My four year old used to be a sweet natured little boy. Very self reliant and gentle. But lately he's been getting into trouble at school for ignoring his teachers and pushing the other kids to the ground, punching them etc. He's also began wetting the bed and having accidents through the day.
He's doesn't seem upset at anything as he dances then hugs me and tells me he loves me. This is reciprocated and I do spend time reading to him and talking to him. I make sure I tell him I love him etc. But when I explain what he's doing wrong (without trying to get too upset) he just doesn't really listen to me. Other than these he's a typical four year old. Any helpful advice is appreciated thanks
2007-03-28 03:29:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
He may have been bothered by the other kids and is afraid of the other children so he may hurt them b/c he's afraid of them.
2007-03-28 09:33:25 · answer #1 · answered by Zack H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can sympathize with your situation. I too have a 4yr old and I know how trying it can be, just as recent as last night my daughter was screaming, hitting, spitting etc. As a mother of 3 the only advice I can give you is let your child know that kind of behaviour is unnaceptable!! I know that when a child wants attention, any attention is good even if it is negative attention. I think that once you make the boundaries known that over time your child will learn what behaviour is acceptable. I also know that children react when there is a change in their life, I would look at what is going on in your life that may have changed i.e. children, routine, new school, etc. Hope this helps....
2007-03-28 10:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've seen this in a lot of kids, and I'd suggest two things.
1) Take a careful look at the other adults in his life and how they treat YOU. If you find this treatment repeated, then you can see where the child gets it.
2) YOu do need to fidn a way to punish the child. You say you're not getting upset but the child needs to learn. So, find a way to get through to him. Start with time-outs at home. Then take away something of great meaning (TV, visits to the Zoo, even favorite books) Punishment is not a bad thing, it's simply the result of his actions. The sooner he learns that, the better off he will be in life.
2007-03-28 10:39:08 · answer #3 · answered by Marvinator 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like something really bothers him but for some reason he doesn't want talk about so he takes it out on everyone at school or his family.When kids tune you out when your trying to explain why they've done something wrong is usually because he doesn't want to discuss why he's doing these things and it's probably because ot the thing he doesn't want to talk about...maybe a councillor might help or bring him to your doctor and you know it may be as simple as not liking his teacher or the boy who hurt his feelings and is why he fought with him.If it keeps up then bring him to proffesionals to see your options.Good luck
2007-03-28 10:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by Dodgegirl62 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long has he been in school - I'm assuming that it's pre-school... maybe he is just not ready to be away from you all day and this is his way of expressing separation anxiety. I'd also look into checking on what the overall tone of the "teachers" is, see about observing from a distance or via camera if they have them installed.
some times in a preschool setting many times the "teachers" are glorified babysitters with no formal training and don't always handle confrontation with the children well or the stress of many children.
good luck to you all
2007-03-28 10:41:22 · answer #5 · answered by Mum of 6 - newest born 8-25-07 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four years old and in preschool. Pretty scary for him leaving home and adjusting. Talk to him about it and give him a time frame to stop the baby stuff (wetting the bed, accidents). Tell him you will not tolerate the pushing others, ignoring the teacher and state your expectations. He wants limits. He wants to please you and be with you. You are his first teacher. What would a teacher do?
2007-03-28 10:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like something is bothering him. Has there been a change at home or school? Try talking to him about a benign subject and gently try to figure out what it can be. Something that works with my son is to tell him stories about when I was a boy and ask him to tell me one about him. Talk to your son's teacher- sometimes they see something at school. Good Luck, sounds like the poor little guy maybe misses mom???
2007-03-28 10:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by Mark B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate to suggest it, but i know sudden behavioral changes, aggression and bed wetting can be sign a abuse. if he's pushing kids at school he could be trying to take control where control was taken from him.
it also could be a phase. i would closely exam the people around your son that have little to no supervision. you can also try role playing with stuffed animals representing different people to see if he is able to tell his story that way
2007-03-28 10:42:04 · answer #8 · answered by bdyoung8 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe something is bothering him.....Try talking to him further. Also try talking to his teacher and other adults at his school....he also possibly needs more attention and 1 on 1 time with you!
2007-03-28 10:43:42 · answer #9 · answered by motherhoodisthebest! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just doing what little boys do. They are not going to stay sweet forever. Oh and alittle spanking wouldn't hurt either.
2007-03-28 10:39:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋