I work in a large office building and this guy I work with is obviously interested in me. THis guy has asked if I had a boyfriend (which I said yes) and he has also said 'I'm surprised you don't have kids by now with as good as you look" I am really grossed out...
Anyway, I don't work with him directly but I see him EVERYWHERE. He always says hi so I don't know if he is just being nice?
Then again he always stares me up and down and it freaks me out...
What should i do? Serious answers please...
2007-03-28 02:28:45 · 15 answers · asked by mememe 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
don't respond or be overly friendly to him--when he interacts with you, only do/say what you have to in order to remain professional and not rude. I have this problem at work as well...It's really hard for me to ignore people --i just don't operate that way. But in this situation, you have to. When they interact with me, i give the minimal acknowledgment and move on. After a few times of minimal responses and lack of interest, he'll get the picture.
2007-03-28 03:17:15 · answer #1 · answered by should be working 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be trying to be 'nice', but he's also being rude. Be direct. The next time he says anything about you or asks a personal question, look him directly in the eye and say something like " You may be just trying to be friendly, but I feel your comment/question is too personal, so I would like you to stop."
Don't smile and speak firmly. That should get your message across that you're not interested in him.
If that does not work, speak to your manager or human resource dept. about him. There is no reason you should put up with his behavior.
2007-03-28 03:01:12 · answer #2 · answered by LittleBitOfSugar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should just try hard to ignore him. If things get too out of hand, like he follows you around, etc, inquire at Human Resources. Maybe they can give you a little more direction. Right now it doesn't sound like he's doing anything wrong per se, other than being creepy. I would just make an effort not to even say hello... just nod and move on.
Good luck!!
2007-03-28 02:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by doggiemom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When he stares you up and down, give him a dirty look. Let him know by the way you look at him that you do not enjoy his advances. When he says "Hi", respond with a respectful "Good Morning" or "Hello" without a smile. If he has any sense, he will get the message that you are not interested.
If he is only saying "Hi", you don't have a leg to stand on with a complaint. The way he looks at you could be interpreted as your perception of him, and therefore you would be told to ignore him. The suggestion of getting a can of mace is a good one, he may be harmless, but you never know. If he goes further, and tries to sexually harass you after you have let him know subtly that you are not interested, you will have to let him know, under no uncertain terms, that you will not have anything to do with him and report him to Human Resources.
2007-03-28 02:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow... classy isnt he?
'I'm surprised you don't have kids by now with as good as you look"
Should have been met with.... "im surprised no one has whacked you over the head with a bat and stuffed you in black garbage bags." NO im kidding, DONT talk to him. Dont give him any clue that you are being nice, because, he will undoubtably read this as "more". Just stay away, dont make eye contact, and DONT be alone.....
Gross, stay away from him!!!!!!!!!!!!
If he is really showing up EVERYWHERE else... keep a record of it, on paper and perhaps you need to get a restraining order against him. (if it seems he is fixated on you) **shiver**
Your instincts are given to you for a reason, and if your skin is crawling... there is a REASON.
2007-03-28 03:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by Sionainn 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't respond. Not even by calling him creepy, or telling him to stop bothering you. Some people would rather have any kind of intereaction than none. He sounds like one of those.
Eventually he may give up. Or, if he says anything more to you, just tell him to stop harrassing you.
Good Luck.
2007-03-28 03:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out who his Boss is, and have a talk with him. Tell him if the creep doesn't have anything to do, he shouldn't have a position there.
2007-03-28 02:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don know
let him know u don want to be bothered for any non business related issues and tell him with witnesses or bring a coworker as a witness.
if it persists, talk to your manager to see if she wants to warn the guy. if your manager is not interested, go straight to HR cause u have done all steps possible in warning people of unsuitable behavior.
sorry but u sound like a pushover. it's time to act
2007-03-28 02:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just say hi in a friendly but casual way and make sure you keep walking. If he says anything personal again (such as the kids comment) just stare at him, say goodbye and walk away. Hopefully he isn't too stupid to get the idea.
2007-03-28 22:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the office immediately and report him. If you feel that uncomfortable about this person, you shouldn't let it go. Sounds like a stalking issue to me and that is against the law. Good luck
2007-03-30 12:44:21 · answer #10 · answered by VK1960 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋