Long story short. I went out with a guy for a 1 1/2 years. I loved him. We broke up. I ended up dating his friend. After dating someone else for a year, I break up with him because I'm still in love with my first real and only love. This guy means everything to me and I'm incomplete without him. However, he doesn't want anything to do with me he says because of the fact that I dated his friend. I know it was wrong... but the reason we broke up is because he liked another girl. Anyways, my friends know him and talk to him about me sometimes and they say all they see is hurt. And that he could still have feelings for me. Please help! I am so in love with this ex boyfriend of mine. He has a girlfriend..but they've only been together about a month. I need him in my life. I've already thought about moving on...but I can't do it. I need help! please! help me get him back or move on.
2007-03-28 04:29:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honestly, not because of your dating his friend or because of his present girlfriend or anything... no matter what his friends say, it it was you and me, sweetie, you'd have to wait until I was ready to make my move back to you. He holds a resentment and he has to deal with it, overcome it, before anything good can happen again between the two of you.
Meaning: Patience if you can have it.
2007-03-28 04:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by forlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if it will burst your bubble or free your mind, but it's NOT the most confusing situation ever. Unfortunately, I think it's pretty common if you read some of the Q's here.
I would say you did violate a really big rule: never date your ex's friends and never date your friend's exs. Point being, I'd say he probably IS hurt and I can understand it. But, that doesn't give him the right to make you miserable. My advice is to start back at square one, learn to be friends again and see where it takes you, but don't forget where you both have already been and take things slowly because of it.
2007-03-28 11:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is our mistakes that teach us life lessons. Second, don't break up his girlfriend now and then try to get with him. You have to let time work things out, don't pressure the guy because it will only make him resent you in the end. I did that with a guy I dated once and truthfully the reason I dated his friend is becuase he seemed un interested. Now, I have dated him on and off but I have scared our friendship. You need to find someone else...it will only confuse you and if you are meant to be in time you will know.
2007-03-28 11:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by pattiof 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's real love, he'll come back to you, soon or maybe much later. Short of you stalking him and vengefully breaking him and the other women up, you need to step back and live your own life. He will much more likely come back to a women who he believes is grown up enough to move on, rather then someone who wont leave him alone.
2007-03-28 11:37:36 · answer #4 · answered by MsCoconut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ex-boyfriend needs time to sort out his feelings. Maybe he is hurt by what you did, but give him time. If he really loves you then the wait will be worth it. You can't force someone to be with you, they have to want it to. Live your life and get out there and enjoy meeting great people, don't sit around waiting for him. If he really does love you, you will hear from him. Cocoa
2007-03-28 11:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by cocoa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that you are not going to move on, that you're not going to accept living without him. And you will do anything to get him back and you will not stop until this happens. He might just be testing you to see if you will give up on him, so don't give up. Let him know you're not going anywhere! And i can assure you if he loves you, you will be back into his arms in less than a month.
2007-03-28 11:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by JAY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sad. its not confusing, its just sad. when you cant be with the one you want....love....you have to move on, make a new dream. dream of being alone, single, happy. maybe it'll invite a new deam. ya just have to let go of what may never be. otherwise, if youre still fresh in the dream of him...youll never find happiness with anyone else. it's not happy to live with only one dream in your head and trying to live half a life. peace
2007-03-28 11:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Julie you really screwed up by dating his friend. That's one of the unspoken cardinal rules of friendship. Maybe you could write him a letter apologizing and explaining how much he really means to you. Hopefully that'll help.
2007-03-28 11:40:50 · answer #8 · answered by Pieces of Me ... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's out of your hands pretty much. You messed up big time. All you can do is move on with your life and let him come to you if he wants you.
2007-03-28 11:39:13 · answer #9 · answered by Bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋