I wrote a question about my FWB turned bad and got some answers...thanks. But it led me to another question. He asked how I would feel if he were having sex with others. (the rest of the story is in the other post) I know he was being honest about not having had sex with anyone else yet. But others felt he probably already had. Why? This guy has always been honest, even sometimes when it really hurt to hear it. (which sucked) He is in school and working everyday except on sat-sun and that is when he is at my house. (or i am at his) and when he is off school or work we talk on the phone. (not constantly of course) I just assumed he told me that becuz he was thinking about doing it. could it be that he is just thinking about doing it and wanted my reaction? to give me warning maybe? or to see if i felt too much for him? why would he have asked how i would feel? i just don't think its cuz he's done it already but rather something i already mentioned. Opinions please...
2007-03-28 05:39:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Instead of trying to figure out what he is thinking, ask him.
More importantly ask yourself: What do I want from a relationship? I mean it, ask yourself, take a pen and paper out and write down what your current fwb relationship is giving you. I'll start. Confusion, weekend "love", pain causing insecurity, a degraded sense of self. ... you finish.
Now on another piece of paper write down what you do want out of a relationship. Full time love, 100% devotion, a sexual relationship that is exclusive to you, emotional attachment. Fulfillment. You finish that list. When the lists are done, read them aloud to yourself.
The list of what you want, tell yourself that you are worth it, that you deserve it, then, go out and find it.
What are your hobbies, what are things that you enjoy doing, figure it out and then sign up for a class, volunteer position, etc, where you will get out there and do those activities with other people, this is a great way to find a man who shares your interests.
As for Johnny FWB, tell him, thank you, because of what we had, I realized that I want something more, and I am worth it.
Enough weekend love from you buddy, I want a whole relationship.
2007-03-28 07:41:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't answer the first part of your question, but I read it and I think that you maybe didn't like the response that u received. The truth was really given to u in the first round of answers that u were given, he's obviously telling u because either he's doing something or he's about 2. I was in the same situation before and he said the same thing your guy said and I was very hurt, but I found out that it didn't last he just wanted his cake and eat it 2. My guy wanted me to stay in the picture, but he also wanted other people and he slept with others also. Your guy sounds like the same they only tell us because that's their way of given us respect, but respect is not going after others. They say that about us sleeping with others, but if u really did that it would hurt them, tell him u can do better without him!!!!
2007-03-28 12:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by sweet p 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run like crazy.
2007-03-28 12:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run.
2007-03-28 12:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by searching_please 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'll be your fwb
2007-03-28 12:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by NONAME 1 · 0⤊ 6⤋