Has this tipping thing become way out of control?

Question

I'm sorry but I'm tired of being nickel and dimed at every turn. I went to my a local sushi place to order take-out. I filled out my order and the owner says come back in fifteen minutes. He didn't act friendly or offer me a place to sit and wait for my order. When I picked up my order of $17.20 he becomes very slow to give me my change and then puts it on the counter in an attempt to embarrass me if I pick it up. There are other sushi places in town and for $2.80 he lost hundreds of future sales to me. I'll often kick down a couple of bucks even when I'm picking up an order and I always tip around 20% (possibly more) if the service is good, I'll give 5 or 6 dollars tip for pizza delivery. But I was at Outback a few times with the same waiter and it wasn't busy at all and the service was horrendous. Does that guy deserve a 20% tip? I gave $10 each to two guys delivering a mattress to my apt. but I'll pick up my change from the counter of a sushi bar, especially from a rude owner.

Answer 1

I'm actually trying to come up with a checklist to bring with me to resteraunts
something to show them how well/crappy they did and why they're getting a tip or why they're getting the shaft.

-Were they friendly?
-Were they quick with refils?
-Did they get the order right? (or check the order to see if the cooks got it right)

these kinds of things

and i'd leave it for them with the tip

of course for the really terrible one's there would need to be a comment box.

For an example, at Applebees one day, there was about 10 different things wrong with this waitress, but i'll give you this example. My girlfriend asked very politely for some steak sauce. We watched (because this lady had taken FOREVER for everything else) as she grabbed some A1 or whatever, and stood there talking/laughing with her friend.
Literally 10 minutes later, both of our meals were getting cold, she strolled up, sat it down, and walked off without saying anything.

I get that wait staff make their money through tips....but the tip is an optional bonus for "us" to give to "them"
if they suck at their job, why reward them?

wow...that was quite a rant just to get to my answer "if they suck at their job, why reward them?"

Answer 2

First off, whoever invented the To Insure Proper Service acronym is a fricken moron, and he has a gaggle of pathetically stuipd morons following him and should be shot. Tips means nothing of the sort.

Second, a standard tip is 15%. As the cost of living goes up, the cost of food goes up, the amount of tips goes up. It's great that a bunch of servers and ex-servers got together and decided 20% would be the new standard, but for the rest of us 15% is just fine.

Finally, people who do not serve me, or who do less than a stellar job, deserve nothing. If they show attitude, I do exactly what you did - never go back. Don't know about you, but there are about 10,000 resturants in a 3 mile radius from me - I really don't need to get to a place with *******. Tipping is for excellent service - if it isn't there, F*CK IT!!

Answer 3

I think two things about this question:

In some instances - tipping is completely out of control. If you work at a job that pays you a decent (minimum) wage or above and not as a waiter or food server or carry out personnel in a restaurant -then you should never expect a tip.

On the other hand - in my opinion - as someone that has served at restaurants and that has eaten at many, many restaurants - if someone cannot afford at least a 15% tip and does not plan on giving one for good service, then that someone should stay at home. Whether you realize it or not, servers work exceptionally hard in most cases. They have to deal with cooks, and managers, and inconsiderate customers that are often blind to the fact that there are other people in the restaurant that want to be waited on too. And preparing food, boxing it up and taking orders to go - is a SERVICE and if it is done correctly, quickly, and politely, you should tip for it.

Answer 4

Yes. Tipping has gotten way out of hand. I can understand tipping your barber, or a waiter at a resteraunt, or even the pizza guy aor a delivery man; but people are taking it way too far. If my food isn't brought to my table on a steaming platter...what the heck would I tip for? Here's your bag of greasy food....tip? No.

I cant begin to recall all of the places I've seen tip jars popping up, but here's a few

Fast food chains
dry cleaner
mini-mart
video store
computer repair
jeweler
botique
shoe store

the list goes on...
Dont Tip These people. Please....let's not encourage this kind of behavior....we're already paying a premium for services to begin with.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong in your opinion and for once I actually agree with someone asking the questions. I am fairly the same way. No I don't think tipping is out of control. Just some of the people who think they should get a tip at every turn. Simply stated, if the service sucks no tip!!! I f you are going to leave a tip base it on the level of service you received. Use your cell phone tip calculator to simplify it for you.

Answer 6

In my opinion the number of people expecting tips is ridiculous! I will tip you 20% without a second thought if I received good service (waitress/waiter was courteous, drinks were served in a timely manner, empty dishes were removed from table in a timely manner, etc.). If I received what I consider to be bad service I usually only leave a dollar or two along with a smart a$$ “tip” written on the receipt. I’ve seen tip cups at drive through windows! Are you kidding me? Waiters/waitresses, hairdressers/barbers, nail technicians, and food delivery drivers are the only people I make sure to tip TO INSURE PROPER SERVICE.

Answer 7

I try and tip 20% also. The servers wages are based on tips and they don't even make minimum wage without the tip. When I order take out. I don't tip anything. It never occurred to me to tip 20% because somebody handed me a bag of burgers. If they delivered the bag to my car, then I'll tip a buck or two. Also if it's the owner then I won't tip, but how often do you know if it's the owner or not?

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Its a cultural thing... Tipping is not universal, its really an American phenomenon... We have become so accustomed to tipping, that the Government even makes us declare them for tax purposes... In the UK for example, it is not customary to tip at Pubs or Restaurants. If your meal costs 10 quid or your beer costs you 3 pounds, then that is what you pay. Tipping is not frowned on, just not expected, some may tip the change they have in there pocket, but nothing significant. Also, there are no waitresses at pubs in the UK. That takes some getting used to, but I like the no tipping part... Cheers!

Answer 10

I have served for years and I understand tipping within certain situations (restaurant servers, valet guys, hair stylist..)
But it HAS gotten out of hand. Even in a food court of the mall you see little tips jars for every little food shop they have. Too many people who make an acceptable hourly rate are expecting to get tipped and it isn't right. I think only someone who is being payed LESS than minimum wage should expect to get tipped.