However, we want to do things right this time, but in the eyes of the Lord. We both have been married before. The problem is , is that in our hearts we are married and have been for sometime. We are do to get married in 5 weeks. Yes, we have had premarital sex, but now, not so sure ,if we should hold off. WE have been praying alot, and asking god what is right. My sister who is very religous, has told me, that when two people commit themselves to eachother and are in engaged, whether or not you are married in the eyes of the law with a piece of paper, in God's eyes, you made a commitment to one another and you are considered married according to him. What do you think> Confused here.
2007-03-28 03:54:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
well, my sister didn't say that it was ok to have sex, Inever told her.
2007-03-28 04:02:26 · update #1
Listen, I understand that getting married is doing it in the eyes of the Lord!. But I also know that marriage is legal, until a piece of paper has been brought in to make it official in the eyes of the law.,
It is the eyes of the Lord that matters I think not a piece of paper.. I don't think some of you who are answering, the ??? are not completely sure on what is being said here.
2007-03-28 04:07:42 · update #2
By the way, I am not Catholic! I am NON Denominational Christian.
2007-03-28 04:21:08 · update #3
I was raised by a very strong Christian woman. I've been going to church all my life (25yr.) The Bible is clear that sex is meant for a husband & wife. He also tells us to obey our current laws & leaders. Our current laws require you to have a marrage certificate to be considered legally marrried. Therefore, I do not think that it's OK to have premarital sex in the eyes of God. On the other hand.
We are all sinners. Which is why Jesus died for us. And, he offers his forgivness freely to those who ask. So, in my opinon- if you pray & ask God to forgive you for mistakes you may have made. (and, you're honestly sorry) And, if you refrain from having sex untill your wedding night (since now you know Biblically that it isn't honorable in God's eyes) then according to the Bible you will be forgiven. And, since you are trying to do things honorably in God's eyes I'm sure that your wedding night will be more beautiful than you've imagined! Best Wishes & God bless
2007-03-28 04:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.know.It.All 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will not pretend to tell you that I know how God will judge.
I do know that in the eyes of the Catholic Church, if you were previously married, you would have to have those marriages annulled before re-marrying if they were valid marriages in the first place, and that until you are married in the Catholic church, you are not supposed to have pre-marital sex.
You should really discuss this with your religious adviser, Priest, or other clergy.
But, why not wait? 5 weeks is not that long!
Peace!
2007-03-28 04:18:13 · answer #2 · answered by C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will let the Bible answer you: Romans 1: 18 For God's wrath is being revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness of men who are suppressing the truth in an unrighteous way Romans 13: 1 Let every soul be in subjection to the superior authorities {representatives of Law} For there is no authority except by God, the existing authorities stand place in their relative positions by God 2 Therefore he who opposes the authority has Taken A Stand Against the Arrangement of God; Those Who Have Taken a Stand Against it Will Receive Judgment to Themselves. In other words Marriage is a requirement of Man's Laws, there fore we must obey these laws, for our prayers to be heard. No it is not ok to continue having sexual pleasure this is for the marriage bed to keep it holy.
2007-03-28 04:08:59 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're only married after you are married. You can have sex now if you want, but God will not be in it.
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RESPONSE:
The piece of paper isn't about God. It's about YOU. If you haven't signed the papers, you haven't "joined" yourself to this person, you only promised to do so. You're not obligated in any way and there will be no official consequences if you just simply walk away.
It's the same reason why you don't move all your stuff into a house, start doing renovations, change your mailing address... before the deed is signed. Legally, either party could still void the deal, with no obligation.
Why jump ahead? What's the rush?
2007-03-28 03:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by peacetimewarror 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Premarital sex is a sin. If you're looking for a technicality that will allow you to do what you want to do even though you know you shouldn't then are you really being righteous?
It's only five weeks. You have the self discipline to wait. Besides the anticipation will make your wedding night that much better.
2007-03-28 04:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by Nianque 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Keep your pants on for the next 5 weeks. A marriage needs to be blessed by a priest in nearly all Christian faiths. Seek God's blessing of your union.
2007-03-28 03:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by 29 characters to work with...... 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think it is the joining of two make the marraige if you have already done that then in God's eyes you are married,it is up to you if you wont to abstain for the next month. I can see the point the day or to before to abstan but not for a month unless you both wish to.
2007-03-28 04:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Mim 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
As a Christian, I think it's a matter for you two to decide. You know whether or not you are "committed to one another". I believe you need to be sure that your partner is as committed as you are. That being said... why not wait?
2007-03-28 03:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by Scott B 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You should hold off until you are married. I disagree with your sister. You should wait until you are married before God.
2007-03-28 04:01:19 · answer #9 · answered by sweet cheeks 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Who do you believe in ? Follow the teachings of that person which you believe in.
Do not confess that you believe in one person and than follow the teachings of another.
Jesus frowned upon marriage, Read Matthew 5, and receive the true meaning of Adultery, fornication, and divorce which is taking of Oaths.
2007-03-28 04:05:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋