I think that if it were a law that a couple had to attend marriage classes before getting married and the same with divorce that we may help our sky high high divorce rate. Of course in the case of domestic violence it would be differenent.
2007-03-28 02:37:25 · 20 answers · asked by Pamela V 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Of course most Pastors would not think of marring a couple without pre- marriage counseling. I just think the general public could bennifit from learning that there are highs and lows to marriage. It is not all a bed of roses. With pre-divorce classes maybe some marriages could be saved.
2007-03-28 03:05:35 · update #1
I agree! It's way too easy to get married and to get a divorce. Sadly it happened to me. I knew my (ex)husband for 2 months before we got married. We went to city hall & filed for marriage license and paid $80 and 2 day later we got married by a judge. Two years later we got divorced. I had to becuz he was abusive & I was pregnant and didn't want him to hurt me baby. He never showed up at the court house for the divorce. I read a piece of paper infront of the judge (same one that married us) and got divorced.
But I agree that classes should be taken. Because if we had to, we probably wouldn't have gotten married. He'd either won't do it or I'd learn more about him and leave him sooner. And with divorces, many divorce because of lack of communication and don't want to work at their problems. They take these vows but don't really mean them. I know, I said 'for better, for worse', but he was getting worse every week, every month and I find out his past and knew he did this with other women. There is no way you can know someone in 2 months and I didn't really love him. I just wanted to get out of my parent's house.
2007-03-28 02:47:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most churches nowadays offer Marriage Guidance to couples planning to get married so this already exists as for divorce classes I think you will find that this already exists also and is called Marriage Guidance where married couples experiencing difficulties in their marriage go for counselling before deciding to go down the divorce route, it would be a good idea to make marriage guidance compulsory to all people who seek a divorce before the divorce is granted though. I agree about the domestic violence point tho.
2007-03-28 02:42:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one marries in the church then they must attend counseling sessions before hand. There is so much divorce today because people do not take the vows and sacraments of marriage seriously. Marriage is a divine sacrament given to us by God.
2007-03-28 02:44:59 · answer #3 · answered by tebone0315 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Expectations of one another and of the marriage and the obvious topics of finance and retirement, parenting, education, setting and working for common goals, etc. would probably be more helpful in high school than one last social studies class in the senior year.
Anger, disappointment and regret are the results of unmet expectations in any relationship. Having them spelled out beforehand helps the spouses form their expectations more reasonably. Classes could help.
Divorce class could focus on finances, legal rights and responsibilities, emotional recovery, parenting/grandparenting and eventual remarriage/staying single. I would think that these classes would definitely open eyes to the realities of adult life for high schoolers (I think it's a little late to have these classes beyond that age).
2007-03-28 02:55:50 · answer #4 · answered by Tseruyah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it would help. Nor do I think the rates of domestic violence would be different.
Marriages do not fail because people had a lack of information, and I don't trust the government to come up with a reasonable one-size-fits-all family and marriage therapy program.
Bad idea.
2007-03-28 02:42:16 · answer #5 · answered by WWTSD? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Now if Britney Spears And K-FED were in a marriage class before getting married, they'd scare off the poor teacher of the class. He would never be the same again!
2007-03-28 02:41:01 · answer #6 · answered by Gay R 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
IS A GOOD IDEA, BUT I THINK IT HAS MORE TO DO, WITH WHY PEOPLE ARE MARRYING AND TO WHOM. LIKE WE ALL KNOW SOMETIMES IS BECAUSE OF A PREGNANCY, OR THE DESPERATE GIRL THAT NEEDS TO HAVE THE PERFECT WEDDING, OR SO MANY OTHER REASONS. STAYING MARRIED IS A BIG DEAL. IN THE OTHER HAND IF PEOPLE KNEW WHAT THE WERE DOING, THE NUMBER OF MARRIAGES WILL DECREASE SIGNIFICANTLY.
2007-03-28 02:42:47 · answer #7 · answered by sweetsensat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that would be great! It's kind of like how they make you take classes and go through a waiting period when you want to buy and carry a gun. Some people who wanted to do it spontaneously for the wrong reasons will change their minds simply because it's a hassle.
2007-03-28 12:17:18 · answer #8 · answered by HobbesMom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if people had to attend both of them right away, our divorce rate would plummet because the marriage rate would go first.
2007-03-28 02:47:49 · answer #9 · answered by billthakat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If people have to attend marriage classes, are they even mature enough to be marrying in the first place?
2007-03-28 02:40:39 · answer #10 · answered by iamnoone 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋