My daughter is 10 and already acting out.............?

Question

Do you know of any scared straight programs, boot camps, or boarding schools that are affordable and that could help? Most of them are for teens also.......she is only 10.

Answer 1

I think that would only make the situation worse. Try being nice to her, talking to her and trying to see from her perspective. Its amazing what you can get done with kids if you just put a little time and effort.

Answer 2

I don't know of any scared straight programs, but I do think the talk to local law enforcement might do the trick.

I don't agree with everyone that giving her more attention is the answer however. You want to catch her being good and reward that behavior... if you just start lavishing attention on her, you are basically rewarding the bad behavior, so when she is being good, THAT is when you should give her attention... the bad you should punish, remove things from her life that she holds near and dear.... I reduced my daughter's wardrobe to two pairs of icky jeans and three plain colored tshirts until the temper tantrums stopped, for every good day she earned back a cute outfit and we spent time together talking about how much better it feels to be calm.

Requires an amount of time but the end result is worth it, hang in there your daughter is worth it.

Answer 3

Sending her to boarding school should not be an option. Spend lots of time with her. Have a time set aside at least once a week for just you and her. Show her that she is the most important part of your life. If she is not in some sort of organized recreational program, get her in one. The interaction with other girls her age may help her see that acting out benefits no one, especially herself.
Remember, she is probably prepubescent and those hormones are flying. Be patient, love her madly and get involved.

Answer 4

1st of all calm down
this is VERY normal for 10 yr.old girls
My message to my daughter and friends that have girls is:
For every year( about 9-16) girls tend to "grow" a new set of lips(this is only by expression)
it seems when you get used to the 10 yr old lips ...here comes the11 yr.old lips this continues though 16-18 yr old girls
please try to keep the lines of communication open though out your daughters life
you don't need to take this so hard or worry just yet
boot camps etc are not what they are cracked up to be nor are they to be used without trying all other avenues first
you sound like you are level headed so give yourself a break and keep trying to be the best mom you can be

Answer 5

You shouldn't breed! The child is 10 years old! Have you given some thought maybe talk with her find out why or whats going on at all? Children act out its a part of childhood, all kids do it! You sound like you want someone else to raise your child, and dont want to be bothered maybe thats her problem lack of a mother figure in her life. Try talking to her and finding out whats going on. Another thing 10 year old girls aren't far from starting their periods this could be part of the problem.

Answer 6

I believe it would be a rather outlandish idea to send a 10 year old to boot camp.

Answer 7

DEAR

HOW CAN YOU LET YOUR CHILD WALK OVER YOU? HOW CAN LET HER ALWAYS GET HER WAY ?
DEAR PLEASE READ AND PRETTY PLEASE BE A MOMMY OK

(1ST) SPANK HER LITTLE BOTTOM REALLY WELL DONE AT LEAST UNTIL HOT TO THE TOUCH

(2ND) PUT HER KNEES NOSE TO THE WALL

(3RD) WASH HER MOUTH WITH SOAP FOR BECOMING A SMART MOUTH

(4TH) TAKE AWAY ALL THINGS OUT OF HER ROOM BUT CLOTHES AND BED

(5TH) GROUND HER FROM TV MOVIES COMPUTER NO PHONE CALLS NO FRIENDS NO SLEEP OVERS ETC OK

DEAR MAKE HER SAY YES MOMMY NO MOMMY YES DADDY NO DADDY YES MAMA NO MAMA YES SIR NO SIR PRETTY PLEASE THANK YOU YES TEACHER NO TEACHER

(6TH) GO TO THE VICE PRINCIPAL'S OFFICE AND SIGN A PAPER FOR HER TO GET SPANKED

(7TH) IF YOU DO THIS YOU MIGHT SEE A REALLY CHANGE IN HER LITTLE WAY IN ABOUT (1-2) WEEKS A NEW CHILD BEFORE YOU OK

TAKE CARE
DEAR AND THANK YOU FOR READING THIS POST PS I POST IT BECAUSE IT WORKS WELL

Answer 8

oh my god i am going through the exact thing and i have told her several times that i was going to send her to raymond moses(he used to come on the jenny jones show and yell at the kids) and she starts acting better for about 10 minutes then its back to the same old thing. i even recently started spanking and thats worse she screams like im trying to kill her so she can get even more attention, they say its a phase but im ready for it to end i don't know of any boot camps for young ones but i wish you well and a buttload of patience is the only thing i can recommend.let her know she is hurting you by her actions the old guilt trip.mine can be a sweetie she is just going through a change i guess

Answer 9

Have you had her tested for ADHD, (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder) or ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder) or any other behaviorial or emotional disorders? Without knowing exactly how she is acting out it is hard to answer your question. As a parent of 4, ranging from 33 to 16, I can tell you that kids all have different ways of acting out. Sometimes it is from lack of attention or affection, other times it is from stress or problems with school or friends.
My 16 year old was "acting out" before he entered school and I constantly told his DR. that something was not right. By the time he entered kindergarten he was labeled a "problem child". The Dr. then diagnosed him with ADHD but that did not take care of all of the "problems".
Luckily, I moved to Nashville and he was tested further after suicide threats, extreme opposition to anyone in authority, and other emotional problems. He was diagnosed with ODD and Bipolar Disorder. After many years of trying different medications and combinations of them, he is doing great in school and has a purple belt in Tae Kwon Do. These are things that would never have been possible had he not been properly diagnosed at Vanderbilt Children's Psychiatric Hospital. I never gave up on him and continued to seek help from every avenue. Today he sees a psychologist twice a month and a psychiatrist once every 3 months for meds maintainence and counseling.
A lot of people are against medicating their children but I can tell you from experience that it makes all the difference in the world. I have 2 grandbabies, girls 11 and 6, and my son refused to admit that they needed medication. They have been diagnosed with ADD (Attention Deficit Disorder) and have been on meds for about 6 months. Their behavior has improved but they have a long ways to go as their behavior was so far out of control to begin with. I believe on down the line they will find other medical or emotional problems with both of them, as I did with my son. I also watched my nephew, who is now 28, live the same life WITHOUT medication and his life will never be good, in my opinion.
I'm not saying your daughter has any of these disorders but just wanted you to consider testing before bootcamp, where she will be with kids much worse acting and which could possibly leave her worse off than she is.
Give her all of the love and attention she craves, consider counseling, both as a family and individually for her. Pray a lot for her and for the strength for you to see her through this difficult time. Good Luck and God Bless You for seeking help for her instead of giving up as so many parents do.

Answer 10

Acting out how? Stealing, drugs? If thats the case, call Children and family services..they have programs to help deal with troubled kids.

If you are talking about her attitude and backtalking, this is very normal at this age...puberty is on the way.