Why doesnt love last forever? Even when we get married, we may fall in love with someone else w/out wanting?

Answer 1

You won`t if you don`t invite it or look for it.

Answer 2

The only way that love will last forever is if both people put a effort to make it last. It is natual to grow certain feelings for others or possibly be attracted to another person but what you need to decide is if you really love the person you are with you will not act on those feelings and you will try even harder to make your relationship work.

Answer 3

Love lasts if both parties make it and should grow stronger and stronger.

Temptation is a bioootch rigtht. But you are not supposed to give in.
That should have been why you got married. Last person you ever do anything with.
Thats why you got married right>?

Answer 4

love does last forever, as long as your with the right person. sometimes gettin married is just an esay way out. and it is normal that after gettin married feelings may change. but since 2 people are married and have said their vows then they should generally stick with them unless they are very unhappy.

Answer 5

I SAY NOTHING IN LIFE LAST 4 EVER NOT EVEN LOVE. EVENTUALLY IT DIES OUT NO MATTER HOW HARD U TRY IT JUST DIES OUT. YEAH U CAN BE WITH SOMEONE 4 A VERY LONG TIME BUT IT IS NOT THE SAME IT CHANGES. INSTEAD OF SAYING I AM SO IN LOVE U SAY YEAH I LOVE HIM/HER BUT THERE IS A DIFFERENCE WHEN U SAY I LOVE HIM/HER AND WHEN U SAY I AM IN LOVE WITH HIM/HER. I DON'T KNOW IF MY ANSWER SOUNDS CONFUSING BUT ALL I AM SAYING IS NOTHING LAST 4 EVER, AND IF U EVER FIND LOVE AND IT HAPPENS 2 LAST THEN I WISH U THE BEST.

Answer 6

staying in love is one of the hardest jobs you will ever face. It's your choice to give up, or make it work.
Remember it works both ways, there will always be temptation, someone better looking, smarter, sexier, funnier, wealthier....
You decide before marriage that you are committed to make it work. Period!

Answer 7

True love is real love the love that you have for that person with out thinking about loving someone else that is real true love!!

Answer 8

Love can last forever, like with relationships with partners, family friends. Being "in love" doesn't. The initial rush you feel when you first fall "in love" with someone the butterflies sweaty palms heart racing thinking about them all the time is the reaction in our brain from the chemicals that release to make us fall "in love". It is natures way so we will procreate and the species will continue. Someone asked in another question is it like a state on insanity and it is, it has been compared to cocaine. Heres some info on the theory.



Does Love Drive You Mad?


In 1990, a study in Italy indicated that people who have recently fallen in love have some of the symptoms of 'Obsessive Compulsive Disorder' or OCD. People with OCD behave obsessively about certain things. They might be constantly washing their hands, or need to continually check to see if the door is closed.


Rather than making you happy, love could actually make you depressed. One symptom of OCD appears to be unusually low levels of the neuro-transmitter 'serotonin'. Low levels of serotonin have been associated with anxiety and depression. Italian students who claimed they had recently fallen in love were found to have serotonin levels 40% lower than their peers.

However, the biochemical effect of falling in love didn't last forever. When the same students were tested after their relationship was a year old, their levels had returned to normal. One author of the study has suggested that we require this chemical response for relationships to survive. After all, we'd have to be mad to fall in love wouldn't we?


Another interesting finding is that people with low serotonin levels tend to have a lot of sex. If men have a particular version of a gene known as the 'serotonin transporter', they will have lower levels of serotonin in their brains. They tend to be more anxious than other men and also more sexually active.


Brain imaging techniques have been put to use in the name of love. Andreas Bartels and Semir Zeki at University College London used functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging (fMRI) to take pictures of the lover's brain.

Whilst inside the scanner, loved-up students were shown pictures of their new flame. They were also shown images of platonic friends of the opposite sex. Zeki and Bartels were struck by how clear cut the pattern of brain activity was when students were looking at their new love.

Four areas of the brain became active, and one area noticeably inactive, when the students had love on their mind. The active areas include one responsible for 'gut' feelings and one that is known to respond to euphoria-inducing drugs. The lights go off however, in the prefrontal cortex, an area that is overactive in depressed patients.

Three stages of love

Stage 1: LUST
Lust is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and oestrogen. Testosterone is not confined only to men. It has also been shown to play a major role in the sex drive of women. These hormones as Helen Fisher says "get you out looking for anything".


Stage 2: ATTRACTION
This is the truly love-struck phase. When people fall in love they can think of nothing else. They might even lose their appetite and need less sleep, preferring to spend hours at a time daydreaming about their new lover.


In the attraction stage, a group of neuro-transmitters called 'monoamines' play an important role:

Dopamine - Also activated by cocaine and nicotine


Norepinephrine - Otherwise known as adrenalin. Starts us sweating and gets the heart racing


Serotonin - One of love's most important chemicals and one that may actually send us temporarily insane




Stage 3: ATTACHMENT
This is what takes over after the attraction stage, if a relationship is going to last. People couldn't possibly stay in the attraction stage forever, otherwise they'd never get any work done!

Attachment is a longer lasting commitment and is the bond that keeps couples together when they go on to have children. Important in this stage are two hormones released by the nervous system, which are thought to play a role in social attachments:

Oxytocin - This is released by the hypothalamus gland during child birth and also helps the breast express milk. It helps cement the strong bond between mother and child. It is also released by both sexes during orgasm and it is thought that it promotes bonding when adults are intimate. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes


Vasopressin - Another important chemical in the long-term commitment stage. It is an important controller of the kidney and its role in long-term relationships was discovered when scientists looked at the prairie vole



Oh and for fun if anyone wants to take this quiz to see who their ideal partner would be, its a face perception quiz heres the link.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/science/humanbody/m...

Answer 9

coz ders always sum1 fitter round the corner

Answer 10

good question but dont know the reason.