2007-03-28 02:45:56 · 26 answers · asked by radioangelbrt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't wait on him, you do it. Propose to the lucky guy and you might be surprised. I proposed to my husband almost 10 years ago and we are still happily married. Go for it and good luck. I wish you the best.
2007-03-28 02:50:08 · answer #1 · answered by God Bless America 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push the lad. I was pushed a little, but at some times, that just made me a little angry and questioning about the relationship. No one wants to be forced into commitment that should be happy and lasting. It's like wanting a new car and bugging your parents about until you get a nice junker. Happy? No, didn't think so.
But, perhaps he is ready (hell if I know), and he's waiting for the perfect moment. I had the ring two months before I finally proposed.
2007-03-28 03:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you guys haven't been talking about marriage, he may not be ready. I think it's best to start hinting around to get an idea of how he feels. You could ask him the traditional question "Where do you see us in 5 years" or you could make the move and give him a key to your place (if he doesn't already have one) I think subtle ways are the best. You definitely don't want to pressure him! Good Luck!
2007-03-28 02:52:13 · answer #3 · answered by Belle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push! also do not do the "let's check out the jewerly store for rings! " Major Turn off! Many have gone in and ran!
Also if he hasn't brought up the subject in all the time that you have dated him then I really don't think he has in mind to marry you! Don't force it! I can tell you from experience of watching diasters that when you make a man feel that he has to marry you, or trick him into marry you, the only person more sorry will be you.
2007-03-28 05:57:58 · answer #4 · answered by juyish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am recently engaged to a wonderful woman about 4 months ago. Men usually dont realize that a woman was ready to get married before they ever even met the guy. A-lot of times, the guy is just the last peice of the puzzle. As much as guys dont want to think about marriage, they understand that it is the enevitable for the masses. The ploblem lies in the fact that women begin to apply preasure based on the principals and reasoning in their mind and based on their emotions. In order to align the thoughts and wishes of a man and a woman, you kind of have to think like a man for a sec.
Statements like, " I cant wait to have dinner ready for us to eat everyday at 6:00" will draw thoughts of," great, I guess I cant have an after hours drink with the guys anymore? A statement like, " you know Im going to be one of those wives that will bring you a beer while your playing cards with the guys so you dont have to get up! That is powerful! Also, it is proven that the most rewarding time for a man sexually is between the six months before a wedding and six after. Letting him know your looking forward to that year of your life... maybe you can tell him that around about 11;00 pm some night after a few drinks.... Make sence?? Put your self in his shoes and you will begin to see all of his most intimate fears and you will see you can overcome them with paitence and Love. Best of luck!!
2007-03-28 05:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by mrwolf96 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DONT! I mean it, its more than a big fancy day with cake and nice presents, a marriage is a MASSIVE committment and if hes not ready and you force him into it, youll either end up with a divorce or with him being resentful. he'll ask you when HE'S ready, not before. its no big deal anyway, I got married in Aug and things are exactly the same as before, i just have a new signature. Whats a bit of paper mean?
2007-03-28 04:23:38 · answer #6 · answered by Secret Squirrel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't manipulate or force somone into proposing........if he does it because you 're expecting him to and not because he's ready...he'll go into the marriage with hesitations and you'll be headed for problems down the road! How long have the two of you been dating? Have you even talked about marriage.. who brings it up, him or you! If you've already discussed marriage and he actively participates in the conversations and brings them up...then it's safe to say he's on board....he'll propse when the time is right...most guys won't do it when they know you are expecting it!!!
2007-03-28 03:10:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. I don't think you should figure out the best way to get him to propose. He will do it when he is ready and if he wants to.
2007-03-28 03:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe he should propose unless and until he wants to propose. How do you "get" someone to want to propose, or to want to do anything, for that matter? I don't know, but it seems to me that it would necessarily involve either a process of education in which you try to discern what desirable qualities of yours he has not yet noticed, or sufficiently appreciated, and find ways to bring them to his attention so that he can take notice of them, if he is so inclined, and begin to appreciate them, or, conversely, the unworthy process of pure and simple manipulation, which would be inherently deceitful and by definition subversive of his autonomy.
2007-03-28 03:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you tell him how much you love him and make it clear you are open to marriage there isn't much else you can do. You don't wanna force the guy! Wouldn't you prefer that he asked you because he actually wanted to rather than because he felt he had to? If it's meant to be, it will happen!
2007-03-28 03:49:52 · answer #10 · answered by stargirl_laura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋