is that the safest place for you. Before you think about anyone else's feelings,you need to really think about your safety and well being, for you should put yourself first. I hope that you can make the right decision.
2007-03-28 12:55:03 · answer #3 · answered by ozzylvr13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A tough one...There are a couple things you need to find out first before making this difficult decision. But looks to me creepy is better than drunk at this point. Lesser evil. Plus you're mom can ensure you have food and not scotch on the table.
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2007-03-28 13:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Leilyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have grandparents or other relatives? Sounds like that might be a better alternative. Creepy boyfriends or lots of drunken guys do not sound like good choices.
2007-03-28 12:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Rowena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live with them each half of the time. That way they both get some freedom and they both get to have you around. You could alternate weeks, unless they live too far apart. Hope this helps.
2007-03-28 12:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there a close relative or friend that you can live with because you shouldn't be in either of those situations. i would find a trusted adult and tell them about your situation and have them help you talk to your parents. or if courts are involved maybe talk to one of your parents lawyers or the judge directly so you can let the courts know that neither is a good option and they can help you figure out a safer alternative
2007-03-28 12:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was forced into this at age 15 and i didnt know who to choose either...i chose my mom for the freedom and ended up at my dads and his physco path wife. Neither place was exactly easy to live but i had to learn to deal. If you sit down and think about it write the pros and cons for both then add them up and see which is worth it...
2007-03-28 12:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by mare022 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm my opinon(cant spell) go with mom when creppy guy is there hang with your friends jogg something or if you have to have time where you and him are in the house try to be out majority of the time
2007-03-28 18:04:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋