girlfriend help....time is limited?

Question

me and my girlfriend have been dating for 6 1/2 months and now shes saying shes "losing feelings" toward me? she said i have done nothing wrong and she dont kno what to do but she dont wanna break up but she dont kno if we can stay togather bc she said it would b unfair to me...but i say as long as she still loves me i want her in my life...to me theres no limit u ether do or u dont so ne advice on what shes thinking or what i should do? ne thing would be helpful thanks

Answer 1

You all sound young. People the change in the dynamic of a relationship with losing feelings. In the beginning, hormones are going strong and feelings of passion and love are strong. After the hormones settle down and balance, you don't have that drive you once did. Couples start to get comfortable with each other. This is when you need to start working on things. Communication is key here. Find out by talking to her, what she wants, what you want and work from there.

Answer 2

Without any warning, just break up with her. Take the initiative away from her and take control of the timing, the circumstances and everything. Do not be ugly at all, just tell her that since she is loosing feelings for you, you do not want to spend any more time or effort in your relationship with her and that you are ready to move on and find someone that will love you the way you will love her. Tell her you are not mad or angry, just ready to get going with the rest of your life since she is no longer going to be part of it.

One of two things will happen, she will either try to stop you, but you can not let her cry her way out of it (you have to control this time), tell her that you need time to think and see if you believe that the two of you are even worth the effort any more. Or, she will be relieved and you have just stopped wasting any time going back and forth. I have a feeling that right now, she thinks she controls the entire relationship and that she can go and get you back any time she wants. You need to take that feeling away and let her know that you are very able to move on without her. It will force her to show her true feelings one way or the other.

At no time can you appear weak, sad, upset or like this is real hard for you to do. Just remember, a spoiled child does not want their new bike until you give it away to the kid down the street that has nothing and loves it. Then all the sudden it became their favorite toy and you gave it away.

Answer 3

Talk to her, and ask her whats going on in her mind. Why is she losing feelings for you? 6 1/2 months is quite a long time, find out if her feelings are going because you have got into too much of a routine. Girls like spontanious things. Turn up on her doorstep with some flowers, and tell her your feelings for her. Obviously if she said she doesnt want to break up with you, its because she remembers all of the good times she has had with you, and doesnt want to turn her back on that! The best thing you can do is reassure her of yuor feelings for her, and everything will turn out fine! Good luck, it sounds as though you have something great with her.

Answer 4

I've just been through the exact same thing, only from your gf's point of view. There's nothing to do I'm afraid, you may not believe her, but you really haven't done anything wrong, she just is realizing that shes wrong bout you, sorry to say it but i doubt she loves you, its very easy to confuse a physical attraction with a real connection, but soon enough, it'll become obvious, usually after about 5 months or so, dead on time. Sorry huni, just let her know that you understand, she's just being honest, you can't blame her for that, and let her go. you'll find someone e else who really is right for you soon enough xx

Answer 5

Sounds like she doesn't love you, I have a feeling the both of you are pretty young. It's probably best you two see other people to find out what kind of a mate you really want/need. If the two of you get back together in the future, then it may be 'meant to be'.

Answer 6

Girls and people in general are all different and we are indeed confusing!!!!!
I don't want to drop a bombshell on you...but, she may be experiencing, the "What if's?"
What if there's another guy out there for me? What if I'm making a mistake? Do I really see myself spending lots of years or my life journey with him? etc...

Another thing....could be some other guy is drifiting in her path....so she gets this way...

Try to understand her...People fall in and out of love quickly, unless you both can control each other and are mature enough to understand. "Love cures with another love."

But, if she sees what you are offering and no one else has it, she will feel a strong regret for leaving you. You must understand her. People do what they want, you can't always change them.

And indeed, the majority of us have to fall HARD before we can realize anything.

Answer 7

Unfortunatley, a part of bieng in relationships is falling out of love. It doesn't mean that she doesn't care about you or love you, but she isn't "in love" with you. There is a difference. You can't force feelng, and she's right, it would be unfair to you for her to stick around when she isn't feeling it. Besides, it's unfair for her to stick around to spare your feelings when she isn't in love. There is nothing you can do to change it. This is common in relationships.

Answer 8

she is losing interest towards u then become more interestful.u can become more interestful by giving her more surprises.u give her a surprise visit,gift & take her out.practice meditation to maintain ur balance.just meditate for 15 to 20 minutes it will refresh ur mind & thoughts.u can become more interestful.just don't lose hope & win ur love.always smile and be happy.all the best.win ur love...........

Answer 9

Ma bey she just does, need a little time to herself, to think of what she relay Wain's or Ned's obviously she don't wanna breaker up. Ma bye some personal time to think, could be good.

Answer 10

If your under 20 move on. It won't work.

If you guys are older, then you need to win her back. Show her why she should be with you.