It is a receiving blanket that has been with her since birth, almost for 4.5 years. We just could not find a substitute, with a similar pattern and texture. It has been washed hundreds of times. So that won't be easy to find one with the same feel. She is attached to it so much and she needs that to sleep. She cried for it several times before finally went to sleep quite late. We still let her keep the hope of finding it soon, although it is next to impossible. We wonder how to make her accept the fact that the blanket is gone forever. At the same time, I am debating whether it is good to develop similar attachment to something else.
2007-03-28 04:23:00 · 13 answers · asked by TfC_137 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Try it with a new blanket and make it exited take her to the store and let her pick her new blanket that way she will feel better and she will be able to decide wich will b eher new favorite blanket .... But I also think it is a good idea not to let her attached to this new blanket once in a while hide it so she won't be feeling that she NEEDS that special balankte to go to sleep try for her to take a teddy bear a doll or something different every nigth and this should help!!! GOOD LUCK !!!
2007-03-28 04:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going through. Not to long ago my daughter lost one of blankies, dropped it in the mall. We looked all over the place and then later daddy went back to look again. No luck. She was upset for a few days, but fortunately she had another. I would let her pick out another blanket and maybe wash it a few times. It will take a while for her to adjust, as it is just not the same. Also if you do get another one get 2 and let her have both. As then if one is lost she still has another and it is just as good if she has been using it too. Good luck!
2007-03-28 12:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very sad for the child to lose the lovey suddenly. Let your child be sad. Even be sad with her. Then let her know that you will continue to look, but that you need to find another thing to help her find comfort at night. I would not do a second blanket. It will never replace the lost one. Instead I would find something else. Let her choose a new doll to cuddle and soothe to sleep. It gives the child a "job" for bed time. Or you can let her select a new pillow to cuddle. No attachment will be the same, so don't worry about that.
2007-03-28 11:51:40 · answer #3 · answered by tweetyhaws 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are waivering whether or not to get her attached to a new lovey. If you are seriously considering this - I have a great solution. When we were ready (but my son was not) to take away my son's pacifier, we would explain to him that if he willingly put his binky's in a jar at night that the binky fairy would come while he was sleeping and leave him something very special (similar to the tooth fairy). Every night before bed we asked him if he was ready to give up his binky and after 3 weeks, he came downstairs and put his binky in the jar. This happened in the winter time and instead of getting him a toy that he would play with for a week, we bought a special snow globe that now sits in his room to remind him how brave and strong he is for giving up his paci. We did the same thing with his blankie (although it is stored in a box so he can see how tattered it is when he's older!!). You could possibly do the same thing, but make it more of a surprise since she cannot willingly give up her blanket. When she wakes in the morning and finds a sentimental gift for her next to her bed, you can just say, "oh my goodness, the lovey fairy came! She must have known that you lost your blanket!" I know how corny it sounds - but really, it worked for us!
2007-03-28 12:51:51 · answer #4 · answered by Q Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At her age it might be a good thing to start trying to break her of a lovey. I'm pretty sure you don't want her caring it around when she goes to kindergarten and taking it outside on the playground. If you want a her to have it for bedtime I would suggest if at all possible you try and find another lovey, and this time buy a couple. This way if you lose one you always have the other. I'm not sure if you have tried going back to the place where you lost it and ask if anyone saw it or if maybe they have a lost and found. Good luck. I hope she finds something soon.
2007-03-28 11:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by dvnlady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so sad, I really feel for you. My son is so attached to his blankie. I dont know what I would do if he lost it. I know he forgot it at Grandma's one night and in desparation I drove over at midnight to get it. Pathetic huh! Any how when I wash it he cries the entire time it is in the machine. I tried to find another with no avail. I wish you luck. Someone said take her to the store and let her pick a new one, you can try it it cant hurt. I will pray for you and your daughter that you find it, and if you cant than I hope she will find comfort in a new one. My son is three his already has worn spots. I cant imagine when he is five what it will look like.
2007-03-28 11:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by janine b 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Losing your child's lovey can be hard (on both of you!). My daughter has a blanky that she has had since birth and it is the same way. But luckily, I have made her understand that blanky is only for indoors. She does not take it into stores or outside. And when her and I moved back to my parents, the blanky got left behind in our old house and it took my ex two months to send it back (I had even sent money for shipment a day or two after we got back, which he claimed he used for shipping then claimed it got lost in the mail). I know he was lying because the shipping date on the box was only four days from its arrival(we got it back a week ago and it was FILTHY). A lot of people said to let her get over it. And she did good. After only one or two nights, she adjusted to being without it (of course, this was after my mom bought her a GIANT fuzzy Little Mermaid blanky), but when she saw her blanky nicely laid out on her bed, washed of course, I almost cried from the look on her face and the excitement it produced. Take her to the store and find something similar for her to pick out. The best of luck!
2007-03-29 01:09:38 · answer #7 · answered by Ghost Writer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your daughter is at the age where she wants her blankie but also a bit of independance is good also.Allow her to pick out a new blankie or a toy to sleep with.My 16 year old son still has his "freddy frog "as does my 19 year old with his" kitty blanket". They no longer sleep with them but they are there for comfort and memories.As for a permanent attatchment,I do not forsee it as long as you both agree that this is a sleep item only.Good luck to you and have fun being a parent.
2007-03-28 11:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by Butterfly100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the two above -- she needs to pick out one for herself. Have her hold and touch them -- maybe you can find a pretty princess one for example. I have 4.5 twin granddaughters and their original blankets fell apart - so we replaced them with princess ones (from Walmart I think) -- they did not have a problem with the replacements since it was something that they loved.
PS -- the blankets are and have always been used for sleeping or cuddling when they were sick -- they NEVER took them anywhere unless they were going to sleep there - example: my house.
2007-03-28 11:42:27 · answer #9 · answered by GP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Understand that you will not ever be able to replace what she has lost. It is a tragic accident. She will eventually feel safe again with out the blanket, but you will have to comfort her thru sleepless nights. I would not replace it with something else to comfort her. Good Luck & God Bless!
2007-03-28 11:33:43 · answer #10 · answered by kim_n_orlando 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋