I am 15 and I have been taking care of my baby cousin since she was two days old so I am like a teenage mother because the babys mother is bipolar and some more mental illnesses. I wanna know should I stop taking care of her just because the mother makes me mad? I know thats not right because the baby doesnt know any better so I shouldnt take it on her.
2007-03-28 05:46:29 · 12 answers · asked by Baby C 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It must be hard to have to take care of a baby at such a young age...and its not even yours. But you are doing a good thing, for the baby and probably the mom as well. If you know the mother has some issues, u need to take this into account, hear what she has to say and keep it moving. Don't stop taking care of the child just because you are mad at the mom, unless the mom is upset because the baby spends more time with you than her. There may be a hint on jealousy going on. That is not that baby's fault. On the other hand, that is not your child. You are not responsible for them. You have your own life to lead. You can still do your part and help out without having to be stressed in the process.
2007-03-28 05:53:23 · answer #1 · answered by Chen 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Knowing someone with a mental disorder is really challenging and can be exhausting for you. But think of the poor child that has a mom with the disease. Do the best you can do with taking care of your baby cousin. You're only 15 as well so maybe having some help from some adults might lighten the burden for you. You do have your own life to lead and a future to think about.
2007-03-28 12:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by Shiloh 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are finding it stressful you need to get some support - often children / teenagers become carers at such a young age and need to live their own lives too. Is there no-one else who can take care of the baby?
Best thing if there is nothing that can change in your situation is to try to avoid confrontation and remember the mother cant do a lot because of her illness - and she probably doesnt mean anything she says to you.
2007-03-28 12:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by schmushe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow that's a major responsibility for a teenager way to go on the help you have done, but this isnt your child and you dont have to do what you have done , your very kind! it is time for you to be a teenager you are only one once, and you now know not to be a teenage mother. the best thing to do is get your life back and mabey say you will help with your cousin 1-2 times a week, the governement can pay for a daycare for your cousin to go into during the day.
2007-03-28 12:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by 12121212 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that you're going to get extremely attached to a child that the mother could potentially take away from you at any moment. I suggest calling children's services. If the mother is unfit or unable to care for the child, then the child deserves to be in a loving, stable environment. Bravo to you for stepping up though. You are amazing.
2007-03-28 12:56:43 · answer #5 · answered by greenbuddha03 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep taking care of the baby - it's not the baby's fault her mother is the way she is.
You should also talk to someone about getting the baby and the mom help. You probably can't take care of them the rest of your life. Talk to someone - social services, etc.
But, be nice to the baby - she did nothing. She is the sweet and innocent baby.
2007-03-28 15:09:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you already know the answer. If the mother isnt mentally stable enough to provide for her child, then help out. The child deserves, it even if its mom is a PITA. You'll be rewarded. And its soo fun to watch a child you rear grow.
2007-03-28 12:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by Giving/Seeking Advice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
keep taking care of your cousin because later on in life the baby will be grateful and learn to respect you.
2007-03-28 13:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by Student 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is very nice of you to help. This shows you are very mature and responsible. I think you could keep helping at this point, but that you should definitely contact children's services for the baby's safety.
2007-03-28 12:51:23 · answer #9 · answered by deppi420 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
where is your cousins mother? you are only 15. her mother is the one that needs to be helping out not you. you have so much life to live. you really need to tal k t o your parents
2007-03-28 13:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋