the only thing that hes thought was at all kinky was going in the "back door" but i try so hard to do kinky things, but they never work! what IS kinky and what should i do?
2007-03-28 05:35:28 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Haha as far as the back door,don't give that up freely,use it to get what you want!I've been w/ my man for 8 years,the only time he gets to go there is on his b-day!But if there is something I really want,or want him to watch the kids,or whatever it may be,alls I have to say is you can stick it anywhere you want,and then I get anything I want,so use that to your advantage!!As far as kinky,it means different things for different people,talk to him,he has to enjoy more than just the butt!!
2007-03-28 06:39:31 · answer #1 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a touchy subject. Even people who are very close find it hard to talk about it. Your boyfriend doesn't want kinky he has something in mind. kinky is a matter of opinion. Anything that is not in the realm of your experience could be described as kinky.
It is not unusual for husbands and wives not to discuss sex.
sex is not something to decide in your mind. Much stimulation is needed to cross unfamiliar. barriers . You should define your taboos. One of the sexiest women I have ever known , made it very clear, no back door.
Usually the main reason people have such taboos is because of how they're introduced to it, heard about it or experienced it. In my experiences , I have never announced kinky, but it almost always worked out well.
You must draw a line in the dirt of what is acceptable or not.
We all have a different amount of desire. No matter what the most important sex organ is the mind.
Good luck, talk.
2007-03-28 06:18:04 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's pretty narrow minded if he thinks "kinky" is just anal sex.
Bondage, submission, domination, toys, rough play, exhibitionism, etc. I could name off a million fetishes that can be regarded as kinky to some and disgusting to others. But whatever you do, don't do something you're not comfortable with. It's natural to be a little nervous about something new, but if you're totally adverse to it, don't do it. If he doesn't want to find some sort of compromise then, hell, he doesn't deserve anything if he's going to complain about you trying different things. If he wants something, he's going to have to tell you and give you more options than anal.
2007-03-28 11:32:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants to go lets say through the back door, then I say let him. Me and my boyfriend try different things to keep our relationship healthy. Even if it sounds like something you're not into you can still try it and say you did. If that doesn't work, try doing some naughty role playing like pretend to be a pornstar and by one of those outfits usually found in a sex shop and suprise him one day when he walks through the door and sees you. It worked for me I'm sure it'll work for you. The thing is don't tell him what to do for kinkiness suprise him with it. Leaves him with the imagination of what is to come.
2007-03-28 05:41:48 · answer #4 · answered by girl_is_depeche 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I like to be made to things without any questions. Tell you what tie him to the bed and i mean tie him up good, then you tell him your in charge and that he is not to say anything. And trust me as soon as you say that he is going to say something so whip him with something. Then sit on his face and tell him to start eating and then start having sex then untie him and let him to it to you. This method works great in the bedroom promise!
That is the first step to kinky if he is more kinky than that i can not write on here what else to do so sorry. Just be open to anything.
2007-03-28 06:06:30 · answer #5 · answered by JAY 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sweetie,everyone has different ideas,and everyone is turned on by different things.I love that answer"tie him up and slap him" that is hilarious,lol.I know you are serious,but i got a giggle out of that.Anyway,to answer your question,there are many things you can do.Dont tell him what your going to do.You can tie him up,i dont know about slapping him(lol again) but him being helpless may not only do something for him,but for you as well.Also,When he gets home,dont say a word,just blindfold him,lead him to the bed,and have your way with him.You could also take turns coming up with things.Do not tell each other,take turns and alternate who makes up.Do not share it with the other,the mystery will build up and do wonders.Another thing,that many say helps is using toys.You can go to an adult shop and purchase items there.The possibilities are endless,but be open and always be willing to try new things.Dont force yourself to do things you definately know you do not want to do,but be willing to consider it.Good luck hun,and have a good day!!
2007-03-28 05:59:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Talk to him about it and see what you both come up with that you would like to try. Everybody's idea of kinky is different.
2007-03-28 05:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by Jim 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do not know why they think about that so much. I find it disgusting and it hurts like crazy. I do not know what your boy friend considers kinky.
2007-03-28 05:42:00 · answer #8 · answered by red1967 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
yeah all guys think back door is kinky!!! you need to talk to him about it and see what he says tell him to tell you what to do since everything you do is wrong balls in his court now
2007-03-28 05:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well kinky varies for everyone i think, tell him the balls in his court. let him come up with the next adventure.
2007-03-28 05:40:21 · answer #10 · answered by just me #1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋