all we do lately is argue. We are both stressed out becuase we are getting married April 14th. We are still trying to tye up the ends to all the plans and everything. We never have a moment to ourselves lately either. He's either working late or I'm having to run errands. We live with his brother for right now so even when we are there together we aren't alone cause they are always beating on the door or wanting us to hang with them. What are some good ways for me and him both to relax ona tight budget and be alone together?
2007-03-28 02:24:23 · 10 answers · asked by angel2005_2001 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Exactly how tight of a budget are we talking about here?
Personal suggestion: Get a hotel room, and a cheap one. Anything that removes you both from the chaos that is currently your life. Order pizza and get some cheap wine (or whatever drink of choice you'd prefer) Make some classically hopeless romantic night out of what little you have. Don't discuss the wedding, the plans, the future. Just spend the night together acting like your 15 again and you don't have a care in the world. .. So what if its all an act? You'll both enjoy the act while it last and it should help relieve a lot of tension between you both.
Total cost under $100
2007-03-28 02:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by b0red2tears 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is absolutely normal....If you can go through this then you will be able to go through anything together. Planning a wedding isn't easy. Living with relatives is also not easy. He's working late of course may continue to happen even after and you running errands will also continue happening.....You need to find a medium where the both of you can come together and enjoy each other, even if you are just cuddling and holding each other. Try taking a warm shower or bath together, which ever you perfer and if you need to or your finace, speak with his brother and let him know you guys like spending time and hanging out but right now is not a good time or basically you need some alone time. He'll understand..........
2007-03-28 09:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by Yvette D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, it's actually very normal for couples to argue right before a wedding. it''s a stressfull time for both of you. as long as it's nothing that's actually going to interfere with your lives together i would say to overlook most of that. as far as living with his brother goes, that could be adding to the stress. what are your plans after you are married, to continue living there? if so you will probably continue to argue. you need to try to find your own place asap. the way my husband and i have time together is i meet him for lunch at least once a week. i drive to his job and pick him up. we don't live with anyone but we have 4 kids here so we never have time alone. i take one with me when we meet, but at least it's not 4. maybe you could try telling his brother that you want some time alone and don't want to hang out with him for now. maybe you could plan something where if he sees a bandana tied to the door don't knock. also, maybe you could try just going on a picnic or something. that's not very expensive at all. or just hang out somewhere, even if you don't really do anything but enjoy each others company. i wish you both the best of luck.
2007-03-28 09:35:51 · answer #3 · answered by robsgrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok as much as it may sound seedy...cheap motel on a weekend..just to get away from the brother pounding on the door...just sit back..relax...watch cable..or hop in the tub together...
Other choice might be just one night...put a do not disturb sign up on the door to say we love you all..but need to relax. Getting married...just gets more stressful until the day comes. Don't let it scare you away from getting married..just realize..it happens to a lot of people, and you have to put it in perspective, and realize that in less than 3 weeks you'll be married..there will be no more planning, no more loose ends to tie up and you'll have a little more time.
Not much you can do about him working so much...that's something you have to get through, and then enjoy the time you have.
2007-03-28 09:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by whatisthisworldcomingto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I knew, maybe my fiance wouldn't have dropped me 8 months before our wedding. Sorry, still bitter. Just know that things will get better. Just remind yourself that all these annoying details and stressful times are serving one end...honoring and celebrating your love for each other. Just take a moment aside with him, in the room (closed door) or go park in your car somewhere and talk. Have a discussion about the stress this event is putting on your relationship but also share with one another the joy you feel at this upcoming affirmation of love. Go see a movie.
2007-03-28 09:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by Answerman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just do it .go away and get married.go to a motel and do some role play or something.sleep would be a good idea.
dnt answer the door next time ok?
2007-03-28 09:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by 9k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the park,fishing,sunning,walking.Go to the mall for Ice Cream.
2007-03-28 09:29:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the beach, park or somewhere peaceful. you need a silent environment to enjoy each other... a space from the rest... solitude
2007-03-28 09:34:47 · answer #8 · answered by a_l_t_e_r_n_o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just lock the bedroom door && turn up the music... or just go in your car & drive around
2007-03-28 09:28:21 · answer #9 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Extra hugs every day. It does wonders.
2007-03-28 09:28:08 · answer #10 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋