I am like this. I put my kids before me and my girlfriend thinks I dont care about her because of that. I would go thru hell for my kids and for her . Do you care about your kids before yourself?
2007-03-28 04:40:04 · 17 answers · asked by dirbe22 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Of course, any good parent would. Anyone who can't appreciate that is not worth mine or my children's time.
2007-03-28 07:44:40 · answer #1 · answered by Nina Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, the unselfish dad, thumbs up. That's what happens when you have kids. They eat before I do. If I want to buy myself a new pair of shoes that cost $15 but my kids need school supplies, guess what they come first. When it's family date night, yes we have one, we ask the kids first, you know if you take them to some sit down place you aren't going to be able to eat, because they aren't happy. Have you noticed that movies like Cars, Happy Feet, ect.. have a little bit more emotion? parents are taking these kids to the movies to see these shows. The producers/writers of these movies know that this might be the only the movie the parents get to see in a movie theater in months. Kids come first until they are able to care for themselves. Good Luck! I know how hard it is.
2007-03-28 15:06:19 · answer #2 · answered by Spring loaded horsie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your kids are going to be the most important thing to you. I know I barely have nice things for myself, but my kids always have everything they need all the way around. But I think you need to take a step back and look @ the big picture. Are your kids yuor whole life? How much time do you actually spend with your gf? If @ all possible you need to set aside some time each week for a date w/your gf. maybe she is also a lil insecure and needs a little reminding that you do care about her. I know I would appreciate it if my bf would tell me every once in awhile that he cares about me. Good luck I hope things get better!
2007-03-28 12:36:39 · answer #3 · answered by dvnlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most parents do care about their children more. In fact, if you didn't, I'd wonder about you. It sounds like you're a great dad. I love my husband with all my heart, but when my kids came, they became first. It's never come to my having to choose between them, but the kids are first. That doesn't lessen my love for my husband at all. It may sting your girlfriend a bit, but as long as you show her you love her, what else can you do? It's probably her problem, not yours. Good luck!
2007-03-28 12:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by Stephene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS!!! I wouldn't think of myself as a good parent if I didn't. Your girlfriend needs to understand how parenting works. Kids do not ask to be brought into the world, therefore, we as parents are to do everything possible to care for them first, then ourselves. Maybe one day when she has her own she will understand. I just hope you don't get to far before realizing she will never accept your love for your kids. Maybe she will, just be careful.
2007-03-28 11:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by mom of 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it the natural tendency of parents to put kids before anything else. I do the same. Try to discuss it with your girlfriend that you do care for her but your kids are your respnsibilities. Every now and then try doing something exclusively for your girlfriend so that she does not feel so leftout.
2007-03-28 12:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by Kiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am not a parent but i know someone who is kinda in what you are. this parent has always put her kids first no matter what... if your girl friend is mad at you about it, my advice would be to have a talk with her take her out, show her that you care for her.. she wants attention, so take her out for the day look into her eyes! and have lots of fun...
2007-03-28 13:42:19 · answer #7 · answered by nora456a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the responsibility of a parent to put the needs of their child or children before their own. Their needs require much more immediate attention than those of an adult, as often they are unable to meet those needs without a parent. It is not always easy to understand, for those who are not parents.
2007-03-28 12:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by tech_girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my kids come before anything or anybody else. My fiance knew that the day he met me, and I told him that if he thought that would be a problem for him in the future that we needed to end the date now, as it would never be any different on my part. He obviously stuck around.
2007-03-28 11:44:02 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely. My son is everything to me. After him, it's my husband then I am the least priority in my care cycle. I guess love for someone always makes ourselves the least important to our own self. But I always show balanced love to both my husband and my son. At the end of the day, our kid wl leave us for someone they love.
2007-03-28 12:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES my kids come before any one if your girlfriend don't under stand that she is not worth your time
2007-03-28 11:46:00 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋