I am a 26 year old female.One year ago i met my boyfreind who was 21.I had 2 kids already from a previous relationship.I wanna know why he was even interested in me,in a guys opinion.I mean he didnt have any kids and he partied all the time before we met.He stopped all that as soon as we started dating.
2007-03-28 04:26:51 · 19 answers · asked by paris_0129 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we are still together.he does work and has an education.we had a baby together 3 months ago.
2007-03-28 04:40:47 · update #1
Love is an extremely powerful thing, thats probably the answer, (unless your a retired supermodel who wanted to have kids before you got over 30)
From experience of love, its made me totally obsessed with the girl, like I'd want to spend every minute of the day with her. Love is one of the most powerful emotions, so if this guy was dating you for genuine reasons of affection, then I'd put it down to that.
You speak as though it is in past tense, and you have broken up with your boyfriend now... "wanna know why he was" was seems like you've broken up, are you investigating why he was interested in you for a year?
If yes then maybe love isn't what transpired here, because I can't see someone who stops partying and stuff for a woman totally stopping all of that if they will just leave them the next year...
Maybe its just the way I've read it, but i've provided opinions for both possibilities anyway :)
2007-03-28 04:35:56 · answer #1 · answered by Captain Heinrich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly he thought you were hot and wanted some. Women like you are a good short term target. Since they have kids, they are usually stable and not out on the prowl for men. You are a good source of easy sex. You don't want games and are happy to have a boyfriend.
You have reasons to be wary, at 21 he is still a decade from settling down. What you have with him might last, but it probably will not. He still has way too much growing to do before taking on a ready made family. He is very likely to start looking for fun soon, fun you can't give him at this point in your life.
Good luck.
2007-03-28 04:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever think that You were what he was looking for? A stable relationship with a woman, who most likely doesn't want more children? A woman who is old enough and responsible enough to take on the responsibilities of a parent? Maybe he has a "mother" complex, but whatever the reason, he is with you, enjoys being with you, has shown you that he is willing to change to be with you. What more do you want? I assume that he has a job and somewhat of an education? If so, I'd have to say that he is a "keeper".
2007-03-28 04:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by auditor4u2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey could be the type of person that believes they are a 'knight in shining armor' and you are a 'damsel in distress' that needs saving. Some men believe what makes them a man is sacrifice for a woman. This only goes so far, though, and eventually they resent all the sacrifice they have made by contantly put their woman's needs in front of their own and it can end badly.
Alternatively, he may truly be in love with you and happy with his new life. Can't really know without understanding the situation more.
2007-03-28 04:36:46 · answer #4 · answered by Eric0100 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 19:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently he fell in love with u. Guys in love will totally change sometimes. In this case it was for the better so you're lucky.
Looks like u might have a decent guy on your hands. Sounds like he don't mind the kids either....real good sign that. Don't screw it up.
2007-03-28 04:39:09 · answer #6 · answered by Travis M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contrary to popular belief, children aren't a 100% deal-breaker for men, even young men.
As to why he would be interested in you, well, maybe he loves you and is happy (or at least willing) to accept all of you, including your children. Maybe he loves, or sees the potential to love your children too. I'm sure you consider them an asset to your life, and I guess he does too.
So stop asking 'why' and make sure he KNOWS that you appreciate his embracing of your life and family.
Good luck and above all, love.
2007-03-28 04:37:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sonny K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no idea what he was thinking. If it were me, I would not be interested in you for anything serious being 5 years older with kids. Maybe he just liked sex with an experienced woman.
2007-03-28 04:32:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the person to honestly ask this question would be your 21 year old boyfriend, as none of us can read what is in his or your minds, he is the only one with the answer.
2007-03-28 04:31:15 · answer #9 · answered by fitzovich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe he is just a mature guy and is ready to settle down and you are the one he wants to do that with. sounds like he is trying to be responsible to me. better than having him partying and leaving you all the time with the kids alone. give him a chance and see how it goes and just accept it but also be aware of his actions.
2007-03-28 04:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by chazzz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋