I have been treated really badly by some guys and has a result I just feel like I am not good enough. I know there is nothing wrong with me, most likely it was just the guys I chose. Recently I have realized that I stay away from guys I might be interested in because I think they are going to be jerks like all the others which is not fair. What can I do to get over this?
2007-03-28 03:12:31 · 11 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take some time for self improvement. Read more, exercise more, and spend some time with males in your life you know and trust (eg. friends or family)
Trust me they are not all bad, avoid this guy and look for warning signs when you do date again so you can avoid jerks.
Good luck
2007-03-28 03:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by Interested 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all never let anyone make you feel less of a person. I think going into a relationship is something we all do, we don't know what will become or what to expect as time passes, but do know when the relationship is over always walk away with your dignity. Men come and go, just make sure that when you choose to be with someone, be with them because of who they are not how they look. With in time you will notice if a man is the dream guy because of what he looks from the outside he's not worth it, as you can see he spends to much time on himself. (pretty boy) But don't get me wrong some guy's are cute and don't admire themselves. Look for those sighs and you'll find the man your really looking for.
2007-03-28 10:22:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As humans we tend to repeat the cycle over and over- which is really hard to change. Some of the time the reason we do this is that we (ourselves) have built shame up inside. Think about how you want to be treated- what qualities you posses and what you want your future bf to be like. Another thing- if you meet a guy that treats you good- allow him to. That's the hardest thing to do. Let go of the shame- let your good qualities (personality, caring, love) shine through!
Just a thought!
2007-03-28 10:20:03 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to make sure you get to know the guys you are interested in a little better before you get involved.
I know sometimes it's hard, especially if you don't consider yourself to be a good judge of character.
Maybe take a little longer 'dating' before you get seriously involved. At the first sign of him being a jerk, ditch him!
You've already taken the first step of realising you go for jerks and want to do something about it :o)
2007-03-28 10:18:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever think that it's your fault. Look at it like this it's their lost. I have gone through the same things but one thing you have to remember that all me are not dogs. There are some good ones out there. To protect your heart take things slow.I know that it can be hard but I learned that guys like to be the pursuers. Let them call you don't act desperate. I have two older brothers and I am beginning to learn alot from them. Men like to chase women so play hard to get and trust me you will find someone that is right for you eventually. Don't settle wait on the right one. Good Luck
2007-03-28 10:22:30 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that u are intristed in a certain kinda guy try switching to somthing u r not used to that might help with the problem that all guys r jerks but with tha other thing u r gonna have to put yourself out there and see what happens
2007-03-28 10:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by yung_buk245 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jen,
You're going through a rough patch these days, based on the other questions like this that you have been asking. Don't focus so much importance on the dating aspect. You'll find a great guy if you stop looking so hard. Focus on your work and your friendships and the other things will fall into place!
2007-03-28 10:17:06 · answer #7 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i know it might be hard for a while after you get treated like sh*t. But all guys aren't the same no matter what anyone says, You just gotta give other people a chance and once they start treatin you bad be like seee yuhh.
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2007-03-28 10:17:38 · answer #8 · answered by cutiewidab00tyx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come out for a date with Bubba! Bubba always treats the ladies like royalty! C'mon - give Bubba a try!
2007-03-28 10:17:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie is not your fault. dating is all about trial and error. in order to know and find what you want, you have to go through some bad ones(woppers is what me and my gf call them*). just take things slowly, only invest a part of yourself that you can get back easily if he decides to be a jerk. Be choosy in who you give your heart too. i hope you find solace.
2007-03-28 10:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋