ok...before i tell ya'll this, just kno its really hard to talk about, but i think aomeone out there has an anwser for me. ok....i go to church with a guy, and we've dated 3 times...when we met, we kicked it off from the start...(this was 3 years ago). later to find out he liked me. so we dated(10th grade yr). then broke up after only 2 months.well later that year we became friends again till this summer (goin into my 11th garde yr) he texted me and tells me he still wants to be with me...and i did too. so we had the best summer of my life. i love him, like so much that i think about him everyday. i love him. and its more than puppy love, everyone hates him cuz he treats me like crap now that we broke up, and he is best friends with my ex best friend who i HATE!!!! but my good friend from church told me that he thought he mite still have feelins for me. wat to do? i have a bf but we would NEVER have as much as me n DM did. becuz no matter how bad he treats me my feelins wont change.
2007-03-28 04:52:05 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thank u sooo much for all of ur answers. if i can make one thing clear its that the guy that i am with rite now, i;ve liked since 8th grade i have never been happier but i asked this becuz i dont wanna keep going on with the thought of DM in my head, i kno its not fair for jason. and i wanna change these feelings. i wanna give jason a fair shot and if we dont work i'm probly not gonna date anyone else. cuz i'm sick of immature relationships. but thank u all and u have helped me in SOOO many ways. even the smart butts who ask me wat church i go to(that has nothing to do with wat i asked, if ur gonna waste ur time typing, y dont u make it worth urs and my time.) thanks everyone...its so cool how i dont kno yall and yall dont kno me but i feel like all this helped me more than some of my friends could!!!! thanks :)!
2007-03-28 05:16:30 · update #1
One day when all is said and done you will look back at this time and do either of two things, 1 ask yourself why you ever liked him, or 2 still have some small feeling for him and the memories u two created together, As I am 32, look back on all of my boyfriends of the past, and remember it like yesterday these memories, make a boring time great, as my thoughts full-fill with happiness time goes by fast, and enjoying your past relationships is nothing bad, feeling connected to someone is good no matter how many times you hook up or break up ... However treating you badly is wrong, and though I understand this and have been there, I realized that I thought I loved a boy even if he treated me bad ... still today I feel for him and care for him but am glad we are not together as our relationship was for the most part good, but I am glad I don't have to put up with the treatment from him anymore, So filling your heart with love for someone who treats you bad is ok, but knowing that because of the way he treats you, you can not go back to him, its ok to still care for him pray for him, and love him as god intended we all do, but you do not have to tolerate him and his actions and bad treatment towards you.God bless,
2007-03-28 04:59:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahh.. the high school years can be so confusing. Leave your options open. As a 25 yr old that has gone through 3 long term relationships just to marry a guy I went to high school with yet never hung out with, I know all about "being in love". You always 'love' the guy that you have your sights set on at the time. But as time goes on you will look back at past 'loves' and realize how foolish your feelings were compared to who you have your sights on now. Basically, If it's meant to be it will be. You have a lot of life left to put all your chips on one guy.
2007-03-28 05:01:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls just tend to fall for bad boys. But you will have to think in the long run, is he a guy you could marry??? have kids with??? if he treats you like crap now would he treat you like crap for ever??? Would he ever lay a hand on you????
If you even have the slightest doubt about any of these questions then don't go for it. You'll get depressed at some point in youre life if he keeps treating you like crap. If you find the right guy you'll know for sure and you wouldn't even have to ask yourself these questions.
And girl everybody compares theyre next boyfriends with theyre first love no matter how bad they treated you they were still your first love!!!
2007-03-28 05:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys, especially young guys, tend to be spiteful both before and after getting with a girl. It's the whole pulling on pigtails thing. So maybe he is mean to you know because it's the only way he can get over you.
What should you do? Nothing.
I hate to say it but your current boyfriend sounds like a rebound guy. Tough luck for him. Still, I think it's good that you're with someone else, it will help you get over him. But don't say there will never be anyone else. Trust me, time will change that.
2007-03-28 04:59:58 · answer #4 · answered by stn1225 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much you love him, if he treats you bad you need to move on and forget about him. I know thats hard because your feelings are so strong, but the way he is treating you is disgusting. And to be honest, he is probably just jelous that you have found someone else, and he is stuck by himself. He may not actually like you, but just doesnt want you to be with someone else. He wants you to always be hung up on him. Give your new guy a chance. Becasue you deserve to be treated right.
2007-03-28 04:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by Bex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, just think of it this way, would you be prepared to live with this guy the way he treats you and do you think you REALLY should be treated wrongly by any man?
I think you know the answer to that.
In my opinion, the MOST important trait a man can have is to treat me well, with courtesy, respect, kindness and common decency.
Now if you don't get that from someone then don't waste one more minute of your time, because it won't be worth it. It will only bring more pain than anything, I can guarantee that.
2007-03-28 04:56:53 · answer #6 · answered by dmh7593 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if you think like that they wont change...stop thinking about all the good things you two had everytime you miss him think of the bad and hold on to that, if another guy likes you then try whats the harm in that. you have to want to move on or you will still be hung on this guy who sounds like a jerk and dosent know what he wants. it will get easier as time goes, and when you meet the right guy you'll be wondering why you posted this question (=
2007-03-28 04:57:07 · answer #7 · answered by Lovley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same situation and it worked out for me and the love of my life. my suggestion would be to ty and stay friends with him. if you're lucky like me it will work out after high school (the drama just adds to the pressure of a bad relationship). right now he's young, wants to experience things, and will sometimes make really stupid decisions because of his friends... don't judge him totally on that. my boyfriend regrets how he treated me in highschool, and since we have gratuated we have been together for almost 3 happy years. good luck, but remember you're young and have millions of options. oh, and if you can't beat 'em, join em'. guys get jealous easy when they think that something is "their territory". my boyfriend and i were barely even speaking when we broke up once, i started talking to one of his friends (just being friendly) and then he started asking me all kinds of questions, like why i was talking to this guy and why i was talking to that guy. i'm guessing he probably still cares about you and he's just wanting to fit in well with his friends who think they are hott ****! oh, and is your ex-best friend a girl? if she is, don't worry... she probably means nothing to him except a fling.
2007-03-28 05:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He was your first true love. That is great. Keep him as a wonderful memory, and stay away from him. He is bad news and you know it.
No your feelings won't change, but they will fade when you find the man you are meant to be with.
2007-03-28 04:58:41 · answer #9 · answered by Chali 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have a bf... be true to him. He deserves the best out of you. DM is a thing of the past, hon... get over him... enjoy your relationship and forget DM... Much Luck, KK
2007-03-28 04:56:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋