Hey ive never had a boyfriend ! ok but when i was thirteen , well actually up 2 thirteen by father abused me from say the age of 8 and up ! when i was 13 he kidnapped me and tried to rape me but thank god i managed to escape! but do you think this could affect why i have never had a boyfriend , do you think i could sub consciesly fear men ?
2007-03-28 02:22:53 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Btw im 18 now !
2007-03-28 02:23:16 · update #1
wow, thats horrible. I'm no doctor, but my younger sister was raped....and it took her a LONGGG time to trust guys again, but now she has a boyfriend that she's been with for a few years now....but you have to realize that not all guys are like that.....try and put that behind you, i know it can be traumatizing especially because it happened at a young age, but you will learn to trust again, you just have to allow yourself to.
2007-03-28 02:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is possible. Therefore, I would highly recommend to see someone (a psychiatrist, maybe), to talk about ur problem. You might show a sort of restraint when it comes to men, which defenetly comes from the subconscious. You've been through so many things. I really think u should do something about that. Your father's behaviour was far from being normal. And the fact that u never had a boyfriend may be a cause of the fact that u mentally tend to associate them with the image of ur father. I think that unless u resort to a specialist, ur problems might become bigger in time. Now is the best time to do something! Remember it only depends on u! Good lucK!
2007-03-28 02:48:12 · answer #2 · answered by persephona 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most probably you are. By instinct the woman inside you wants a male companion. But there might be some part in you that want guys to stay away from yourself that is making yourself unapproachable to guys...may be by being harsh or cold to them. You have not mentioned whether you have any intimate male friends or not. If you do then ask them if they find you approachable or not. And what in you would stop them from asking you to go out with them. Take a self assessment based on the openion of your best friends. Or else get a professional help n go to a psychologist. They can help you big time.
Good luck n take care. By the way you have big beautiful eyes (hope you look like your avatar)
2007-03-28 02:42:02 · answer #3 · answered by Lord Of Lust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be the reason why, or not at all. You should talk to me privately,I went through my own trauma from sexual abuse and I could talk to you.
2007-03-28 02:27:53 · answer #4 · answered by Rhea B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im glad to know you got away and i do think that you probally have gained a fear of men i know i would
2007-03-28 02:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋