I have been with my boyfriend for 2months now, and we have been living together for 1 month. We are having financial difficulties, and I feel like he holds things inside instead of saying them. Should we stop living together, or continue since we started? He says he wants things to stay the way the way they are, but I am not happy, but I want ot be happy with him.
2007-03-28 04:27:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why are you unhappy?
2007-03-28 04:31:53 · answer #1 · answered by mikey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So ya'll moved in together after only a month? I think that was probably the first mistake. I believe you have to weather a few issues before you know if you're ready to live together. At least see them in less than a positive way and sometimes that takes a little while for the real to come out! Good luck!
2007-03-28 11:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have different personality types and handle conflict and tough situations differently. I personally hold things inside, my husband likes to talk everything out, make sure it's figured out, and NEEDS to know that things are okay before he can go to sleep.
Me? Well, I don't need to talk about anything to go to sleep, but I've learned for his sake. Not to mention, healthy communication is so beneficial to a relationship.
Sometimes with finances it seems like he doesn't care though. I can relate to that. But he says he just doesn't see the point in worrying about something we can't do anything about. We do what we can and just wait it out. No point in getting stressed.
Sounds like you guys balance each other out which is a good thing. Maybe he should learn to communicate a little more (which isn't easy for people like us who internalize everything) and maybe you should learn to be a little more laid back, like he is.
2007-03-28 11:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by crimsnclover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im surprised you moved in with him after only dating a month. But that is not the question. Honestly I think you should prob get your own place. If he is acting like this now, so early in the realtionship, then it's best to move on before things get worse.
2007-03-28 11:32:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The number one cause of divorce is MONEY.so you best nip that now! You and him go talk to the pastor of your church..if you two do not go to church or have a church go to anyone they will help you...they will give you two therapy and fix this....you can't fix him..also if he is like that now I bet my LIFE on it he won't ever change it so I'd move on but I'd try the therapy first and if he won't go to therapy I'd leave too....too many people think that LOVE will change people..that a marriage will..it makes it harder..and if he loves you NO ..he won't change..men are selfish..uncaring at times and they will not do what they do not want to do....or you can plan a romantic night out..come home put on a teddy...light candles...sip wine and talk and see if you can camly get him to open up....maybe.good luck...
2007-03-28 11:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyez1956@verizon.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋