Yesterday, me and my fiancée were on the computer and he was checking his emails, I asked him what is in that folder that has his name on it inside his account, and he said he doesn't want me to see it, and I asked why he said he needs to check it first then he would show me. I took the computer and tried to open it and find out it is from his ex-girlfriend, but I didn't open the email because he won't let me...why do you think he won't let me, I know about her it was before my relationship with him so it should be fine to show me the email. We have been together for 7 months and we are getting married. So please advice me on what should I do. /?
2007-03-28 05:33:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave i alone. Dont get hurt by whatever it is.
2007-03-28 05:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have to ask yourself what kind of marrage (sp?) you want. You can't get married and have unanswered questions because I promise you they will follow you and make things down the road worse. If you REALLY feel that you need to know then you are entitled to an answer. Why is it so important that you NOT read them? If it isn't then he will let you or just delete them and you move on. if there is a reason, he will continue to refuse and be prepared, he may come back with "if you love me (or respect me) then you'll just leave it alone".
Bottom line, if it is bothering you then it is something that is important enough not to brush off. The fact that you are engaged means he WANTS to spend his life with you and that life should be honest with no secrets.
Sometimes it takes longer to REALLY know someone (meaning all their baggage and skeletons) than 7 months. It took me a couple yrs to really realize that we weren't meant for each other (we weren't married). I totally believe in following your heart and if it feels right but I also believe that once you make the decision to spend your life with someone, that means being willing to do what it takes to make it work and be healthy.....he shouldn't care if you read them if it is something you feel you need.
Hiding something no matter how big or small is not good and usually when a person insists that you not see/know something, it means they have something to hide.
Hope I have helped if even a little.
2007-03-28 12:48:58 · answer #2 · answered by ninalopez19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I trhink that that yolu should stress to him that since you two are suppose to be getting married that it is vital that you be honest with each other. There should be no reason for him to be essentially "hiding" the contents of the email from his ex-girl friend. The only reason for something like that is if he is intentionally hiding things because there could be potentially still something there between them. For a relationship to work , especially a marriage there should be no secrets and you have to be open and honest with each other. If his is hiding something as trivial as an email ...youhave to ask yourself ...what else is he hidinhg? Good luck in whatever you decide to do.
2007-03-28 12:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're getting married, he should be open with you about everything that's going on in his life. If you truly feel that this is a problem, then sit down with him and tell him exactly what your concern is, and how you feel about keeping things from each other. Trust your gut. You shouldn't be afraid to communicate with him about anything.
Also consider however, this might be considerably more innocent - like a honeymoon surprise, etc.
It is great that this came up before your marriage. Trust issues need to be completely resolved before making a commitment such as marriage. I wish you the very best of luck!
2007-03-28 12:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is obviously hiding it from you and feels ashamed of it. Talk to him about it. Let him know that it bothers you, and try not to blow up on him. He's scared of the consequences let hi feel comfortable talking to you about it but stress the fact that it bothers you. Having trust is a strong point in a relationship.
2007-03-28 12:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by Tay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, i think u should trust him more, the fact that he receives emaild from hi ex doesnt necesarily means he has something going on with her, i think that if u give him a lil space and trust him, he'll do the same to u. but keep in mind that communication is the key for a long lasting realationship so use it.
2007-03-28 12:39:43 · answer #6 · answered by bigshot_2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aaaaaaaaah! you must feel awful...
you need to find out what its all about - you're getting married to him - you deserve to know.
he's hiding something or he would show you. if was just his ex pestering him and he just didn't want you to get upset over nothing then he should have shown you and had a laugh about it. this is serious. try and find out what it says without him thinking you're a creepy phsyco, and, if it comes to it, get ready for some serious arguing...
2007-03-28 12:47:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say, but you probably know it already in your heart, he's still seeing her. he would have no other reason to be secretive.
2007-03-28 13:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by mark h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what your saying, but:
If you love your fiancee you will just trust him, if he says its nothing, and he doesnt want you to see it, just leave it alone.
2007-03-28 12:41:34 · answer #9 · answered by Nirel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you guys are getting married their should be no secrets between you two
2007-03-28 12:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by fabuliscious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋