FWB situations usually end up bad-mine has. its been 6 months "together". We talk everyday and see each other 2x week. (he usually sleeps at my house cuz it's closer to his work and mine) we were discussing a friend who cheats on his girlfriend and I said it was horrible. later he asked how I would feel if he was having sex with others. I was honest and said i wouldn't like it. He reminds me that we aren't "boyfriend-girlfriend" I told him yeah i know but it would. He said i could do what i want and it wouldn't bug him, i should have fun. I felt so bad. we kept talking and then i asked "so you don't mind if I have sex with other guys?" and he said he wouldn't want to hear about it but he wouldn't mind and that he can't rule out that he will. SO I was tempted to end it right there but didn't. Its not his fault i ended up feeling this way. It sucks cuz ut was lots of fun. What is the right thing to do now? End it before i get hurt worse or wait and see if he changes his mind?
2007-03-28 05:16:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he is asking how I would feel does that mean he is about to do it? he hasn't yet cuz i asked and he is an honest guy. and i already know i made a mistake. please just help.
2007-03-28 05:18:05 · update #1
Well, no i know he hasn't yet for sure. i know you are thinking i wouldn't know but he is the kind to be too honest whether it hurts or not. and he has been about other things.
2007-03-28 05:27:00 · update #2
Oh Sylvia - you should go and read some of my questions/comments about this guy I was "dating" for three years and found myself in this same situation. The pain was, at that time, the worse pain of my life (I've recently experienced pain greater than that) even after giving birth five times! This guy - no - "I" strung myself along for three whole years with a FWB guy. At first it was what it was supposed to be - just sex - but we started spending more time together, going out, doing "dating" type things - huge mistake. Guys have this inexplicable talent at being phyiscally close without becoming emotionally close. I swear to God I don't know how they do it. I knew all along that my FWB was seeing other women, I told him that as long as I don't have to see it or hear of it, I was cool. I too was seeing other guys - in the beginnig, but then I really fell in love with him and began to see only him - another huge mistake. When he told me that it didn't bother him if I saw other guys and in fact would prefer that I did, I thought I went deaf. It hurt so ******** bad. TRUST me when I say it won't get better, he WON'T change his mind. Why should he? Men don't "fall" in love like we do. Sure you may grow on him, but you'll spend another year or two trying to make him jealous or want more, and he just won't. You think it hurts now? Wait another year, or even 6 more months and the pain will be unbearable. Get out now. The best thing to do is let it hurt like hell - don't call him, don't see him, don't text him, don't IM him, don't email him. Dig deep down and let the pain surround you, stay in your apartment for weeks and let the pain wash over you. People say "try to stay busy, push the thoughts away" but that only prolongs the inevidable (I tried that the first time I tried to leave him alone - I unsuccessfully tried 4 times before actually being able to leave him). Let it hurt as much as possible, all at once, instead of trying to drown it out over time. Trust me. It's been a two years since I've seen my "ex" and though I'm getting married to someone else in September, I still love him. You simply can't help who you love. I love my fiance more (when I said I recently experienced worse pain, I was talking about a fight that we had which I thought ended our relationship) but it doesn't stop the fact that I still love my "ex". It's just now, it doesn't hurt anymore. I don't litterally crave him and have withdraws like I used to. I mean I used to actually vomit. When I had finally had enough of the crap with my "ex" (I found him in bed with someone else and what could I do or say?) I decided to go cold turkey and exed him out of my life completely, I used to vomit daily - I swear for like almost a month straight. It was that bad. Then it got easier and easier and I was finally ready to meet someone else and date again (only for real this time). So trust me, as bad as you feel and will feel, it's best to get it over with. He's not going to change his mind. Good luck sweetie. Hey, and don't let ANYONE tell you to just "Get over it", it really doesn't work that way. You take all the time you need.
2007-03-28 05:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, if this guy really cared about you and your feelings then the two of you would be in a relationship and not just having "Casual Sex" like it has no meaning. It seems as if you are just a convenience to him and once he has taken up with another he will leave you alone with no remorse. It's plain to see that he's not looking for anything more than a comfortable and convenient lay when possible. Know your self worth and drop that zero and get you a Hero. In this day and age sex is too complicated, possibly deadly and so not worth it to be out having flings and brief encounters. Anyone who can sleep with you, carry on as if you two are in a relationship and etc., but refuses to label you as his "Partner, Girlfriend or Woman" is a definite NOT!!!! Never wait on anyone to make a decision for you. You are your own person and if you allow someone to mistreat, misuse and disrespect you then YOU can blame no one but YOURSELF. I know we all find ourselves sometimes settling when we don't want to, make up excuses why we should stay, overlook everything that matters just for temporary satisfaction but in the end we still end up with a broken heart or feeling used. Get out while you can because you are missing all of the secret blessings waiting for you but you are too wrapped up in this guy to see. Good luck and let me know how everything works out. Remember LOVE YOURSELF FIRST!!!!!!!!
2007-03-28 05:54:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I am sorry you are in this position but you have to take control now. Get out of it. He seems to be making it clear that he doesn't want to date. Listen to his words not his actions.
It will hurt and feel bad but it will be worse when he is with another girl and you are alone.
End it and try to move on.
2007-03-28 05:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2015-08-19 08:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's sleeping around on you. I hope you are using protection when you have sex with him. If you want to be in a relationship with him under the conditions that he will have sex with whoever he wants, then stay. If you want to be in an exclusive relationship you need to move on.
2007-03-28 05:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by leaptad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say he's honest and i believe you but what if he has and just doesn't want to hurt you because you already let him know that it would bother you. the reason i say that is because i was the same situation and i ended up just letting her go because i did not want to hurt her any more than i already had.
2007-03-28 05:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by glue stick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he aint going to openly admit he's had sex with another girl even if he is honest. end it now befor you get hurt his comment means that he is already having sex with other girls and he's just using u when he cant get any from anyone else. is that how you want to be treated? do you want to be used?
2007-03-28 05:21:23 · answer #7 · answered by Chevy Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave before you get hurt. Before you do that, you might want to tell him how you feel, but be prepared for rejection. Good luck.
2007-03-28 05:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by ilovethe90s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. He obviously is not interested in anything serious.
2007-03-28 05:20:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him. hes just using you for sex and he doesnt care about you
2007-03-28 05:22:53 · answer #10 · answered by melanie h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋