The president of our Sorority is getting married in June 2008. I was talking to her yesterday about who and her fiance are inviting to the wedding, when we got to the subject of the sorority girls she only named off about 30 of them. At the time there were about 7 other people in the room and out of those 7 only 1 was named to be invited. Is it right for her to not invite them to anything... Including the reception or should they at least be given the option to come?
2007-03-28 04:24:59 · 13 answers · asked by Becky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I am adding more details to the question for the people that think I am being selfish, inconsiderate and rude.
1. I did not ask her who she was inviting, she asked me if it was ok not to invite some of the girls.
2. I have planned a wedding thank you very much, I got married the weekend after I graduated college, so yes this means I am Alumni of the sorority.
3. She wasnt even going to tell the ones who were not invited about the wedding
2007-03-29 02:53:24 · update #1
And we only have around 45 active members
2007-03-29 02:54:30 · update #2
Weddings are incredibly costly, and so cuts to the guest list are usually made right off the bat. It's not rude, it's life.
2007-03-28 04:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
First, I don't think it was polite that she said this flat out in front of your other sister who she doesn't plan on inviting.
Second, I was in a sorority in college (although, Not 4 years, but for life) and I am inviting quite a few of my sisters, but then again I had a sorority of about 280 each of the 4 years I was in school. So if I add up the girls I was friends with in the pledge classes that graduated before me, my family line, my pledge class and my little sister's pledge class.....uh, honestly I'd have about 700 people at the wedding. I'm sorry but at about 250/300 per person to this event, (even my reception) there is NO WAY I am inviting all of them!!! I chose to invite the ones I am closest with, as I don't need it to be a sorority social in Manhattan! I wouldn't say to get on her case about it too much cause it's hard to invite some without others and she probabaly doesn't have an unlimited budget. I think you are her twin, big sis, lil sis (or mommy/baby...depending on where you are from) then an invite should not be taken for granted.
2007-03-28 06:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by Nicole 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you joking? You are right? Sweetie it's her wedding and she can invite whoever the hell she wants. The fact she's inviting 30 sisters is nuts and a lot. Rather than thinking of "is this really fair" why don't you put things in perspective. The bride has to constantly weigh out costs. Each person you invite costs on average to $40 ($40 x 30= $1200). That's $1200 alone to invite her sorority sisters, who are you to judge and suggest that she should give all you girls and option.
That's the most absurd and selfish thing I've ever heard. You've obviously had no involvement in planning a wedding. It is not an obligation to invite everyone in your sorority. Don't you think it's more important for her to consider the family's first then dictate which friends are the closest?
Good GOD!
2007-03-28 04:54:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
a wedding is a very special occasion and 1 of the turning points in 1 person's life. so that person has every right to choose who will witness that turning point. yes, sorority sisters/fraternity brothers may be special people in an individual's life but not all have a special bond with the one getting married, especially if the couple getting married only planned for an intimate wedding.
friends who were not invited would (and should) understand, most especially if the couple's on a tight budget.
2007-03-28 04:57:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you are all "sisters," doesn't make everyone friends. When making a invitee list, the couple (aka the bride) has to choose who she thinks should be there at her wedding. It's not a sorority party, it's a wedding. and maybe some of the girls don't get along with the others (it happens), and that sort of drama no one wants there.
The second is the costs. If you have to pay $40-70 a person for everything, people are going to have to be cut, especially if the reception hall holds only so many, and the couple have their families and other friends to worry about.
2007-03-28 04:35:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't invite the entire sorority to the wedding!!! Do you realize how much that would cost?????? She has to pick and choose so she doesn't go broke. Weddings these days are big enough as is...add in a whole sorority and that is just way too much. Its not a formal...its a wedding...
2007-03-28 05:37:53 · answer #6 · answered by Dangerous Person 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a sorority as well, and though i have sisters all over the place, only the closest ones to me are coming to my wedding. In fact 4 of my 5 bridesmaids are members of my sorority. it just is on a person by person basis. It's a nice idea to have everyone in the sorority there but it's quite pricey and thus not realistic.
2007-03-28 06:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by myfianceisamonkey 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hello... it's her wedding. If she doesn't feel a close genuine bond with them, she doesn't have to invite them just b/c they are sorority sister or family members.
Weddings should be a celebration with friends and family that actually wish you well. Also they cost too damn much to be inviting the whole world.
2007-03-28 04:54:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I get married I am only inviting specific people who were of significance to me in my life. Some folks don't need to be invited if they didnt have a significant place in your life in a more personal manner.
2007-03-28 04:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by nabdullah2001 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
People do not realize how expensive weddings can be.
She probably has to keep the guestlist down to help on costs.
Maybe she's only close to one or two of them??
2007-03-28 04:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by sweetxgrace 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋