i work in a bank and i have a reputation of being a player. it's my own fault i know but the problem is that i like this girl who also works here. i'm not trying to play her in any way but i'm afraid that she'll take my past into consideration and not want anything to do with me. would you look past that?
2007-03-28 05:05:57 · 24 answers · asked by glue stick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ahhh, the old player reputation. See how these things come back to haunt? Well, I believe you need to approach this young girl and let her know "you probably think of me as being a player.....I know my reputation behooves me, but I would really like to spend some time with you and get to know you better". Invite her out to a nice dinner (and keep your hands to yourself), take her to a movie (keep your hands to yourself). Show her that you can be a gentlemen for a few dates so she is guessing whether you are an actual player or maybe your past interests were simply on friendship basis. Good Luck Romeo...don't forget to buy her a single rose when you pick her up for that date. Again, keep your hands to yourself and no need to kiss her the first date......Turn on the charm!
2007-03-28 05:44:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say in this circumstance it would be best to become friends first. Do some group activities, afterwork drinks etc. Then after a few months ask for a one on one date and take it slow.
Now for the real question, do you really like her or is the player in you coming out and you just want the chase? If I were you I would look long and hard at the reason you like her. If you can only answer with "because she's pretty", then leave her alone.
2007-03-28 05:12:20 · answer #2 · answered by kauai_lvr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure if she likes you she will go out with you but she wont take you serious. which will lead you to the part where you are going to have to work really hard at convincing her that you really like her and only her and that you want something more than what you have had in the past. this is going to be a tough one for you its hard to get a girl to change her outlook on a player so make sure this is what you want because you have alot of work ahead of you.
good luck~
2007-03-28 05:12:32 · answer #3 · answered by Nikki25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy i want to be with right now and have been flirting with a lot lately has the same reputation. there's nothing you can do, and if she's heard about it, don't try telling her how wrong it is, she's going to believe that you're simply telling her what you want her to think. I know about my guy but I'm still interested, i just know to be cautious and aware. it's up to her, so if she doesn't want to get involved, leave her alone and just be nice to her, don't push her, she won't like it, let her make up her own mind, and be aware that she is likely to be very cautious with you and watching you when other women are around if you get together
2007-03-28 05:16:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason that you have that reputation, and she'd be stupid if she didn't take that into consideration. (I know I definitely would).
In my mind, I'd say, "Here's a guy that's a complete player... sure he's saying he's not gonna play me, but why should I believe that?"
You should pay more attention to cleaning up your reputation before you try to get with her. I'm sure she is worth it. :)
2007-03-28 05:14:12 · answer #5 · answered by OffLiCute 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you could proof that you're not a player anymore, it will take some time to proof that though.
You could just spend all your attention to her, send her a sweet card for a occasion. Don't wright anything sleesy in there but something sweet. Ask her to dinner and you could just explain what is going on, some women like it when your very honest!!!
Good luck!!!
2007-03-28 05:12:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're sincere and your words AND actions are genuine, then yes, I would look past your reputation as a player. Hope she gives you a shot. Good Luck!
2007-03-28 05:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by Freddie xoxo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES YES YES!!! my boyfriend has a reputation of being a player!! everyone in my skool knows it! i never thought i would b dating him because of the things i heard about him...but when he met me he fell in love with me, and he changed his way...he says hes willing to b committed, and doesnt want to b the way he use to be anymore. i looked past the way he use to be, and realized hes not like that!!!! she should give u a chance if u said you've changed!
2007-03-28 05:10:52 · answer #8 · answered by JB. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't look past it at all. You could try to explain to her that you really are interested in an actual relationship but truth is you're going to have to show her.
2007-03-28 05:12:27 · answer #9 · answered by Lys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will probably take a while for her to build that trust up in you...I would think she would go a long with it but not giving herself completely because she is aware of how you was....Besides your worst enemy is an office full of girls knowing this about you...GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-28 05:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋