my boyfriend's mom has breast cancer. the doctors gave her 8 months to live. how do i support him through this?? he is now having to support his little sister who is 7 and his mom. he is turning 18 soon.... what do i say and do???? =[ i feel helpless.
2007-03-28 05:25:11 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
This situation is very, very tough for a barely 18 year old boy to deal with. If you love him, and want to stick by him the whole time, I admire you for your courage. It will not be pretty towards the end. You can just be there for him. I wouldn't talk to him about a lot at first. Just let him know you are there when he wants to talk. The suggestion to help him with the housework and cooking is a great one. Also, if his mother will take your help, offer it. You can help him by accompanying her to doctors appointments and treatments, if she's having them. Just be supportive and help out where you can. Don't overwhelm yourself though if you're not totally committed. You are both very young to be dealing with this. I'm assuming she doesn't have a husband or partner to help? My thoughts are with you all during this hard time. God bless.
2007-03-28 05:35:51 · answer #1 · answered by Stephene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much you can say. The best you can do is be there for him. Lend him your shoulder to lean on. Do tasks that need to be done.
His sister is going to need him and he's going to need you. A lot of pressure but I'm sure you can get a feel for the situation.
My daughter lost her mom to breast cancer when she was 4. I put her in therapy for the sole purpose that she would have someone to talk to when she needed it as I could only say so much. It's more difficult to know the right things to say or do when you're attached to the situation. Therapist's are outside the family and better prepared to listen.
2007-03-28 12:38:21 · answer #2 · answered by mrnaturl1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear this & will say some prayers. Does he have other family that can help? He needs to rely on them & friends as well. He is lucky to have you right now but he can't take this on alone at 18. ARe they members of a church? Contact the Amer. Cancer Society & see if they can offer help to him. Maybe get some adults to organize a fund raiser for he & the family. If you like to cook, make them meals on occasion, offer to help them with chores, laundry around the house. The little things can help a great deal. God Bless!
2007-03-28 12:36:19 · answer #3 · answered by COblonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show them this--
Five hundred years ago, people said the world was flat. Today, people say that if the FDA and AMA haven't blessed something, it can't be real good. Well, here's something I know to be real AND good. It's a little different take on cancer treatment--
In 1990, I had Hodgkin's Lymphoma, stage 3-B, but I've survived. My doctors were great people, but they were limited to surgery, chemo and radiation by profitable AMA treatment policy. During the year in treatment, I started learning about alternative medicine. I'm a retired engineer, and this is what I've pieced together--our IMMUNE SYSTEMS become weakened by poor nutrition, lack of exercise and reduced oxygen. Once that happens, our body becomes vulnerable to common STRESSORS. Stressors can be environmental, like viruses, heavy metals, pesticides, food additives, electromagnetic waves or pollution. They can be internal things like emotional or job stress, or poisonous people in our lives. Aging is also a contributing factor. So this means:
WEAK IMMUNE SYSTEM + STRESSORS = DISEASE (cancer, diabetes, heart disease, etc.)
Our bodies have 60 trillion--yes, trillion--cells, and there are always some mutating into cancer cells, but a healthy immune system kills them before they have a chance to get a foothold in the body.
It takes a LONG time, usually, or a high level of stressors, to weaken the immune system to the point where it won't do its job, but once cancer has formed, it will generally spread rapidly.
THIS IS IMPORTANT! There are ways to BEAT cancer that are currently being used in Europe and around the world, and there are some great books on the subject. I know because I've read about 50 of them from cover to cover. Here's a list of the best ones. Some are out of print and getting hard to find--
"The Cure for All Cancers", ISBN 0963632825
"The Cure for All Advanced Cancers", ISBN 1890035165
"A Cancer Therapy", ISBN 0882681052
"Oxygen Therapies", ISBN 0962052701
"Hydrogen Peroxide--Medical Miracle", ISBN 1885236077
"The Natural Cure for Cancer--Germanium", ISBN 0533071410
"Killing Cancer", ISBN 0705000966
"Natural Cures 'They' Don't Want You to Know About", ISBN 0975599518
I know of people whose cancer has 'spontaneously remitted' (WENT AWAY for no known reason) AFTER they went on programs of herbs and nutrition to restart their immune systems.
You and your family must look out for yourselves to stand a chance of being healthy. This is not a joke, and I'm not selling anything--just trying to help.
I am using the things I learned in those books right now to fight off a second infestation of cancer. I've been at it for over a year now, and think I'm going to make it. Use what works for you, and pass on your success. Best of luck.
AMA AND FDA--
The American Medical Association (AMA) and the pharmaceutical companies control medical law and the FDA in this country with heavy lobbying and a revolving door policy. WHY would they want to do this? It's about the money. In 2006, medicine (doctors, hospitals, researchers and pharmaceutical firms) received 2.1 TRILLION dollars--15% of the total earnings (GNP 13.7 trillion) in the U.S. This is astounding! It means MILLIONS of people worked the whole year just to pay the nation's medical expenses!! That's totally astounding, and just too big to care about individuals.
Watch the film at this website--
http://www.altcancer.com/vidgal.htm#hoxsey
2007-03-30 23:35:34 · answer #4 · answered by Dorothy and Toto 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of the time people don't need you to say anything at all. Just be there for him and let your actions speak for you.
2007-03-28 18:11:54 · answer #5 · answered by Jenna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can support your boyfriend emotionally. Just tell him that you will always be there for him and will help him in anyway you can.
2007-03-28 12:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by sly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there and help him. If he needs a hand ordering food or cleaniing the house just give him a hand doing it.
2007-03-28 12:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by christigmc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so sry! SEND HER MY LOVE God Bless
2007-03-28 12:29:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋