I had this very macho and attractive neighbor in a bldg. where i live in with my kid, we've been neighbors for half a decade now and he's very fascinated with my child though we don't really talk or even say "hi" everytime we see each other.Just recently He txted, telling me that he got my number from our other neighbor and that he really like me but was afraid that i might ignore him if he would talk to me or even greet me. He kind of seducing me, and he had a way with words. I am very much attracted to him and every girl here in our building i think, do too. He is so sexy that its really hard to ignore him. But i am very much committed with the father of my child though we are'nt married. I know that he is not that serious and just wanted to play around but i feel like i cant resist him any longer that i even dreamed of doing "it" with him. It scares the hell out of me if my partner would find out coz i don't want to ruin my 8years relationship with my partner who is 30yrs older.
2007-03-28 05:00:05 · 17 answers · asked by jho 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't! this guy knows your not falling over hills for him like all the other little mama's, so he's just testing to see how far you are willing to go and to prove to himself & the other person who gave out your number that he got you sprung. If I was in your shoes I would just tell him that your not intrested and that you are not that kinda girl. He will hurt more knowing your man gots what he wants, you. trust me this guy is just trying to score for his best intrest, and besides you already had him, remember in your dreams. That's all you need:) love is stronger that a one nightstand. Let me know what happens. smooches Oceansun!
2007-03-28 05:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very BEST way to do this is to move. to remove yourself from temptation. Secondly, the thing to do is to analyze all these mixed emotions. If I were in a committed relationship, there wouldn't be a man around that could entice me to jeopardize that. Maybe this is a relationship of convenience and you are not very emotionally attached? In that case, let that relationship go first before you allow the other one to happen. Third best is to tell the guy that you are being "seduced" that you want to honor your relationship, and although you find him attractive, you want to remain true to this other person.
2007-03-28 12:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with the guy, tell him that you don't want to jeopardize your relationship with the father of your child. Eight years and a child is not something to throw away from a small fling-no matter how good looking they are. It's best if you are upfront about this with the man in your building and tell him not to try and contact you again.
2007-03-28 12:05:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also in that situation. I totally understand where your coming from. What I do to overcome the wanting is just try to think of other things(easier said than done)Like play with my son or other thing. I have at time wanted to go & knock on the door & jump in to his arms(especially when my mate is out of town on work) But, stop & think about your current relationship. I think alot of it has to do with your current man & the age diff. If you want sex break it off first. It's not worth being a cheater. If you happen to find what works let me know!!!!
2007-03-28 12:57:40 · answer #4 · answered by Fee-Fee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your partner is 30 yrs older than you ?? you should not be with him..no matter how great he is and who cares if he is your caughters father.....he can have visitation rights...you leave...take your daughter or tell him to leave....then you date this other man who has you dreaming of doing IT with him and see if he is someone worth your time and befriend him and see if you two can be an item or not..if you get into a one on one relationship with him..then do IT...but don't cheat on your man...evil people cheat...and it is a SIN...let that old man go though..you get with this guy who has you thinking crazy or another man your own age....!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-28 12:06:22 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are with a man 30 YEARS older than you?
Not my cup of tea, but whatever.
When you are only 40 you will be changing His diapers!!!
If you want to have casual sex and can handle it that is up to you. But I would not date or screw around with someone who lived in my building....It could make for a really uncomfortable situation.
2007-03-28 12:17:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a similar situation except he has multiple love intrests. Of course i am too young to give you any advice but this guy who lives a couple of doors down from me is sooooooooooo cute always says hi and asks me how i am doing but i just don't no what to say so i just freeze up. i avoid him by not walking past his door(may be hard for you),
2007-03-28 12:14:45 · answer #7 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang out your fam and friends and do what you love to do (sports, sewing, knitting, ect.) take a day and go to the spa, or get your nails done!! it will keep you busy and relaxed. You will have fun and will get a load taken off your shoulders!! Hope this helps anyone and everyone and most of all YOU!!
2007-03-28 12:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Wings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen the movie Sliver? Your neighbor sounds a lot like the character in the movie.
2007-03-28 12:04:36 · answer #9 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After reading your, um, question. I have come to the conclusion that it won't matter in the least who does who in your building. The only losers will be the offspring that result from all the doing it.
2007-03-28 12:06:09 · answer #10 · answered by Papa Joe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋