My mothers starting to go crazy at me for being who i am, why?

Question

hello my names nathan.

Recently i have been able to ignore my mother and her nagging at me constantly but now im that bit older and that bit more confident and doing my own things my mothers starting to lose her temper with me.

For example. Recently i have spent a considerable amount of money (That i have saved up and was given a grant towards) on a computer. Now i like to build my own and certain issues have appeared where i need to spend that bit more on a extra few parts.

Because of this i told my mother about it.
And well it ended up with her Kicking certain objects around the house and screaming at me in such a manner that i couldn’t put up with.

This is MY money, not hers. Mine i saved it up, i worked for it.
And shes not ever listening to what i have to say, shes always the one who is right and im always wrong.

And i cant move out because im taking a college course.

Any information or tips on how to deal with her would be greatly taken.

Thanks

Answer 1

Yes, get a new attitude. Yours now is mine, mine, mine...I want, I want..I want.
If you are a man now, and can do the things you want to do, and can accept the responsibilities on your own, then do so, ...oh, but then you'll have to live by yourself and fend for yourself. Or you can be a grownup on some issues and a baby on others.
I'd bet any amount of money, that if you were truly grown up and living on your own, instead of hanging on to your mother for support, you probably wouldn't have spent the money on new computer or parts or whatever. Think about that for a minute...

Answer 2

that sound like my mom and me.
we love each other but we are completely different in everything..
she still tries to tell me what to do, when to pay my bills, how much money to spend, how i should do my hair,she would even let me know if i had gain some weight...
i always ignore and try to walk away, but some times she get the best of me... so we go at it.. and we dont even live together.but although i get mad at her for doing in it, i know that she only means good, and iam more than fortunate to have a mom who worries about me and try to keep me on track...
so my points is that, okey! it is your money and you should be able to spend it in what ever you want,, but think? the only way why you were probably able to save that money is because you dint have to pay any rent.. moms will always be moms so just bare with her and try to understand where she comes from.. when you get older you will thank her..

Answer 3

That is your mom so don't be disrespectful to her. Moms have always been like that even my mom. I didn't realize it until I had a son of my own. I know it may be hard but honestly your mom more that likely only wants whats best for you. Do you pay any bills at home. Or do you buy groceries,or do chores. If not appreciate her because once you get out on your own it is going to be alot harder.

Answer 4

although she may seem like she's screaming and shouting all the time, she may have a point. As parents generally do whats best for their kids, but if it is for nothing then she may just want attention. if you bought a new computer and told her afterwards of course she would be mad. as they are not cheap these days. all parents want their kids to save up a decent amount of money for when theire older not just for spending it all at once.

Answer 5

i know how you feel! i had to put up with this sort of thing for years! the only advice i can give is...

1.sit down and discuss this issue with your mum in a grown up and responsible way (it might work) you might find she is just a little scared that her little boy is growing up so fast

2.let your mum know that it is your money and be more assertive when it comes to fighting your corner (this usually causes arguements)

3.buy whatever it is you want but agree and apologise to your mother when she goes on about it, this way she has no reason to shout etc because your agreeing with her. and remember its not permenant as you can move out when you finish your course!

Answer 6

Do you support yourself or do you depend on your mom to take care of your needs? If she does support you then she might be upset because she could be having money problems and seeing you pour money into something she feels isn't totally necessary (like upgrades). If that is not the case then maybe it's just that she thinks you don't spend money responsibly and doesnt know the proper way to dicuss it with you.

Answer 7

You have to be a little patient with your mother. Try not to say anything when she talks or shouts at you, even when she is angry at you, just keep quite by replying her it will just make her nervous and more angry at you even if you are the right person.
Now when she is back to her normal state, try and talk things out with her in a polite manner. Things will work out in this manner

Answer 8

I can't understand your mother's outburst since the money you are spending is your money? Anyhow, this is the situation you are in. Try to quietly talk to your mother when she's peaceful and quiet and explain to her that you love building computers and most probably this will also be your future when you grow up, and see what happens...miracles are known to occur where they are least expected.

Answer 9

I think she's angry because she can't stand how you're now independent and making your own money. She probably feels threatened because you're older and no longer need to rely on her so much. I guess all you can do is avoid arguments with her .. stay out of her way and it'll be okay. Also, don't provoke her.

Answer 10

Deal with whatever she sais even if you dont approve because she is putting a roof over your head and could throw you out whenever. Dont ignore her she is your mom and you should spend some time with her to keep your mother and son bond.