we've been together for 2 years, I haven't spend any time alone with my girlfriends since. He said he will go anywhere i go with the girls. my question is, why does he want to follow me to a gal's night out? we already told him no guys alone. he insist there is no such thing these day. what kind of guys is this? why doesn't he trust me but still want to be with me? what kind of physco is this? he's very controlling, demanding and aggressive too. If i know he's like this in the beginning, i would think twice leaving my first relationship. now i feel so stupid. i left my family for him. i'm so regret now. i will blame myself for the rest of my life. i feel so guilty for leaving my kids too. i should be dead by now.
2007-03-28 05:21:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You may not agree with me, but I believe it takes compromise to live a stress free life. There is a reason why he's sticking to you like that. He's got every right to be attached coz he's your man. But if it bothers you a lot, talk to him sincerely. Let him know how you feel and then I think he'll start to give you space. Change may not happen overnight but if he's the man you left your family...even your precious kids for then he must be worth it.
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2007-03-28 05:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by Leilyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deffinetly a bad relationship, but yu still have time to fix it! i'm sure all your family and friends miss you, and I would tell your boy friend that hes just too much for you and you dont want to live with him, unless he starts giving you some more independency! You should lay down the law an flat out say you need some time alone to spend with your family and friends. After that see what happens in yur relatoinship. If he agrrees to give you your own life stay with him if he doesnt say that you can't live with him and get out of the relationship right away.
2007-03-28 12:34:01 · answer #2 · answered by Mary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say the word 'possesive'? If you left your family for him AND he doesnt' allow you to spend alone time with your friends then he is controlling you and chances are in order to get rid of him there will be some sort of personal protection order and a court proceeding.
Shame on you for leaving your kids for him, but if you were gullable enough to do that then they are probably better off. You should be a strong role model and leader for your kids, not a coward.
2007-03-28 12:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by kauai_lvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some women would find all these characteristics to fall on the plus side of a tally sheet. You obviously find them falling on the negative side. It is a very bad thing to look back over the fence to see the grass is "actually" greener in the place you left. You did irreparable damage to your family and now you are unhappy. I don't know what to tell you except I can't muster very much sympathy for you.
BTW, why are you still with this guy?
2007-03-28 12:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not too late to get out of this controlling relationship. Will your family take you back? Call them immediately.
Nothing good can come of a relationship where the man feels he needs to be right behind you everywhere you go.
Get out while you still can.
It sounds like you've made some serious mistakes -- don't make them worse by staying in this awful relationship just to save face. Save your life, instead.
2007-03-28 12:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by kelannde 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow... when they say.. what comes around ... goes around.. and ur learning that first hand... you NEVER suppose to leave ur family for a new person...family first... well to me he is this way because im guessing u cheated with him from ur ex... and he thinks u will do it to him.... im not judging you ok.. but just make things right.... tell him to knock it off... he has no right to treat u like a child... u dont need supervision.. and if he doesnt stop it u will leave... stand up for yourself....everyone makes mistakes and you sure did but learn from it.... go back to ur kids... be the mother ur suppose to be... u said u should be dead now.. NO U DONT... ur kids needs you... ur kids comes first now not this man u married...make the wrong u made right, and start today.... u will be so much happier... take care ok.. and good luck...
2007-03-28 12:38:44 · answer #6 · answered by gina B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously get out of there. I hope for you your not married to him!!!!! If you leave him and he keeps following you file a report. Go get yourself a better life again! And try to make up with atleast your kids!!!!
2007-03-28 12:27:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you made a big mistake..
Break it off and get away from him..
One of your problems is that this guy
already knows you are a cheater...
Find another man...
2007-03-28 12:26:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would run, not walk. You know this is not a good relationship for you
2007-03-28 13:51:29 · answer #9 · answered by sjlova86 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what's stopping you now?
2007-03-28 13:37:46 · answer #10 · answered by shiara_blade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋