we started datin about 2 years ago, and well shes extremely preppy like "Oh My God MY NAILS" and well ive been takin her shoppin alot, and let her shop til she drops on my dime. well it went from, i want American Eagle, to i want Hollister to i want Abercrombie, now she already has all the Dooney and BUrke BAgs and like 4 Coach Bags, But Now She wants this Armani Exchange crap which is like 75 dollars for a tank top, and i really dont wanna put all my money on that clothing just for her, and it dont even look good on her. what do i do. but i dont wanna lose her, ive already tried, telling her to get all the make-up and perfume and lotion she wants, and she told me she already has that. im stuck.
2007-03-28 03:41:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Andrew! You gotta tighten up the purse strings. Just say no. If she is with you because of the money. She ain't worth having!
2007-03-28 03:45:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, your stupid. She's using you, because if she loved you she wouldn't even be acting that way. Hell, I'm high maintenance too and my fiance says I'm killing him financially but even I know when enough is too much. She doesn't need all that crap and if she does, does she not have a job? It is not your job to supply her with those items. Relationships and love are not about "things" it's about spending time together, enjoying life and hopefully moving toward a future. That's all well and good, but now that you've indulged her in this habit, it's going to be really hard to break. If she's not really into you, when you stop the money flow, most likely she'll go some place else to get what she needs. The choice is really yours.
2007-03-28 10:47:15 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You let it get to far. She expects you to buy her what she wants, because you've been doing it too long. I think the best way, would be to gradualy buy her less, it'll take a long time, but if you like her enough, then you'll forgive her for the shopping issue. She probably doesn't realize that she's spending that much money, and not grasping the idea that you are paying for it all, it's an issue with the subconsiousness.
2007-03-28 10:49:53 · answer #3 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of something you want to buy that is rather expensive. Tell her you can't afford to spend money on her anymore because you are saving up for something and you can't spare any money at the moment. While you are 'saving up' you can set a budget.
When you have saved up enough and bought the thing you want, tell her you liked the security of being on a budget and want to continue to do so, so you can invest or whatever.
If she accuses you of selfishness, point out how much you have supported her shopping habits in the past and you are feeling used.
2007-03-28 11:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made the mistake when you started showering her with gifts. You shouldn't start something that you can't continue. If she really loves you she wouldn't care about you giving her money all the time for shopping. It sounds to me like she may be a goldigger. Yall have been together for a while so just explain to her that you can't continue to dress her. If she stays you know that she really loves you if she leaves you will know that she is just a spoiled brat who wants other people to take care of her.
2007-03-28 10:48:32 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that ur feeling like shes only with u for the maney and she how she reacts to being put o the spot, if she figits then shes unsure of the relationship but if she argues it then talk to her about it and let her know how u feel, tell her ull buy her nice things on special events, but not eveeryday tell her u want to save ur money for some thing really special not just a purse Best wishes,
2007-03-28 10:45:54 · answer #6 · answered by rckstar88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her you are sick of using all your money on her. She has enough cloths and bags. Tell her you will buy her stuff, but only when she needs it or when you are feeling in a really good mood. Tell her the truth about you really loving her but you are sick of cloths cloths and more cloths. Tell her money is not all that relationships are worth. If she really loves you she will stop DATING your MONEY and start DATING YOU! Ok.
2007-03-28 10:47:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah you are stuck...I just kept laughing the whole time I am reading this...it is 100% your fault for letting this go on for 2 years...she is well-trained now...if you don't want to lose her you better win the lottery or something LOL
2007-03-28 10:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by poker_fan_in_nyc 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you lose her because you won't pay stupid amounts of money on a brand name then be glad to be rid of her. If she really wants that stuff then she should either buy it herself or, at the least, throw in for it. Stop spending all this money on her.
2007-03-28 10:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Golddigger
2007-03-28 10:55:35 · answer #10 · answered by lethalx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋