I don't mean that he's a terrorist, but a Muslim man who's strong it his beliefs: He's strictly a unitarian monotheist, he doesn't believe in the trinity nor salvation through crucifixion, he doesn't perform extramarital sex, he doesn't drink alcohol nor smoke, he doesn't eat pork,...etc.
If you found such a man to be devoted to you and admires you, and you find yourself admiring him, but found out that he has these abovementioned attributes, would you refuse to commit yourself in a long-term relationship (ie marriage) with him?
Only serious answers please.
2007-03-28 04:36:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
No I wouldn't, and didn't, refuse. I am a western woman from the US, a Christian, and I am married to a Muslim man. The differences between us require some compromises to be made, but honestly all relationships will require compromise. We discussed all the important things before getting married, and anyone in a similar situation would be wise to do the same. I know, and am happy, our children will be raised as Muslims. But they will know about Christianity, they will know about the values that are important to their Christian relatives. Alcohol is not ever brought into our home, but if we go out to dinner with friends I will have a drink if I would like to. Pork is never cooked in our home, but if I want to have a ham sandwich at a restaurant or have ham samdwich meat in the fridge I do. Although out of respect I try not to bring ham sandwich meat into the house. We buy and cook only halal meat at home. Guests at our home, whether they are family or friends, know there is no alcohol or pork brought into our home. I still have my pictures on the walls but I have taken some down to make room for Islamic calligraphy wall decor, the Holy Bible sits on the same shelf as the Holy Quran. I turned a room in the basement into a prayer room for my husband so he always has a quiet, clean place to go for prayers. At Christmas I put up some decorations.
The most important thing is, we both knew what we were getting into. I was marrying a Muslim, and it was never my intention to try to convert him to Christianity. He knew he was marrying a Christian, and it is never in his intention to try to convert me to Islam. Maybe I will become a Muslim one day, maybe I won't. He never makes the request, never asks me to, never pushes me too. I made the choice before we got married to learn about Islam, and I still learn about it. He already knows more about Christianity that alot of christians I know, so we understand each other quite well.
It truly depends on how accepting two people are willing to be of each other. Are they willing to accept the differences in each other, or is one of then going to want everything their own way. Compromise and acceptance are essential.
2007-03-28 11:28:44 · answer #1 · answered by Melanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably, but only because I'm sure we wouldn't be compatible, given that I'm an atheist. I like having my alone time and enjoy living alone. I like the occasional drink and have been known to get trashed once a month at home. I don't smoke, but I've supported some movements to legalize marijuana... I work out a lot, so I wear shorts and running clothes in public. I'm way too amused by thong and fart jokes. Shall I go on...
I'd be his friend, but I'm sure we'd agree our values are much to different to be husband and wife. Also I don't agree with the notion of marriage in this country...
2007-03-28 11:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am a very lazy person and I find the easiest way out the best. In my country there is a popular proverb that says: wives and bulls from your country (translated into English sounds terrible). It is not a discrimination based on ethnicity, it is only an advice which sounds like this: if you want your marriage to last and work well it is best that you have many thing in common with your partner. Since spirituality is very important to me I cannot compromise.
2007-03-28 11:47:49 · answer #3 · answered by remy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would refuse. My standards and rules state that I am to not marry anyone who is not a believer in Christ. I understand that even though so many do not. I would not marry outside of my religion no matter what the believed. That doesn't mean that I don't have friends that are from different belief backgrounds.
2007-03-28 11:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
(If I were not already in a committed and happy marriage)
I would have to know him. I would need to know more about his religion. I would need to believe completely that he would never try to push in anyway his religious beliefs on me. The quotes "never say never" and "anything is possible" are my mottos, but I am a VERY independent women.
2007-03-28 12:06:48 · answer #5 · answered by hazydaze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, and I didn't. I met and married a wonderful Muslim man. We are very happy and he loves, respects and honors me. He is who he is because of his religion and I deeply respect that. I admire him and his beliefs so much that I am currently studying Islam and I am content knowing that we will raise our future children as Muslims.
2007-03-28 12:28:56 · answer #6 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he could be accepting of my own path and tolerant of the fact that everyone else has their own path as well, regardless of how ridiculous it may seem, I see absolutely no reason why I wouldnt. Of course, tolerance would be a pre-requisite for me to "admire" him (as you put it) in the first place.
I'm one of those far out live and let live types who refuses to acknowledge labels......we're a rare breed.... and it may be a bit pessimistic, but I really dont see many answers to this question being positive (i.e. accepting of someone of a different faith) ... Its sad really................
Namaste
2007-03-28 11:58:44 · answer #7 · answered by seanachaipriestess 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, I wouldn't refuse him. I know Muslim men make very good husbands and they take good care of their wife and children and are good providers. Muslims know the true meaning of family values
2007-03-28 11:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by Chery 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he believed that I would have to convert or change my beliefs or what I do to be with him, then I would refuse him. I would refuse anybody that did that to me.
However, this has no real bearing on me since I'm already married.
2007-03-28 11:44:04 · answer #9 · answered by Kharm 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
As long as he didn't intend to force his views on me, I'd be fine with it. I don't believe in christianity either, but I'm married to a christian. He respects my lack of belief, and I respect his faith.
2007-03-28 11:41:02 · answer #10 · answered by glitterkittyy 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋