im confused and sad what should i do, how do i get over this without calling him or doing somehing wrong...
2007-03-28 03:20:12 · 23 answers · asked by pinkoink 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't follow your first inclination, because when your emotions are heightened the decision will be made purely from emotions, not from your thinking mind.
Don't dwell on it, as much as is possible, don't.
Don't call him, or even ask anyone what's going on with him.
Now that I've told you what not to do, here's something you can do to move on...
Determine for yourself that since you were okay BEFORE he was in your life, you'll be okay AFTER he's gone.
Decide then what it is YOU want to do for yourself.
Getting over someone isn't always easy, but eventually the right one WILL come along. Look for maturity of mind and character.
2007-03-28 03:29:38 · answer #1 · answered by Jed 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really tough but if he doesn't want to be with you, there's not much you can do.
The best thing is to keep yourself busy. If you're just sitting around at home moping, you're more likely to call him, and you'll erally regret that. he'll think you're weak and pitiful, and will lose all respect for you.
Call your friends, build up your social network. Plan nights or days out. Go do things you might not normally do: ice skating, swimming, roller skating etc. Plan girlie nights out, go out for a Chinese with friends, go to the cinema.
Start a class maybe, learn street dance, or mechanics, or do a beauty course.
i know it's really tough, but when you come through this, you'll feel a much better, stronger, happier person.
2007-03-28 10:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through a similar situation, this guy I was dating stopped talking to me after the police contacted him to gather information about his ex/child's mother stalking me.
I don't know what is going on because he has not provided me an explanation for why this psycho has threatened my life. It has been two weeks and my phone call to him went unreturned. I am assuming at this point that he does not want to date me anymore. It has been hard to resist calling him again, but I will not because I do not want him to think I am obsessed and needy like his ex. Spending time with family and reconnecting with friends has helped me to miss him less.
If your ex-bf wants to rekindle his relationship with you again, he'll find a way to let you know. Do not make any efforts to reconnect to him it will only prolong your disappointment and it might make him resent you. Give him time to miss all the things that are wonderful about you. Let's just hope for his sake that by the time he realizes it you havent already moved on.
I am working hard to follow this advice too. Good Luck!!
2007-03-28 11:42:07 · answer #3 · answered by anosey1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lower yourself to his level..Do not contact him.Consider yourself lucky and move on he sound's like a complete idiot.You are young and you will find the right guy just be patient.Good thing's come to those that wait..You will get over him he was not the one for you.The best thing for you to do is go on with your life.You won't do anything wrong as long as you stay away from him.Get involved with your friends and have a good time.Best Wishes.
2007-03-28 10:28:18 · answer #4 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off whatever you do don't call him. I know it is hard but that will make him think that he is on your mind. Don't let him get the best of you. My best advise to get over a man is to get another one. If he wants you back let him call you. He will proballly realize what he had and try to come back. I will tell that scrubb that it is too late and that you have moved on.
2007-03-28 10:25:59 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep busy with other things, hang out with friends. There are a lot of fish in the sea, keep your head up. You'll find the right guy one of these days! Forget about him and move on.
2007-03-28 10:23:57 · answer #6 · answered by natsuko1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's his issue that he broke it off. It doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. It Will get better with time. Don't call him. It's okay to change ones mind. You're still a good person. take care.
2007-03-28 10:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by sheree_98133 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok girl i have been through this before. Dont you be callin him and blowin up his phone but just act like everything is okay on the outside even if its not he will think you are happy and hes going to come back once he misses you so just let him come back . dont talk to him dont look at him and he will come back once he thinks youve moved on!!
2007-03-28 10:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by LiL♥R0CA QT <333 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is where your girlfriends come in handy. To wipe the tears away and keep you busy. I know it feels like this feeling will never end, but it will. Good luck sweety.
2007-03-28 10:29:46 · answer #9 · answered by Bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont call him or contact him no matter what! Hang out with friends and you will get over him in due time.
2007-03-28 10:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by Me 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋