I just started dating this guy like a month ago. He is really sweet and all, but I have a four month old little boy. He knew about this BEFORE we hooked up. We have actually gone out a few times, but for the most part he just comes over to my house and we kick it. The thing is, I go to college Mon-Fri, 9-2, and I work, so I never really get to hang out with my baby until 10 p.m., after work, and that’s usually when my guy comes over. Well, he is ALWAYS trying to get me to find a babysitter, and honestly, I don’t have the time or energy to always be going out…and he is starting to get jealous because whenever he is over, I can’t give him all of my attention. Should I dump him, or am I being irrational?
2007-03-28 03:25:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your child comes first - always!!! If he doesn't understand that, get rid of him!
2007-03-28 03:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kailey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dump him just yet, if you like him besides that problem that is. But no you are not being irrational.
Talk to him honestly about your concerns. Guys really do appreciate the honesty. If he complains about it after that than you should dump him.
On a side note, most worthwhile guys will want a fun relationship where they can take you out and enjoy time with you. Kickin it at a girls house all the time is not my idea of a good relationship. I realize that your options are limited right now, and your baby does come first, but just keep in mind that if you want a good boyfriend you have to treat him right as well.
2007-03-28 10:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by Interested 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are being realistic. He has no idea what it is to be a single parent working and going to school. He is more interested in living the single life with no kids. If he's jealous now, it's only going to get worse as your child gets older and demands even more attention from you. I don't think he's the right guy for you. You can do better.â¼
2007-03-28 10:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are YOUR priorities? That's what decides whether you're right or wrong! Where does the baby REALLY fit in your set of priorities?
I think the guy wants you but doesn't regard the baby, or else he would appreciate the whole package.
You're the one who has to decide that. Besides if this guy is draining you, he's pretty inconsiderate, unless you're not being honest with him. After all, it sounds like maybe it wouldn't be all that hard for you to "dump" him (?)
You haven't really thought this through, I think. Are you in touch with why you're giving so much of yourself to this relationship?
2007-03-28 10:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by forlove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to really prioritize your time. You have a new baby that needs your love & attention & you're also trying to better yourself so that you and your child can have a better future. It sounds like a serious relationship just isn't in the wind for you right now.
2007-03-28 10:29:13 · answer #5 · answered by geminig 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you shouldn't have reproduced with someone who wasn't going to stick around in the first place.
and at 10 pm your 4 month old should be asleep.
I don't blame this guy one bit. He's being punished for what you did in the past.
2007-03-28 10:31:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a guy that will only be around for about a year. Your child is there forever. Do not sacrifice your child for a fling. If you meant that much to him he would be wanting to do things with you AND your son. find another person that is mature enough to understands and cares about you.
2007-03-28 10:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by dakota_gal_1968 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The interests of your child should always come first. If the guy can't handle that, you may want to consider dating someone who can.
2007-03-28 10:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by SwatDoc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you do not have time for dating. Take care of yourself and your baby first.
2007-03-28 10:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's never going to understand. Move on.
2007-03-28 10:33:26 · answer #10 · answered by Mauisnj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋