I was brought up in the Catholic faith and I consider myself to be a moderate Christian but more spiritual than religious. I’ve been seeing a man who is an agnostic BUT attends the Presbyterian Church weekly and he claims that church has been a positive influence in his life BUT does not know if God exists. We’ve been very tolerant and respectful towards each other’s beliefs and values. So, far this relationship has been proven to be very challenging and complicated because of my family and friends does not approve of my association with him due to the religious differences.
I care for him and also for my family and friends… Is there any way that I’ll be able to save this relationship and make everyone happy at the same time. I don’t want to sacrifice one for the other and it’s tearing me apart. Please help me.
And also, I was told that if I ever exchange my soul for a non-believer like him. I will automatically go to hell for good. Is this even a guarantee that God will punish me for this? I don’t believe that God will send me to hell for loving him… I’m not a bad person and would never harm anyone.
2007-03-28 05:24:35 · 16 answers · asked by mitchchan 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Punished by whom? If your religion is that fear-based, I'm really glad it isn't something I share.
2007-03-28 05:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by VLR 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
You will not go to hell for loving an agnostic man. The agnostic himself may not go to hell either. But, that is a different issue. Your union will probably cause a problem later on in Life if either of you wants to try to change the other to match your respective views...that simply will not work. Love him for who he is & he should love you for who you are as long as you can keep religion out of the marriage - you will be okay - but the likelihood of that happening? Less than 1 chance in ten.
If he attends the Presbyterian Church - it is likely that he is not a member - Every Member must answer three questions affirmatively on the day that they join the church. I doubt that he has joined. IF he has joined then he LIED on those three questions.
You are here for a purpose and you will fulfill that purpose and then you will go back home and so will your agnostic.
So, be sure to enjoy your life as much as possible.
2007-03-28 09:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by ManeMan8 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the bigger question is this.... Would you want to worship and accept the beliefs and values instituted by a god who would condemn you to hell for loving someone on a different path?
I have often times told my mother in law (who incidently feels I going to hell in a handbasket) that if I live my life being the best person I can be, helping others when I can, and when I die, I find my beliefs are wrong and there is some big paternal figure wagging his finger at me because I didnt acknowledge his existance. If I am refused entrance to this supposed place called heaven for following the basic pre-requisites the bible lists but not attending church and believing all the hype regarding him while deathbed christians who have spent their entire lives causing misery can get in...oh hell no. I will gladly spend eternity in hell rather than in heaven with a bunch of hypocrites.
I'm an eclectic pagan with a staunch belief in reincarnation, but I married a seventh day adventist who is straddling the fence. Who's to say who is right....we wont know til we die and they arent giving up the answers... Its all conjecture til we find out for ourselves. Follow your inner voice...not someone elses, otherwise, you will spend your entire life wondering what if.......
2007-03-28 05:42:46 · answer #3 · answered by seanachaipriestess 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You either live for your family or you live your own life. Living for your family will cause you a horrible amount of pain. You may find yourself being drawn to agnosticism without realizing it....that doesn't matter. I have a Catholic family who still do not believe I am married because I chose to be married by a Universalist Minister and they also know my husband is an atheist. Had I listened to them I would have been miserable. Guess what, I leveled with my mother and she came to my wedding even though she didn't 'agree' with it. My family really likes my husband even if they don't 'agree' with him...honestly, that is so hollow. If they love you, they love you and then will allow you to live your life. That's called being an adult. If you're that worried about your family then I don't think you're ready to get married. You cannot make everybody happy, it just ain't gonna happen. It also sounds like he's pretty reasonable considering he still attends church even though he's agnostic.
2007-03-28 05:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by Yogini 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I study in the original texts of the Bible;
please let me give you some clear common sense advice from the Texts:
There is nothing wrong with you loving anyone, even an athiest. Most often, we are not in control of who we fall madly in love with. You sound like you both respect each other, and thats good. The Scriptures say that if you get together with a mate who does not have a relationship with Christ, that the best witness to him would be someone just like you. Not by preaching to him, but by example. Keep in mind also, that you very well may be in your particular relationship for exactly that mission. And, your family should stay out of it, completely.
That said, a side note for you:
It is fine to mate with a person of a different religion or even a non-believer: IF IF IF IF
that person does not interfere with your relationship with God, or any service you may need to do for God. If a husband for example, forbids his wife from reading Gods Word, then its grounds for a divorce.
Yes, divorce. I know that many Christians believe that divorce is a sin, but thats not what the manuscripts say; adultery would be a sin if it applied, but not divorce.
So if your boyfriend does not keep you from your relationship with God, you are in good shape. You love and respect the man just the way that you seem to be doing, and tell your family that you love them, but that this one is personal and between you, your boyfriend, and God. They need to respect that.
2007-03-28 05:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-20 03:19:53 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this whole God thing is true then YOU wont be punished...he will be punished in hell...you will go to heaven (maybe) and you will both be spirits and not worry about less important things like a relationship that happened on Earth...good luck with the overbearing family...they can be a *****, can't they?
P.S. If you want to know what will really happen to you based on your beliefs, then read your Bible and stop asking idiots questions on yahoo.
2007-03-28 05:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by Ben i 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your salvation depends upon your relationship with the Savior Jesus Christ.
If you have truely received Him as Lord and savior then you are saved. Remember that only God knows our heart.
Marrying someone who doesn't hold the same belief that you have will most likely bring you some trouble in life, but God doens't "punish" this. The punishment might come in the form of religious arguments.
We are to be equally yoked in marriage.
I would strongly suggest that the two of you study the bible together. There is an awesome study put out by Precept Ministries called "A Marriage without regrets" by Kay Arthur
Here is a link to their web site:
www.precept.org
2007-03-28 05:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by redeemed 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You will never be punished for loving anyone. God's law is Love, Christ's only commandment was Love.
You got some junk in your trunk if you are worried about being punished for loving someone. You may want to broaden your religous studies a little. God Bless
2007-03-28 05:38:00 · answer #9 · answered by Fancy That 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not make everyone happy, Liebling. It just won't happen. You have to see if YOU are willing to be with him, not your friends and family.
As far as God punishing you......your friends and family are not in a position to judge. Thats up to God. If you live your life as a good person, I don't see the issue. Maybe in time he will see your side of religion, if not, God will judge....not others.
2007-03-28 05:31:15 · answer #10 · answered by PrincessPlum 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've found a good man. If your family and friends really love you and care about your happiness, they will be happy for you.
Would a just and loving God condemn you for loving someone?
2007-03-28 05:30:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋