i want to be able to kiss him, but i dont know if he would kiss back. whenever we go anywhere he always puts his arm around and tells me i cute or he loves me or etc. i dont know wut to do, ive never kissed anyone, but i want that to change. he lives near me so he could come over and since my mom's not home, we could like kiss, a lot maybe.
im 13, and i know im too young to be kissing, but me and him have known eachother for a while. i dont want any moms saying that i need to stay a kid. im not gonna lose my virginity or anything.
2nd-my boyfriend does pot. i want him to stop, but how?
2007-03-28 05:20:27 · 14 answers · asked by hockeyangelofdeath 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
his mom was the one who got him on drugs, he used to do heroin, but not anymore. his mom died of a heart attack at the age of 38 a few weeks ago
2007-03-28 05:28:51 · update #1
Just go for the kiss. That's the only way you'll find out if he will kiss you back! From what you said, I'm sure he will.
Tell him that if he doesn't stop doing pot that you're going to break up with him. If he really cares about you like he says, he'll stop. If not, he wasn't meant for you and you're better off without him.
Good luck!
2007-03-28 05:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You to are two different people. 1. you are a jock (that's cool) 2. he's a "pot" head. (not interested in doing anything except getting high). You are young and beautiful with a clear head and wanting to grow up enjoying new and special things that are important to young ladies. He won't stop smoking pot and you won't stop playing hockey. Why? Because the both of you are doing things that you enjoy. If you insist on seeing this guy don't expect him to change for you and don't you start smoking pot either. He can influence you to do bad things, but, you can not influence him to do good things. The best thing you should expect is that he not be high when he is with you, period! Be a strong young lady , as strong as you are on the ice. If you can be a good girlfriend then you should expect him to put an effort to be a better boyfriend. (it might help to think how your coach handles the players, is boyfriend a bench warmer or a first stringer? figure it out ICE !) Just take charge and be cool , this is good practice handling the boys now and when you become that young woman everyone wants there daughter to be like you will be awesome! Just read the update, Don't be alone with him, OK? He needs to get his own help and he first has to admit he has a proplem. By the way, have you talked to your Mom about this? What do you think she would say?
2007-03-28 12:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by make room for daddy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should worry less about the kissing and more about the doing pot. It is a known fact that if you "hang around" people that use drugs, you are more likely to use them yourself rather than convince them to not use. Does that makes sense to you? The kissing stuff will come soon enough. Stop obsessing over the little things and pay attention that this big red flag is appearing over this boy and you see it and want to do something to change it. I'm almost 50 years old and there's one thing that I've learned in my long life... you can't change someone and get them to STOP doing something that they like doing. You have to control your environment. If this boy doesn't want to kiss, that's not a good boyfriend for you. If he smokes pot and that's not what you want in your life (and great for you), ditch him. With the issue of the heroin and his mom dying... he has problems that you probably aren't ready for or mature enough for...
If you really want to do the girl thing and try to change him, you can see these antidrug videos on you tube.
2007-03-28 12:52:51 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, I am not a mom, but I am going to tell you to stay a kid anyway. You did not say how old he is, but it doesn't really matter. If he is smoking pot, you do not need to be around him anyway, much less playing kissy face with him with your mom not home. You cannot get him to stop - that is a decision he will have to make on his own. You can always test him - tell him he either stops getting high or you will not see him again. Chances are he will kick you to the curb...sorry honey, but that is just life! You say you are not going to lose your virginity, but what is going to happen when he is high and his inhibitions are low, you are at your house with no adult and he pressures you to have sex?
2007-03-28 12:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by c_n_s130 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he loves you ALREADY? and he hasnt even kissed you?!? Man he sure is uptight for a stoner. I think you may have to just do it yourself already! lol! It will be fun I promise. Just pounce on him while you two are all playful and having fun and the moment will be AMAZING when y'all kiss! Especially your first kiss, and your first kiss with him, together! As for the pot, dont worry about it....If he does it an insanely amount for a 13 yr old then you've got a problem, but I mean....If my mom died at 13, I'd be smokin pot that early on in life too! It obviously didnt affect your decision to go out w/ him in the first place so dont let it stop you now!
2007-03-28 12:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Hanging out with a POT HEAD for two weeks doesn't make him your boyfriend. It means you are not ready to make a boyfriend decision yet. Tell your mother there is a drug addict hanging around trying to get to know you better. You are not going to change him. In all likely-hood he will have you turned into a POT HEAD and A HO BAG to support his habits. Get the heck away from this LOSER.
2007-03-28 12:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kenny Ray 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok im not going to say ur too young to kiss like a mother. but i will say this....even if u were 20 or 30 or whatever age... a guy that uses drugs isnt the guy for you.... he will not have a stable life or job and u deserve so much better... he will only bring ur life down and u will surely do the drugs he does.... how to stop using drugs.. JUST DONT BUY IT..... do other things with his time like hobbies... sports....
2007-03-28 12:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by gina B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest leave the kissing thing along
HE DOES POT christ girl get away from him
Just honestly dont get miixed up in that leave him before it gets to late
Just make the right decision and your 13 you've got your whole life infront of you :)
2007-03-28 12:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by Ben 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, for the first question, don't do anything you're not ready for.
As for the second, a person can only change if THEY want to change.
This is one of the biggest problems with females. They all think they can change their man.
Get over yourself. YOU CAN'T!
2007-03-28 12:24:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Focus on school. It's more important. Don't waste your time on someone who is doing drugs. It's a mistake.
2007-03-28 12:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋