i want to marry him.but my family will not accept our love. we have had *** many times.he is financially weak.so its me who used to help him by giving jewels and money(anything wrong in that?).he is now angry on me bcos i told him its not possible to marry him.my dad lovees me a lot and i am also concerned about his reputation.what should i do? feeling guilty for cheating him..even though he has criticized me many times i love him sincerly..what should i do? i love my dad also a lot..i dont have mother..so its me who have to take care of my dad..what should i do? please help me..
2007-03-28 02:37:10 · 5 answers · asked by anjana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him to move in to your place and stay with you and your family.
If thats not possible then you have to make a decision.
Whatever you do, go slow on him, dont rush, otherwise it will bite you back later.
Family comes first.
Talk to your dad and him.
Also check out some of the advice in this room , then frame your decision.
2007-03-28 02:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Giving him jewels and money is okay, but did YOU earn them? Or is it that you gave him jewels and money that your dad has earned. Stop thinking that your dad is there to provide for you all life long. You are old enough to earn now. If your dad isn't asking you to earn, its his magnanimity. Consider yourself to be very lucky to have such a dad. Probably this will help you decide better. Do you earn enough to support you, your husband and your family? You may not realise that for a year or two. But when you will experience how much you have to struggle to keep both of you happy you will not want him anymore. Love that you experience now is love without responsibility. Love that you experience after marriage is love with responsibility. All of us want to experience love but none wants responsibility. That's how humans are. Your boyfriend isn't any different. So think twice before you leap. Are you ready to be with him irrespective of whether he is financially strong or weak? How can you cheat on him if you haven't made any commitment? May be could tell him that you are planning to buy a house, furniture, car, etc for future. Tell him that he needs to make some contributions in his small ways. See how he responds. See what percent of his income does he contributes.
If his anger is genuine he will tell you how he is trying to get a job but cant land one. If he is fraud he will only talk about how you were selfish(As if HE isn't selfish! Isn't it one of his concerns to think about you and you both as a family)
2007-03-28 15:34:45 · answer #2 · answered by Mau 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looking at your profile it seems like you are obsessed with this man. Most Yahoo people have advised you to get rid of him and have warned you that he is using you but the fact that you keep asking indicates that you are not hearing it. Here is goes again...Leave him..He is using you..Your father loves you unconditionally and wants the best for you. You are only 21 and have a life ahead of you. Do not spoil it. LEAVE him and move on. The fact that he spies on you shows lack of trust and not love. If he talks to your friend behind your back and it obviously upsets you shows lack of respect. Please wake up and see where you are heading. Having sex at 21 is not a sign of love. Get rid of him and move on.
2007-03-28 09:58:25 · answer #3 · answered by livewire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why can't this person improve his financial situation?
2007-03-28 09:43:04 · answer #4 · answered by asif k 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just f u c k him
2007-03-28 09:43:58 · answer #5 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋