I've never hurt her in any way, didn't come onto her boyfriends, never gave her a reason to hate me. Just wanted to have a sister relationship of shopping, gossiping and having a best friend. I feel that it's jealousy but our mother says it's both our faults......how could it be my fault when I'm the one that wants the "closer" relationship!!!?? This sister and our mother have the relationship of "friends" that I wished I had with the both of them. It's unfair and I can't seem to make it any better no matter what I do.
2007-03-28 05:22:24 · 10 answers · asked by MissLib-R-T76 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I grew up with four brothers, and one older sister. And she hated me. From the time I was born, my mother used to tell me. Even going so far as to hit me for being there, when I was in my crib sleeping (my Mum caught her at it).
No matter what I did, my sister and I could not be friends. I was like you, in that I wanted that sister relationship. But Sis wanted nothing to do with me.
Unfortunately, it doesn't get better. Although there is no more open antagonism on her part when we meet, we hardly ever meet. I can count on one hand, the number of times I have seen my sister in the last 30 years.
So sad.
You are either going to have to decide to just keep butting your head up against the brick wall your sister put up trying ot get her to see reason. Or you are going to have to accept that you will never have the relationship with her that you wish, and just accept the situation as it is.
2007-03-28 05:28:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
If youve done childish things to your sister or not her being older should make her wiser. Its in the past and a wiser person would want to make the relationship better. Its not your fault your sister isnt as mature as you are. I found my adopted sister and thought we were going to be good close friends with a great relationship. Problem was she was into her self more then anybody. When your dealing with a self centered person you cant change that. In time she'll grow up and things might get better between you. If not then life will go on. The problem with your mother concerns me more. Ask your mom why she doesnt want a closer relationship with you. Tell her you'd love to have a closer better relationship. If she gives you a reason she doesnt want one then tell her one day she'll be sorry and walk away. By the way sweetie its not both your faults youre trying to work things out, its your sister thats not very mature. For your mother to say that was wrong of her, instead she should of sat you both down and tried to work something out. Personally if I were your mother I would of asked you both if you wanted to go shopping or have a girls day out together.
2007-03-28 12:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CW I don't have a very good relationship with my Sister either. We are six years apart and we fight like cats and dogs. We are just so different that we will never see eye to eye. She is financially irresponsible and i am more conservative. She is constantly telling me that I don't carve out enough time for the family yet I cant get her to pick up the phone to call me. It always up to me. She is dreadfully jealous of ANY time I spend with our Mother to the point where she will start arguments to get my Mother not to go place with me. I just try and stay clear of her at this point. I have no solution for you but I just thought you might want to see that your not alone.
2007-03-28 12:29:56 · answer #3 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kind of know how you feel my older sister and i used to be quite close but she was always the pretty one and the one with money she always acted like she was so much better than me then i lost lots of weight came in to a lot of money since then she stopped talking to me we have not talked for 3 years i do miss her now im living in the usa all my family is in the uk i thought about writing her a letter i hope you and your sister can sort things out even if you think your in the right you should still try
2007-03-28 12:52:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh !
I Know What Do You Say ! My Older Sis Doesnt like me much ... She Even Dont Let Me Call My Girl !
2007-03-28 12:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by Son Of Zion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't feel bad, you're not doing anything wrong. my older sister and i aren't very close because of the way she chooses to live her life. i would love to have the type of relationship with her that i have with my best friend. then again, we are 9 years apart. but don't think it's something you're doing wrong, because it's not.
~Claire
2007-03-28 12:29:01 · answer #6 · answered by Silent Rumours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense but i am sure you are part of the problem you referred to her as 'this sister' so that goes to show your level of respect for her. give it some time and let her come around. the both of you have issues so just wait ...hopefully in due time you will both realize how luckey you are to have one another.
2007-03-28 12:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, youre not the only one. I dont make it any easier with my lil sis to have a good realationship with me either. me and my mom usually go shopping with out her.
2007-03-28 12:33:15 · answer #8 · answered by Funny Bunny! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else..she is jealous..I have 4 older jealous sisters...I tried for years ...they are who they are.......I'm happier just being me and letting what is be..........
2007-03-28 12:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
show her your pimp hand is WAY strong
2007-03-28 12:25:05 · answer #10 · answered by WEHA 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋