After seeing my scar on my stomach for being shot, my girlfriend still wanna be with me. I hear her, but I don't believe it. The thing is that she said she likes being with me and really enjoy my company, but she said she isn't attracted to me as far as looks. Is it possible for couple to be together and not be attracted to each other? if yes, how? why? We been together for three months and had sex and everything. I guess I'm just worried about the scar she saw. Do u think she is real or just playing me to get what she want? Do u think she seeing someone else on the side to make up for what I'm giving her a far as looks.She is very cute and could be anybody, but she enjoys me. I don't know, help me out. I'm worrying my self crazy.
2007-03-28 02:50:29 · 14 answers · asked by teryl2930308 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"she said she isn't attracted to me as far as looks"
Any chance you misunderstood what she was implying? Perhaps she was meaning that your looks are not why she likes you. That she likes you for the person you are more than the person you are visually.
The fact that you two have a healthy sex life tends to prove she is physically attracted to you. If she's so cute and could have anyone, why would she bother "playing" you? What is she going to get out of such a game?
I have several scars from various incidents throughout my life. Never once had a girl not want me because of them. Relax and just be happy with her. Seems everything is fine except a bit of your self-confidence.
2007-03-28 02:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by b0red2tears 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should grow a brain between your ears or a spine in your back. People are attracted to each other only initially for physical features. That's why you see the movie star actress with the bald headed fat guy. Once the initial attraction is there and is now over, other things come into play. Your sense of humor, your ability and willingness to communicate, your admiration for her and hers for you, the enjoyment of each others company. that sort of thing. Since you haven't had sex yet, what if she has a scare on her stomach? would you leave her for that? If not, what makes you so different from her? If so, then your the one who is shallow. If your afraid of loosing her because you think that she is seeing someone else, either get evidence or ask her or just shut up and quit whining. Just be glad that you have someone. There are a lot of people out there that don't!
2007-03-28 09:57:55 · answer #2 · answered by auditor4u2007 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't see how a romantic relationship can work if there isn't physical attraction. I know there is much more to it than just looks, but I thought you had to have the right blend of looks and personality to make it work?
I would be concened as to the reasons she is with you. You brought up the fact she might be 'trying to get what she wants'. What could that be? Do you have alot of money, or something that she would be trying to use you for? it sounds like you have an idea that she is up to something, don't ignore your gut instinct because it's usually right...
As for the scar, don't worry about it. If she says it's not a problem, it probably isn't. It just sounds to me like you have an insecurity about it, and nothing anyone says to reassure you will take that insecurity away.
If she isn't attracted to you physically, I'm sure the scar won't really bother her at all.
2007-03-28 09:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look around you. You'll see all kinds of people, beautiful and ordinary, with other beautiful and/or ordinary people. Looks are only a small part of the equation. She said she likes being with you, and enjoys your company...if you feel the same way about her, just let it happen and have a good time. You're probaby self-conscious about your scar, which doesn't bother her anyway.
I do think it's sort of strange that she actually told you she's not attracted to your looks. If you're truly in love with someone, they look good to you, regardless of how they may appear to others.
2007-03-28 09:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your girlfriend loves you for who you are with a scar or no scar. The two of you should take the relationship very slow to the next step.
2007-03-28 10:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by Heidi T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit back for a second and think about how lucky you are to have a girl like her. Just take care of her in all the ways a boyfriend is supposed to and she wont stray away. At least you know she is a genuine person. Thats sooo sweet.
2007-03-28 09:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by Bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm, thats a toughy! Well I believe you have to be physically and mentally attractive to someone to be with them! She might be telling the truth, maybe your personality makes up for your looks, and she doesnt care!
She sounds like a keeper, because if she didnt like ou I dont think she would be having sex with you!
2007-03-28 09:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by Still Standing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships aren't all about looks...and why would she care about the scar on your stomach? if you have been shot then she should be happy that your alive. Stop worrying about it...if she really loves you then she won't leave you or cheat on you
2007-03-28 09:55:55 · answer #8 · answered by ram_this911 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK looks r not everything. Is your girl saying looks doesn't matter to her or is she saying u r unattractive to her? U r in a new relationship 3 months is still new ground,try to chill and enjoy.True love and compatibility will show itself in time.
2007-03-28 10:03:12 · answer #9 · answered by lou lou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should relax and enjoy your relationship. if you cannot enjoy because of too much worry you should find another girlfriend.
2007-03-28 09:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by Suchness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋